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Topic: HELP! Ohhh Help My Miserable soul...
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Regulus18
Knowflake Posts: 202
From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 08:41 PM
  
Hey guys...I am 5 months out of a very deep relationship with a guy whom I am crazy about.Our closest Synastry aspects include Moon conjunct Moon (1 deg)
My Pluto conjunct his Venus (1 deg)
My Moon trine his Sun (6 deg)
My Mars Opposite His Venus (4 deg)
Saturn trine his Sun (5 deg)
My venus square his mars (2 deg) Guys... listen. I have been almost 5 months without this man since my Pluto in Scorpio scared him off. I want this relationship back so badly it hurts. Just recently I went to the grocery store and he acknowledged my presence for the first time since October 1 of last year.... So my Pluto has been activated again and now I'm in my cave plotting how best to get him back now that he could possibly be interested again. Guys please help with suggestions and advice. You all have always been great with advice. IP: Logged |
coolingembers
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From: California
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 09:27 PM
This sounds obsessive. You should probably relax and NOT try to get him back, because it sounds very unhealthy...If he ignored your existence for that long, there was a reason behind it. He probably was scared you'd react the way you are currently reacting. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 03, 2014 09:41 PM
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Originally posted by coolingembers:
This sounds obsessive. You should probably relax and NOT try to get him back, because it sounds very unhealthy...If he ignored your existence for that long, there was a reason behind it. He probably was scared you'd react the way you are currently reacting.
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 03, 2014 09:48 PM
Moon conj MoonSoul mate Go for it  ------------------
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Regulus18
Knowflake Posts: 202
From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 10:55 PM
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Originally posted by coolingembers:
This sounds obsessive. You should probably relax and NOT try to get him back, because it sounds very unhealthy...If he ignored your existence for that long, there was a reason behind it. He probably was scared you'd react the way you are currently reacting.
Your theory would fit if he did not reach out to me to initiate contact. So. That said. Goodbye. IP: Logged |
Regulus18
Knowflake Posts: 202
From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 10:57 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Moon conj MoonSoul mate Go for it
Yeah I know, I've heard that before about the Moon-Moon conjunction. I just want to control those jealous and controlling tendencies that pop up in Pluto-Venus relationships. Eh, I guess in time I will learn.. IP: Logged |
Regulus18
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From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:00 PM
oh wait....guys I don't really have a cave, I just thought it would be funny to add in the imagery of Pluto in a figurative cave plotting to take Venus.eh..never mind. lol IP: Logged |
StrandedSaturn
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Death Valley, CA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:04 PM
And I hope you know, Venus shall never acknowledge you in the way you desire. You will be chasing this for the rest of your days around this gentlemen.IP: Logged |
Regulus18
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From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:18 PM
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Originally posted by StrandedSaturn:
And I hope you know, Venus shall never acknowledge you in the way you desire. You will be chasing this for the rest of your days around this gentlemen.
Dear lord! Would you mind not sounding so fatalistic? That is only one aspect of the ones that I listed. Also I'm sure there are other relationships with this aspect that have worked out fine. Also That is not the only aspect between us! Pluto-Venus is not a theme in our composite chart.
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StrandedSaturn
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Death Valley, CA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:35 PM
Go get him then. If you want him. Why can't you have him?IP: Logged |
NeptunianSag
Knowflake Posts: 578
From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:43 PM
I know it's heartbreaking and you want to merge with him, but there's also a reason why you are not naturally merging. Let it go, I know it's not easy because it's tormenting, but it could be irritating for him if your just "popping" up at times just to "check" if he's still interested. He's most likely not. Let things be natural, stop trying to control. It's not easy I know, I've been in this position too.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3864
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted March 03, 2014 11:43 PM
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Originally posted by Regulus18:
Your theory would fit if he did not reach out to me to initiate contact
It still fits. He probably doesn't understand that obsessive feelings can survive that long and thought after enough time that you'd have moved on and maybe he can be polite to you now. Heck, maybe he was just really bored or in a really good mood or other momentary things. Or it could be that after so many months he himself forgot just how obsessive you can be (and may have kicked himself later). As someone who has been in his position more than once I can tell that that not everyone feels as strongly and persistently as you do so you can't assume that he somehow knew your passion would be rekindled and that therefore he secretly wants you or otherwise that "it's meant to be." If you want to believe otherwise then good luck for both of you, maybe it will end where you want it to...but don't be surprised if it instead ends with a restraining order against you. IP: Logged |
StrandedSaturn
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Death Valley, CA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted March 03, 2014 11:52 PM
This pain will transform you. Only from the depths of misery can one understand the heights of bliss.You aren't going to listen to any of us. I know. You will keep after him, think of him right before bed, first thing in the morning. I he thinking of me? Where is he? What is he doing when he's not with me? Your obsession and passion is only something that flatters him. Merely FLATTERS him. There's no getting out of the way of this truck, you have to let it hit you. Die. Be reborn. Remember that anybody who loved you would never put you through this torment. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 04, 2014 12:06 AM
People saying go for it are setting you up to fail.
