posted March 19, 2014 09:41 PM            

I am truly heartbroken and I perhaps need some advice on how to cope/deal with a person like this. I truly believe this person has fallen for me. We were CLOSE. we never were OFFICIALLY intimate (physically) besides a kissing session at a bar. we were coworkers for two years and saw eachother 3x week. If you ask me, we were secretly infatuated with eachother but played it cool. (we are same sex) this person is cold but when it came to me she was very different. Everything we did had a tinge of "romance" or "flirtation" to it I believe i penatrated this Moon-uranus person's wall. I was told by well known psychics that she likes me more than a friend but feels something is wrong with her for being that way. they also said she is running away from me because of the way she feels about me. But out of nowhere she started drifting away and is so closed....i had to leave my job recently and this person has not made a single EFFORT to see me.
I read an article on moon/uranus people. they're described as the detached lover:

When feeling hurt and rejected they tend to detach and distance themselves.

The Moon-Uranus child’s response to trauma was deciding not to trust in emotional safety ever again. As an adult, this memory is carried into relationships. The Moon-Uranus person feels and acts like a detached outsider, reluctant to form any long-term bonds. They can develop an uncompromising attitude in relationships as a way of protecting themselves, deciding on the level of freedom and commitment without discussing things with their partner.

Their approach to committed relationships varies from restlessness to outright panic. What the Moon-Uranus person fears is being trapped and hurt. Someone with a Moon-Uranus square may be continually attracted to unreliable types. The energy of the square causes open tension which drives them forward to do something now. They can throw themselves into destructive relationships which they know, on some level, will not last. Or they may abruptly end a relationship if their partner (usually without knowing) restricts their freedom in some way. Someone with a Moon-Uranus opposition may dither for years over committing to anyone. The opposition causes a hard-to-define underlying tension. With a conjunction there may be less tension, but the energy of Uranus will still be prominent. They will stubbornly insist that the relationship operate according to their idea of commitment, which will not be typical. It may range from having an open relationship to simply needing more alone time than most people.

Moon-Uranus is not an emotionally stable combination. By itself, the energy of the Moon is constantly changing (reflecting its phases in the sky). Uranus has an erratic energy that can flare up and die quickly. Moon-Uranus people are drawn to whatever is new (Uranus is responsible for love or lust at first sight). But new fades quickly, and as a relationship settles into routine, the Moon-Uranus person finds their interest waning and finally disappearing. Sensations feel dulled, as if they were wrapped in a thin sheet of plastic.

Being involved with a Moon-Uranus person can be bewildering. The relationship starts with a glorious rush. The partner is flattered and overwhelmed by the attentions of this fascinating outsider. Over time, the partner notices how the Moon-Uranus person flatly refuses to do certain things (like making plans more then a few days in advance). The partner wonders how someone so apparently free-spirited can be so rigid at the same time. During conversations, the Moon-Uranus person will suddenly switch off: they’ll continue to talk, but emotionally they’ve left the room. Attempts to build intimacy cause them to distance themselves further.

Many Moon-Uranus types may be perfectly aware of the roots of their behaviour. Uranian detachment brings insight, so they are able to stand back and observe themselves. They may even offer helpful explanations to their partners.
If you’re involved with a Moon-Uranus person, you’re involved with an innovator and rule-breaker. Get ready to toss any stale ideas about relationships out the window.

The key for the Moon-Uranus person is compromise and patience. With compromise, they will find that the freedom they have been guarding so closely is actually more available to them. If they suggest rather than insist, they will find that their partner is usually open to giving them the space they need. With the right partner, they will also find that the switching off of emotions is not a permanent condition. If they wait out the numbness, it often fades and the feelings they had for their partner are still there.

Inside all Moon-Uranus people is a conflict between the need to belong and the desire to break free. Not belonging makes them uneasy, but being part of something makes them uncomfortable. Are they capable of having a long-term, committed relationship? Yes – if they want one. It is entirely possible for them to be part of a relationship where they can be free to feel safe.
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This article describes her perfectly. especially the "Being involved with a Moon-Uranus person can be bewildering. The relationship starts with a glorious rush. The partner is flattered and overwhelmed by the attentions of this fascinating outsider. Over time, the partner notices how the Moon-Uranus person flatly refuses to do certain things (like making plans more then a few days in advance). The partner wonders how someone so apparently free-spirited can be so rigid at the same time.Attempts to build intimacy cause them to distance themselves further."

