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posted March 14, 2014 04:00 AM            

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How do you apologize to an Aries Moon (while still getting your point across and not letting them walk all over you)? A certain Cancer Sun Aries Moon sent me a verrrry long message basically informing me if I want to be friends with him it will have to be on his terms, followed of course by very contradictory sweet comments... I get the point but yeah I've never known how to respond in the right way I guess...

As a Sag moon we don't hold back emotionally either, but I think it's harder for us to hold grudges. I appreciate that Aries moon is direct, but it throws me off when I can't tell if that means they're going to get over something quickly or hold it against you forever lol.

Any thoughts?

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posted March 14, 2014 04:37 AM            

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I am a cancer with aries moon. Well, on the one hand I appreciate a lot of understanding and sensitivity (cancer) but on the other hand I can't stand if someone beats around the bush (aries).

Putting all together I would advise to be straightforward without being insensitive. For instance: "I am sorry if I hurt you I did not intend that. I just wanted to make my position clear to you...absolutely nothing personal..."

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posted March 14, 2014 05:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Enneline:
I am a cancer with aries moon. Well, on the one hand I appreciate a lot of understanding and sensitivity (cancer) but on the other hand I can't stand if someone beats around the bush (aries).

Putting all together I would advise to be straightforward without being insensitive. For instance: "I am sorry if I hurt you I did not intend that. I just wanted to make my position clear to you...absolutely nothing personal..."

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Thanks for your response, I appreciate the advice. I guess the struggle is I feel like he has things to apologize for too and I still have a ton of hurt feelings but instead of just having an honest conversation he tries to sugarcoat things by pointing what I've done "wrong" and then complimenting me and acting like he's not actually mad and just wants the best for me.

But I'm a Cap sun (exactly opposite his) so it's all just very tragic lol. Sag moon is blunt but Caps don't usually like to be openly vulnerable so when someone really gets to that side of me it's difficult, I definitely can't handle it as well as a Cancer. But it all comes with maturity and I'm learning as you said it's best to be direct without putting on a front of being insensitive....

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posted March 14, 2014 05:14 AM            

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Idk, I forget quickly when it comes to my friends or the ones who I care about. I'll be like meh never mind I'm over it. Often they don't even have to apologize lol

Anyway, I guess just keep it direct n to-the point but take care not to say s.t that can be interpreted as offensive/insensitive.

If you suspect that he's still somewhat annoyed or angry, you may want to keep distance for a little while.

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posted March 14, 2014 05:30 AM            

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Maybe that's the point. If you are not frank with him, he might think that you don't have hurt feelings and so he keeps on thinking that he is the only one with hurt feelings...

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posted March 14, 2014 05:33 AM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
Idk, I forget quickly when it comes to my friends or the ones who I care about. I'll be like meh never mind I'm over it. Often they don't even have to apologize lol

Anyway, I guess just keep it direct n to-the point but take care not to say s.t that can be interpreted as offensive/insensitive.

If you suspect that he's still somewhat annoyed or angry, you may want to keep distance for a little while.

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Thanks, and yeah it's been like a year of distance, if he was still really that mad he wouldn't be talking to me and I know that by now lol. But idk the irony is the things we're both "annoyed" about are basically a huge misunderstanding/disaster caused by neither of us being able to be honest about our feelings for each other... (we both have Sun-Saturn so it's a DW in synastry) He wanted to play the "protector" role and I was all for it but it just created some really weird dynamics... But basically I'm just glad I can maybe get some actual closure and I won't be repeating the same mistakes lol

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posted March 14, 2014 05:35 AM            

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Maybe that's the point. If you are not frank with him, he might think that you don't have hurt feelings and so he keeps on thinking that he is the only one with hurt feelings...

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Ugh yeah but it's so difficult because I feel the same way!! Like he's treating me like a child by saying well this is what you did wrong but you're still a good person... There's nothing vulnerable about that either. But yeah I get what you mean though!

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posted March 14, 2014 05:54 AM            

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I think I understand what you're going through...I used to think that I am extremely vulnerable if I am frank and that I probably end up with a broken heart but in my experience its self-deception based/caused on fear.

Its hard for me to express my thoughts in English since English is not my mother tongue but I try: An open heart is open -> all energies sweep through your heart. If your heart is locked -> the energies are forced to stop and this causes damages.

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posted March 14, 2014 06:09 AM            

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I think I understand what you're going through...I used to think that I am extremely vulnerable if I am frank and that I probably end up with a broken heart but in my experience its self-deception based/caused on fear.

Its hard for me to express my thoughts in English since English is not my mother tongue but I try: An open heart is open -> all energies sweep through your heart. If your heart is locked -> the energies are forced to stop and this causes damages.

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Thank you, and I see what you're saying. Also you speak English very well!

And yeah you Cancers really know how to melt an icy Cap heart lol, truth be told I'll probably never feel the same way about someone as the way I love(d) him but sometimes things just don't work out that way unfortunately... I really just wanted to at least be friends which is why I'm trying to approach this the right way

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posted March 14, 2014 06:35 AM            

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You are able to be frank to me, a stranger from the world wide web. I am pretty sure that you would be able to frank to him as well

Pls. keep in mind that he is a man; that's make him less sensitive than a woman

Beyond that his Aries moon can make him less sensitive since he probably is of hot temper or quite impulsive at least.
His cancer sun provides him with the need to handle everything with sensitivity but his aries moon pushes him at the same time -> causes a bit of a drama

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posted March 14, 2014 07:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Enneline:
You are able to be frank to me, a stranger from the world wide web. I am pretty sure that you would be able to frank to him as well

Pls. keep in mind that he is a man; that's make him less sensitive than a woman

Beyond that his Aries moon can make him less sensitive since he probably is of hot temper or quite impulsive at least.
His cancer sun provides him with the need to handle everything with sensitivity but his aries moon pushes him at the same time -> causes a bit of a drama

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Yes well... You're right, I'll be nothing but honest with him from now on cause what is there to lose really. But honestly he's a Gem venus sextile Moon in 5th (I'm an Aqua venus sextile Moon in 5th) so he can act like I was "all over the place" not really showing loyalty, and vice-versa, but we're both hypocrites for that and I think this is a serious case of karma where we're just verrry similar and at best we can be friends and just move on peacefully lol

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posted March 14, 2014 07:31 AM            

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Aries moon here.
(Aqua sun)

I like frankness. Being around the Bush sets me off (toe tapping, teeth grinding, eye rolling [in my head])
I might scoff or be offended by your frankness at first (or I might appreciate it right off the bat), but usually as quickly as I'm angered/annoyed by it .. given a second to think, im over it and appreciate the honesty.

I can't tell you how to get along with the cancer Sun. I've actually never had a consistent cancer in my life.

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posted March 14, 2014 08:14 AM            

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Be direct back. If they can dish it, they can take it! And I speak as an Aries moon.

I know I have also hurt people by accident with being so forward and I don't mean harm. Bad case of word vomit which thankfully improves with 1) age 2) experience 3) maturity

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