Let him cool off and come to you..
They always come back if they love you.
I think with that in your head can give you peace of mind.IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted March 04, 2014 12:39 AM
Follow your heart, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t, atleast you won’t have any regrets later.IP: Logged |
coolingembers
Knowflake Posts: 491
From: California
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 04, 2014 12:48 AM
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Originally posted by Regulus18:
Your theory would fit if he did not reach out to me to initiate contact. So. That said. Goodbye.
If he was reaching out you wouldn't be asking for advice on how to plot and "Get him back." He'd be with you. If a guy is interested he is there. Initiating contact briefly and acknowledging you exist is not interest, its being polite.
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Gabby
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posted March 04, 2014 01:40 AM
I don't know why so many ppl are getting strange about this, your behavior is far from obsessive!!
Your just explaining your feelings it's not like you took out a screw driver and carved your feelings in blood on his door step or something!! Jeez...seriously...your just expressing yourself!With those synastry connections it's normal to feel a little obsessed...ANYONE would!!
You have not been stalking him....that's good!! You have had self control!! Lol
Honestly, the best thing to do is lay low and bump into him again if it's possible to do without stalking him...lol!
Take this time to focus on yourself and ask your higher for signs of what direction to go! If he needs to let it go, so do you!
If not....let him initiate contact, make yourself seen, but without letting him know it has anything to do with him!
If you hurt him, he has the right to say he doesn't want to try it again and you need to respect that, you don't want to add karma that you guys have to battle out in a next life. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 04, 2014 01:54 AM
Yeah if you both made a mistake you should reconcile and be really direct..
Otherwise it's really in his court if he left you just because..
I get the feeling you can't move on.
Maybe just send him a letter or something anonymously.. He'll know its you..
Sounds kinda creepy but you can just end it in a way if he moved on.
I don't think its right that you have to put yourself out there if he left you.. especially if you love him.
People say that's good I would be destroyed and I'm one of the most direct people I know.
It's not worth rubbing salt on your wounds.
I think the letter it was rather subtle with out being awkward..
texts are just not as... uh personal maybe lol?
Lol the letter its self was very simple yet spoke volumes and on expensive crisp stationary LOL...
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Hera
Knowflake Posts: 8633
From: Olympus
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 04, 2014 05:23 AM
Yup, let him come to you. No need to look desperate, desperation is repulsive. Act like you're doing your own thing, without him, just fine. Give the impression that you're strong and self-sufficient. That's what I usually do after break-ups, if I still want him back. Works for 75% of the cases, I would say. You could try to make him jealous, I suppose. That's a double-edged sword if you ask me. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil
Knowflake Posts: 192
From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted March 04, 2014 07:42 AM
I say get it out of your system. It's too late to turn back now. *sigh* this is an addiction case. Crack is wack. 
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Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 260
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted March 04, 2014 07:48 AM
If he brings out the jealousness and obsessiveness in you I don't think he's good for you. You shouldn't surround yourself with people who bring out the worst in you! So I agree with coolingembers and hannaramaa. I would stay far, far away if I was you. Find someone who compliments you better. IP: Logged |
JustAmanda1216
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From: Virginia
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted March 04, 2014 12:19 PM
Oh you poor, dear soul Regulus...it's so hard to let go sometimes...it's also difficult to not be obsessive over others, when your world revolved around them. Then suddenly that world is gone and all you have left is a feeling of "OH NO". That said, I would let the situation lay where it is and try as hard as you can to walk away. Eventually time will allow you to feel less in a panic mode and before you know it, you'll be through it. Good luck... IP: Logged |
Regulus18
Knowflake Posts: 202
From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 04, 2014 09:51 PM
I am SO sorry that I gave all of you the impression that I am a raving lunatic who thinks of this person day in and day out. Use of the word "plotting" and "returning to my cave" were only meant to color the situation (I am after all a Gemini Moon) Please understand I am not popping up in the grocery store checking up on him. It's where I shop. I love Whole Foods and will not travel 30 minutes down the road to go to another because of a person. I do not think of him day in and day out. I have not built a shrine for him. What I am asking all of you...is HOW to proceed. It is clear that the storm has passed as we are now able to speak again after 5 months of silence and pretending not to care. Friendship is on the horizon because at the root of everything he is my best friend. Again Please stop focusing on Pluto-Venus. What is the best way to proceed. I only included the aspects to help color the situation for everyone. IP: Logged |
Regulus18
Knowflake Posts: 202
From: Washington, D.C.
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 04, 2014 10:00 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Yup, let him come to you. No need to look desperate, desperation is repulsive. Act like you're doing your own thing, without him, just fine. Give the impression that you're strong and self-sufficient. That's what I usually do after break-ups, if I still want him back. Works for 75% of the cases, I would say. You could try to make him jealous, I suppose. That's a double-edged sword if you ask me.
Ahh Hera...you have seen this relationship build, collapse, and rebirth over the course of the year that I've come here! And we've never even met!  Hope you're well!
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