My question is: if I am soooo easy toward her/grant her emotional freedom and totally understand that this is who she is..why is she choosing to forget about me? I truly believe that I am the best thing for her because of my level of understanding of her moon/uranus ways. Will people like this ever have stability?

can Any moon/uranus people answer me what happens when you think you might be falling for someone? we are same sex by the way. I dont think she is too comfortable with her sexuality just yet but Ive never pushed that. we had a deep connection with lots of understanding/ non verbal communication/ just really telepathic. and she just dropped me like a hot potato. how can you push someone away you had such a great time with??? wouldnt you want to have that person around for the long run? Shes moving away by he way, really far.

posted March 19, 2014 10:23 PM            

What happens when I think I might be falling for someone ? I don’t think, I just let myself fall. Maybe she’s not comfortable with her sexuality yet, give her some time. Hmm I don’t really push away people, I let them leave on their own. Long run? you just gotta enjoy it while it lasts with Moon/Uranus.

posted March 20, 2014 08:58 AM            

Run!!! They won't change and if you need more stability and already feel unhappy that won't change

Don't settle and don't try to "fix" them - just love yourself first and recognize that you need to move forward

Those little red flags are warnings

posted March 20, 2014 10:13 AM            

im a newbie with astrology kinda.

Im sitting here wondering if I should make an effort to go say hi to her at our old job which is walking distance from my house. again, i have to be the one to make an effort? SHould I make effort and show her that thats how its sopposed to be or do i leave her alone? uuugghhh I never know how to ACT with her!!!!! I dont wana scare her away but we are just freinds and i havent sen her in three weeks?

I was the best for her i give her freedom. how could this person ever settle down thens? she also stuck in a "dream world" about her living situation and life. She is abandoning her life where we live, throwing everything she has away, to go move BY HERSELF 1000 miles away. wow.

posted March 20, 2014 11:06 AM            

When I fall I fall hard and fast. I can offer faithfulness though, to me that's enough stability. But no fixed schedule, like "I have to see you twice a week".

Moving is great. The only thing I think about when I move is whether or not I have sufficient financial means. My s.o also has hard moon, venus - uranus. We travel/move together. Reminds me of my parents, they both have mars oppose uranus n dad also has moon square uranus. They move a lot, from one city/country to another. There were times when they didn't get to see each other for a few months, 1 - 2 years due to circumstances.

Anyway it seems that we don't need to be joined at the hips or to have a fixed routine to feel "stable", "intimate" or "loved". It's a delicate dance, you gotta know when to pull closer n when to let loose. Let us do our things n be what we want to be.

I wish you all the best n hope that things work out for you. I think that she's sorting out her thoughts n sexuality so it may take a while.

posted March 20, 2014 03:54 PM            

We, Uranus-Moon people, sometimes just need some (or rather A LOT)of space, to look at someone/something from a distance and it's usually then that we begin to really appreciate closeness. You have to understand that we're continuously living internal emotional contradictions. We get close, we run, yearn for closeness, then return again... Yes, we are unpredictable and sometimes annoyingly aloof. But we carry the ones we love always in our heart, it's just that we put them aside for some little time, the reunions are sweeter because of that. Our behaviour seems rational and cold, but it all happens so quickly, impulsively, I for instance, sometimes can't explain my own "actions". Although I try my best to think things out, to control my behaviour and to behave "properly" or more consistent. Because Uranus is a thinker, even this FATALISTICALLY HORRIBLE aspect (as some of you described it ) has potential to grow in a positive thing, if only you are aware of the harmful consequences your actions bring to the ones close to you.

posted March 20, 2014 03:56 PM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:

it seems that we don't need to be joined at the hips or to have a fixed routine to feel "stable", "intimate" or "loved". It's a delicate dance, you gotta know when to pull closer n when to let loose. Let us do our things n be what we want to be.

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posted March 20, 2014 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by caramel:
I was with a moon opp uranus person. He was the epitome of instability. He had issues pertaining to his parents being absent in his childhood so I understood that and for the longest time I tried to show him consistent love against his inconsistencies. It seemed to be working so I think that will work for you. Show her that you will always be where she left you.

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true. I think it takes an unusual patient person to be with a moon-uranus type. And these people are rare, and they could often find so much better. I think it takes a miracle to be with a moon-uranus person for the rest of the life, but they could happen once in a while, right?

But I doubt it.

posted March 20, 2014 07:30 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
true. I think it takes an unusual patient person to be with a moon-uranus type. And these people are rare, and they could often find so much better. I think it takes a miracle to be with a moon-uranus person for the rest of the life, but they could happen once in a while, right?

But I doubt it.

