posted February 17, 2014 04:30 AM            

And not the good "uh oh" thought..and also, how many of those "uh oh's" have proven to be yet another "I knew it when I saw it"?

posted February 17, 2014 06:01 AM            

Usually whenever the outer planets are involved you'll have an "uh-oh" moment sooner or later. Hard aspects in synastry can be really bad at this, but by transit they can create a lot of complex situations as well.

With Pluto it's the stalker/ "psycho" type of uh oh; with Uranus it's the hot&cold, commitment phobic type of uh-oh and with Neptune... you can expect anything, lol. But usually with Neptune there's some type of savior/martyr dynamic going on.

posted February 17, 2014 12:25 PM            

I've never experienced one in synastry.
Idk trines sextile conjunctions can add stability but the squares probably a bit too constricting
I'd imagine there would need to be an aspect from uranus to balance that out.

posted February 17, 2014 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
a 5th or 7th house natal Saturn, a 12th house mercury, or a water sign in mars.

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posted February 17, 2014 01:43 PM            

I found Venus trine Neptune, so I explained to her that was why he was already "deeply in love with the most beautiful girl in this planet", etc etc

As soon as she's about to leave I notice he has Mercury square Neptune, so i'm trying my hardest to call her back and warn her he might be a liar, but she doesn't hear me and leaves. Next day she comes to me and goes like, "He's such a liar *insert long story of a couple of lies here*".

posted February 17, 2014 03:37 PM            

What I'm definitely wary of is planets in mid-Aquarius, only because I'm worried how they'll aspect my chart. Aside from my Vertex/Antivertex, which they can sextile and trine, and Ceres (trine again), I don't have anything that can support their planets. The quincunxes to my Cancer and Virgo are the worst - I feel like there's no common ground for us, as much as I'm attracted to them. Plus, it'll square my Pluto, which has lead to power struggles, manipulation in the past.
So, yeah, not trying to be mean here, it's just got everything to do with the synastry. It's a real shame - I'm sad about it because I hoped we'd get along.

posted February 17, 2014 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:

With Pluto it's the stalker/ "psycho" type of uh oh; with Uranus it's the hot&cold, commitment phobic type of uh-oh and with Neptune... you can expect anything, lol.

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posted February 17, 2014 05:16 PM            

will never risk a venus-neptune synastry again. sooooo disappointing

posted February 17, 2014 06:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Supreme cT:
Whats wrong with water mars lol? I always see people bash those water mars signs

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It's really not fun having a retrograde mars in cancer, a trip to the fridge is too much without breaking down in tears.

posted February 17, 2014 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
It's really not fun having a retrograde mars in cancer, a trip to the fridge is too much without breaking down in tears.

It's opposite Neptune as well. Not fun.

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posted February 17, 2014 07:55 PM            

When I first seen my natal chart, I said it about Mercury in Libra because it wasn't domicile, nor was it the same as my Sun sign, Virgo.

I already disliked this placement before, but then this forum made me really hate it because a lot of people hate on it.

I don't dislike it in other people, just in myself. It's quite a dud when you would like to become a scientist, opposed to having a Virgo Mercury.

I also had another moment with my Leo Ascendant because all that does is make me create a competition out of everything and sub-consciously expect things from people. I also cannot take the arrogance it gives me. I really want to learn if I am not 100 percent sure on something, but my ego gets in the way and insists that I'm always right. Even when in my mind, I know I'm wrong or could be, but my ego juts takes over. (Also when my idealism's from my Libra Mercury could impact this as well - as I do not want them to be destroyed). The best part about the competition thing is that it's not even for fun, but for superiority. I'll be honest, I don't care. Because I feel like this whole world is based off of who is better. Which is true because it's survival of the fittest and natural selection. As long as the world works this way, then I will have to go with it. I wish it wasn't because then I will give it up and be happy all the time.
My Ascendant with the Virgo Sun makes me feel like I have to be the best at everything and better than people. I really do not want to be like this from the bottom of my heart and just enjoy life and accept failure or losses at things, but I just can't. I can't even lose at a video game without slipping into a state of depression for awhile.
I don't ever even brag, I'm quite modest. But when someone challenges me by saying they're better than me at something, then I just go of the roof, lol. As long as people around me established I am the best, then I will not bring up I'm better or anything. I don't even like when my friends boast about me or my skills. I don't want that, just an innate recognition of my superiority. I feel like I HAVE to be the best. It's do or die with me. It is seriously that bad. I don't even think getting help for it will do anything. (A lot of this might have something to do with my Scorpio Mars, though).

I like my Virgo Sun, but just not with this Ascendant. I'd rather have a Virgo Ascendant or other earth sign, I don't care. As long as it's not fire or water.
My chart ruler (Sun) aspects every planet besides Mercury, but it's already in a mercurian sign, lol. So it's obviously very intense for me.

There, I admitted to one of my greatest flaws. Hopefully no one thinks any less of me for it. I just don't know how to control it, as it controls me. I guess I'm not strong-minded enough when it comes to that.

I had an "Uh oh" and then "Oh that's why" moment with Chiron conjunct Venus. I don't really believe in the karmic crap about it, but it does make me feel like I didn't do enough or everything I could do, and that I should do more and more in romance and love. I go overboard and take it too seriously, and that messes things up for me in romance because it's not about that. I think that if I do everything certain ways or as close to perfect as possible, the girl I like will start to like me. But it doesn't work that way.
I feel like I'm not "good" enough.

Another aspect I had a "Well that sucks" was with Mercury square Neptune.
Why would I want my logic/intellect clouded and deluded? I have trouble explaining things because of this. Even though I have a 3rd House Mercury. I understand things quite fast I think, but when it comes to explaining them, I have trouble doing it properly.
This aspect is pretty much self-explanatory. It is just really bad and useless for anything meaningful. Especially for me.

posted February 17, 2014 11:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Abc333:
I go Uh Oh when I see absolutely nothing or hardly anything in water and earth and everything in air.

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Same here!

Not going to be enough depth of character for me. I have a balanced chart so I like to see the same in others if they plan to get close to me.

posted February 19, 2014 04:31 AM            

And what is bad about Venus in the 3rd?

posted February 20, 2014 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Abc333:
I go Uh Oh when I see absolutely nothing or hardly anything in water and earth and everything in air.

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