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PeterPan
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posted March 07, 2014 02:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeterPan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm in college and there is this cute girl one year behind me who ive talked to once or twice on facebook, i noticed she's been looking at me when she thinks i'm not paying attention and she seemed interested when i talked to her on facebook.

She has an aries stellium containing the sun, venus and saturn.

She also has pluto trining all those planets and conjunct the moon in saggitarius.


I'm sort of intrigued and i wonder how i should ask her out, she seems pretty shy tough, probably the saturn-sun aspect aswell as all the pluto idk. any ideas are welcome

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posted March 07, 2014 04:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeterPan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted March 07, 2014 06:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for caramel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PeterPan:

She has an aries stellium containing the sun, venus and saturn.

I have an aries stellium but its all disciplined by a square with Cap Saturn so it makes me pretty shy too. My shyness can also come across as disinterest. Be straight forward and honest in asking her out but please know that she will definitely take her time to feel comfortable enough to open up to you. Do not assume that she is aloof and cold. Its a facade. I have a taurus moon so I am shy by nature and she may be different due to her Sag moon but in general the Cap placement will discipline her Aries placements a lot.

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posted March 07, 2014 07:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeterPan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by caramel:
I have an aries stellium but its all disciplined by a square with Cap Saturn so it makes me pretty shy too. My shyness can also come across as disinterest. Be straight forward and honest in asking her out but please know that she will definitely take her time to feel comfortable enough to open up to you. Do not assume that she is aloof and cold. Its a facade. I have a taurus moon so I am shy by nature and she may be different due to her Sag moon but in general the Cap placement will discipline her Aries placements a lot.


Yeah i guess i should probably talk to her abit first so that it seems more natural lol.

But i think you taking your time, appearing a bit aloof and all that might have allot to do with your Taurus moon, I'm the same way actually and ive got Taurus moon aswell, to make matters worse it's in the 12th house :L

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posted March 07, 2014 07:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusincap89     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No need to talk to her for a bit

just ask her out straight up with and when you do ask her out use the word date

A lotta guys make mistakes when they ask women out, trying to make it more natural but it ends up being counter-effective
For example: Oh, I know you probably get asked out all the time, but I want to take yout out to a dinner
the problem with that example is that you are expressing to her that you are intimidated by her beauty.
She is the shy one, you gotta be the strong one

and for your own good, try your best not to text
If she texts just tell her you want to look at her eyes when you talk to her
You can do it!!! Best of luck

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posted March 07, 2014 08:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeterPan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
No need to talk to her for a bit

just ask her out straight up with and when you do ask her out use the word date

A lotta guys make mistakes when they ask women out, trying to make it more natural but it ends up being counter-effective
For example: Oh, I know you probably get asked out all the time, but I want to take yout out to a dinner
the problem with that example is that you are expressing to her that you are intimidated by her beauty.
She is the shy one, you gotta be the strong one

and for your own good, try your best not to text
If she texts just tell her you want to look at her eyes when you talk to her
You can do it!!! Best of luck


Haha i'm not intimidated at all, i know for a fact that she likes at me from the way she looks at me. But i just don't like rushing these things :P

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posted March 07, 2014 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusincap89     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah I wouldn't count on that
You can't be 100% sure that she likes you just by the way she looks at you
she might just think you are an eye candy nothing more

You can find out if she likes you or not only if you ask her out
if she likes you she will show up on date, show manners and class (For example, she is humored by your jokes, rather than looking at her phone when you are talking to her)

and why do you consider asking a girl out 'rushing'?
It's just a an hour or two dinner
you don't owe her anything after just one date nor does she owe you anything after one date
Just one date shouldn't be considered rushing
If you kiss on the first date, that's what a call rushing

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posted March 07, 2014 08:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusincap89     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also, I must mention the concept known as the 'sunken cost fallacy'

Sunken cost fallacy says that more you invest in something, the harder it becomes for you to give it up

This concept applies to dating also

What's happening here is that you are emotionally invested in her, yet you haven't even had one date with her yet.. and you don't know anything about her boyfriend (See what I did there?)

Ask her out, find out what's going on quicker and if you must, get closer to the right one sooner

When it comes to dating, nothing screws you harder than ego

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posted March 07, 2014 09:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DeepFreeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Now, tbh I've never really struggled with this. It just happens!

But no matter what my advice will always be the same for anyone regardless of anyone's sign.