Moon in pisces 29 degrees square capricorn uranus 1 degree.

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Interesting! I'm a Taurus moon and overly patient.

I stuck by him for many years despite many people telling me to let go. One day I was at the end of my rope and had to sever my ties. Oh well. I just hope I brought some stability to him and showed him that not everyone will leave quickly. I just think its important that people with this placement experience that.

posted March 20, 2014 07:50 PM            

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Originally posted by caramel:
I just hope I brought some stability to him and showed him that not everyone will leave quickly. I just think its important that people with this placement experience that.

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posted March 20, 2014 08:41 PM            

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^ Everyone has a red flag in their chart, no need to apologise .

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posted March 20, 2014 09:54 PM            

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Originally posted by caramel:
I was with a moon opp uranus person. He was the epitome of instability. He had issues pertaining to his parents being absent in his childhood so I understood that and for the longest time I tried to show him consistent love against his inconsistencies. It seemed to be working so I think that will work for you. Show her that you will always be where she left you.

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posted March 20, 2014 10:04 PM            

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Anyhow, don't try to tame us, you have to love some erraticness, and it's almost a must to have some Uranus in you.
But the Moon-Uranus will never be the person that will put up the most work in a relationship, it will always be that other half that will have to make an effort in bringing the stability to the relationship.. Just not in the extreme, or the Moon-Uranus person will run, and won't even look back.

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I feel since she doesnt make ANY effort it makes me feel as if she doesnt care about me. I mean she lives really far but is in town 3x week and will not stop and say hi. SOOO as a result, I will not stop by and say hi to HER and its just a chain reaction of pride and a once so awesome relationship DIES. Should I just make effort to say hi and keep things light? and understand she will NEVER take the initiative?

posted March 20, 2014 10:09 PM            

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You have to look at the whole chart, but especially Saturn. I have Moon square Uranus, and although I act some what like the cookbook definitions, I'm not as unstable, maybe because I have a Earthy Saturn in the 10th house, I take responsibility very seriously. I'm never late or all over the place.

But I don't like people telling me what to do, how to act, what to feel etc. It's very confusing and I do feel like a walking contradiction. I wouldn't have a problem with long term relationships, but I wouldn't want a relationship that is too confining/suspicious-like. If I feel like going out and not telling you where I'm going that's my business, doesn't mean I'm messing around, I could be at the bookstore or something. Anyways, I think this is one of the issues that all Moon/Uranus people have -- they hate constraints, we are like a Pegasus, you can't tame us, but we can fly you to the Moon and show you some cool s**t along the way .

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posted March 20, 2014 10:11 PM            

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True for me.

In my past relationships n friendships some people just tried to psycho-analyse me and I was like "Ehh..."

posted March 20, 2014 10:44 PM            

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moon in 9th Capricorn
Taurus rising
pluto in 7th scorpio
moon conj neptune

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I don't think this is all about Moon/Uranus, we aren't cold-hearted, we are free-spirited. I'm Moon/Uranus and I have no problem saying I love someone and miss them and I have a Gemini Moon.

I think some other aspects in her chart is making her like this. Moon in Capricorn can be a non-feeling type of placement, I'm not saying they don't have feelings, its that they keep them closed off, her Moon in 9th gives a more philosophical intellectual mind, her Saturn is in Aquarius, and Aquarius is another sign that is not about showing emotion. So right now we have TWO signs that have a hard time with feelings and emotions. Taurus Rising, Taurus can be soft and gentle, but they are like the bull, bullish, they will not always tell you how they are feeling, they can be stubborn and willful, strong, but beautiful and quiet.

Just by the few placements you listed, I'm getting these feelings about her: hesitant, fearful of emotions and feelings, confused, over-thinking/rational, security-minded, secretive...

posted March 20, 2014 11:25 PM            

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Just by the few placements you listed, I'm getting these feelings about her: hesitant, fearful of emotions and feelings, confused, over-thinking/rational, security-minded, secretive...

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posted March 20, 2014 11:51 PM            

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In my past relationships n friendships some people just tried to psycho-analyse me and I was like "Ehh..."

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Exactly. It p!$$es me off when people try so hard to figure me out, dissecting me into bits and pieces as if I'm an object.

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how do you moon/uranus people feel about someone telling you "I miss you" in like a light non serious way? or saying things like " i know you're trying to forget about me " is that too much? iidont do feelings very well and neither does she.its driving me nuts that theres no i miss yous or anything since i left. any normal freindship would be like omg i miss you, i know i miss you too what are you doing tomorrow night...

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