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Topic: Turning Men into Babies
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beckylee
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From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 06:29 PM
  
Stupid title I know lol.I just realized, I bring out the whiny,needy part of the men I'm dating and then I fall out of love with them. I wonder what would indicate this astrologically speaking ? Could it be my Cancer ascendant ? At first it's all good, they confide in me while I stroke their heads and kiss their faces and make them feel comfortable next thing I know they have become dependent on me and every time they feel down or tired I have to be there or they sulk. I'm an understanding person and I have empathy but they start thinking that I'm their mother. IP: Logged |
Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 536
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 12, 2014 06:31 PM
Oh God, I'd steer well clear personally. The next thing you know they'll be insisting they wear diapers!Ewwwww! The only time I bring out the baby in guys is if I sing "Little Donkey" to them in bed. Don't ask! IP: Logged |
Odette
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Registered: May 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 06:35 PM
OMG How odd!Something similar happens to me. I may or may not have a Cancer AC. It is likely Gemini though.
But even if it's Gemini - my entire first house is in Cancer (because it would be 29' Gem) quote:
they confide in me while I stroke their heads and kiss their faces and make them feel comfortable
I am not very motherly towards men. I intentionally avoid that.
But I do have Pisces influence so I'm a good listener and I'm nice to people in general (male or female). I'm not sure why I attract men who really *want* me to be motherly towards them.
It's very strange... And they get so offended if I am not.. because I would expect them to be more self-sufficient and grownup. In particular Sagittarius men.
What is it with Sagittarius men wanting to be mothered??
It seriously creeps me out. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 12, 2014 06:38 PM
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Oh God, I'd steer well clear personally.
This is what I do. I run for the hills when I meet one of these.
Creepy! Even creepier coming from a fellow fire sign.  IP: Logged |
Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 536
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 12, 2014 06:49 PM
I mean, it's sometimes nice when a guy reveals their boy-ish side - it shows they trust you enough to let their "guard" down - but I certainly wouldn't want it to be the main characteristic of the relationship.A guy who takes charge, is fearless and protective of you (when necessary) is the kind of person I'm drawn to. It's nice when you bring out that side of each other mutually, I wouldn't say I'm the "little woman" type AT ALL! lol Libra Asc, Virgo sun, Aqua moon and venus/mars in Leo, so I suppose I look for a mixed bag in guys too. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 06:51 PM
I can't stand guys who are to much like that...but then again I have virgo moon so "whiners" need not apply! LolMy only placement of cancer is my MC, so people do come to me with their issues....and I like being there if they make progress but if they just keep being stupid and seem to not even try....they get on my nerves! Maybe that's your issue to, you like being there but really it's not a good thing to base a relationship on.
Youll end up feeling like the parent instead of the partner and that will ruin the sexual feelings for them, power balance is off. Right after I married my ex husband he got the chicken pox...seriously like a week after....it was quite a wake up call to see him in that new light, not pretty!
He whined and literally cried for a week n half straight.
At first I was so sympathetic and I did everything to try to make it better for him. But he milked it for all it was worth, eventually enough is enough!
After over a week of him acting more girly than id ever acted in my life, it became hard to see him as a manly hot guy!
He's a cancer sun, btw!
I didn't cry as much as he did when I was in labor, well one was a natural delivery and I still didn't cry, but I did scream! Omg it hurt! Lol IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted February 12, 2014 07:32 PM
I don't mind actually.Mainly because I don't have a concept of. I WANT A REAL MAAAAAAAN....
maybe because I am male?
so how could I be their mother..
It's not like I feel maternal anyways maybe females do naturally feel maternal and they don't want to blend those feelings with their lovers.. Maternal and have sex etc idk. but yeah I don't mind if guys I like confide me in...
I think again it depends if you're just going to ***** about everything.. that's not confiding that is him having an annoying personality. Some people are just like that with people they are close with.
Women too...
I don't know if that has much to do with astrology or just dynamics of some people in relationships which could be their own charts. I know for a fact that I don't ever do that... I'm rather happy in relationships actually.
I tend to be more sulky when I'm single lol. IP: Logged |
summerlite
Newflake Posts: 0
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted February 12, 2014 08:49 PM
You give off motherly vibes with that cancer asc.IP: Logged |
arcturiann
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From: Titan
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted February 12, 2014 09:32 PM
I'm thinking this has to do with the descendant (and asc), with a capricorn descendant I can imagine that you would be turned off by lovers who are overly emotional and needy. With a capricorn descendant you'd want a partner who is strong, reliable and maybe stoic/capricornian, the opposite of needy or emotional, but perhaps your cancer ascendant attracts people like this, I notice a similar effect with having a capricorn ascendant, I tend to attract men who are these cold status oriented types, because this is what they see in me being a cap asc and thus they are drawn to it, but when it comes to a committed relationship I am totally turned off by capricorn type men, I want a sweet affectionate gooey cancerian partner LOL, someone to nurture and cook for and stuff and who is emotionally responsive. Me being a cold and withdrawn capricorn asc, I don't know what to do with men who are similar in that way, and don't seem to enjoy being with them at all, I need to be affectionate and to receive tenderness, so i'm wondering if being a cancer ascendant if you feel like you need structure and organization, someone dependable rather than a guy who needs mothering.IP: Logged |
mercuryflow
Knowflake Posts: 177
From: ElvenForest
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 12, 2014 09:45 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
OMG How odd!Something similar happens to me. I may or may not have a Cancer AC. It is likely Gemini though.
But even if it's Gemini - my entire first house is in Cancer (because it would be 29' Gem) I am not very motherly towards men. I intentionally avoid that.
But I do have Pisces influence so I'm a good listener and I'm nice to people in general (male or female). I'm not sure why I attract men who really *want* me to be motherly towards them.
It's very strange... And they get so offended if I am not.. because I would expect them to be more self-sufficient and grownup. In particular Sagittarius men.
What is it with Sagittarius men wanting to be mothered??
It seriously creeps me out.
oh my god. generally i love saggis, and my father is one, and he is a great man. but now that you say this, i know a few who are soooo like this. one in particular, gets mothered by a friend, who has a husband and baby. he ends up staying at their house and totally milks the situation. it's kinda ****** because the husband doesn't really mind (sag is totally not a threat) …because he finds his wife really annoying, and when she has the sag there to 'mother', he can have some time to himself, without her nagging, etc. in turn she loves the sag's attention (leo rising) and likes the male flattery, cuz she doesn't get it from her baby's dad! the whole situation makes me wanna barf. i've found a lot of men i've dated, ended up having this inner core, that was so in need of a mother. total babies inside. waaayyyyyy in there though. lost little souls. when i was really young, i was flattered by it, for being 'let in' so far. then wanting to help them. now i know what total shite that is, and i wouldn't be with anyone wasn't man. grown up. able to deal with own shite. the thought of anything otherwise makes me sick, and i'd be running far the other way.
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Venusian Moon
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From: Nyc
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 12, 2014 11:23 PM
I have a cancer rising and i do have a thing where i can open people up. The stroking and everything lol we are alike. But no clinginess on their part. Some men feel stupid after showing some vulnerability.IP: Logged |
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