Be yourself. Don't worry, be relaxed, stay comfortable.
If you're relaxed with her and not obviously anxious,etc. She'll more than likely relax around you too, shy or not.
Edit - I didn't read everything until now. So sounds like you are relaxed. Well, take your time!

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posted March 07, 2014 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CatMote     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
if you know she likes you already, who cares. just ask her out. you dont like rushing things you said? make small talk with her after class or w/e, get her number, text her and show interest.

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posted March 07, 2014 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If i were you I would try to flirt with her a little bit or compliment her appearance. You need to let her know you are attracted to her. Obviously you dont need to come on all hot and heavy but you definitely need to plant the seeds.

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posted March 07, 2014 10:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CatMote:
if you know she likes you already, who cares. just ask her out. you dont like rushing things you said? make small talk with her after class or w/e, get her number, text her and show interest.


Basically. I don't know if this goes for all Aries but when someone's interested I need them to be really obvious about it or I won't think anything of our interactions other than something friendly.

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posted March 07, 2014 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think you should give her space. I don't like people coming on to me on a whim.
If she does like you - she will make it known... as long as you keep hanging out with her and flirting.

I totally agree with Linda Goodman's interpretation:

"Be very careful about moving in on an Aries girl. She wants to be the leader in the love affair. Better be sure you have her heart safely in your pocket before you try to grab her around the waist and kiss her goodnight. Otherwise, she may give you a sharp right hook to the jaw and run like frightened deer.

Don't be misled. The reason for her running isn't maidenly modesty. She's not afraid of your passionate intentions. Those she can handle. Her flight is based on the fear of getting tangled up with a worshiping slave or a love-struck puppy dog, either one of whom would bore her to tears. Be casual, keep her guessing and the chances are she'll chase you into a corner instead"

Also many Aries people are introverts. Don't mistake this for shyness.. It is definitely not a sign of *sexual* shyness. They are from from shy on that level - and she is very fiery (it's not just her Sun sign).

And PS. Do not play games, act disinterested or play hard to get. That's not the point. You can flirt, create as MUCH sexual tension as humanly possible... BUT - don't actually 'hit' on her. Let her hit on you.

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posted March 07, 2014 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hanna - I agree that he should be obvious.. as in - make it obvious that he *wants* her on a physical level (because Aries women love that brand of obvious masculinity... ) but there's a difference between showing *attraction* through body language etc... and actually asking her out.
I mean - what if she is not sure whether she is interested yet?
I think he would be moving too fast.

It depends on the rest of her chart though.
Where is her Mars?

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posted March 07, 2014 10:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
I think you should give her space. I don't like people coming on to me on a whim.
If she does like you - she will make it known... as long as you keep hanging out with her and flirting.

I totally agree with Linda Goodman's interpretation:

"Be very careful about moving in on an Aries girl. She wants to be the leader in the love affair. Better be sure you have her heart safely in your pocket before you try to grab her around the waist and kiss her goodnight. Otherwise, she may give you a sharp right hook to the jaw and run like frightened deer.

Don't be misled. The reason for her running isn't maidenly modesty. She's not afraid of your passionate intentions. Those she can handle. Her flight is based on the fear of getting tangled up with a worshiping slave or a love-struck puppy dog, either one of whom would bore her to tears. Be casual, keep her guessing and the chances are she'll chase you into a corner instead"

Also many Aries people are introverts. Don't mistake this for shyness.. It is definitely not a sign of *sexual* shyness. They are from from shy on that level - and she is very fiery (it's not just her Sun sign).

And PS. Do not play games, act disinterested or play hard to get. That's not the point. You can flirt, create as MUCH sexual tension as humanly possible... BUT - don't actually 'hit' on her. Let her hit on you.


I bow down to you, my leader.

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posted March 07, 2014 10:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
AG -

quote:
You need to let her know you are attracted to her. Obviously you dont need to come on all hot and heavy but you definitely need to plant the seeds

That's exactly what I mean!

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posted March 07, 2014 10:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I bow down to you, my leader.


hahahaha!!!
LOL

Thanks Hanna.

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posted March 08, 2014 02:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusincap89     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hang out and flirt with her instead of dating her, so that way she can weigh her options while keeping you around
Always be yourself and never be responsible for your actions and have absolute zero understanding of why relationships don't work nor the future

Tell her you are attracted to her and don't play games
By don't play games, we mean never use the word no to her and go along with anyway she pleases, regardless of your needs
Because she needs to be reminded that she isn't attracted to 'nice guys'

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