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posted March 23, 2014 02:25 AM            

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I've noticed that a few Scorpion males I know seem to be attracted to women who verbally abuse them. My Scorpio relative has been dating a girl who constantly yells at him every time we all hang out together. Oddly enough, this girl has become like a sister to me, and because I get along with her so well I never had the urge to question their relationship.
But now I have a problem, I like a Scorpio guy who seems to like the same type of women. He's so sweet, patient, and humble. I've always hoped that if I wasn't the one for him, it would be someone just as great as he is. However, he's currently seeing a girl that (from what I've seen) verbally abuses, and threatens him. Even his friends try to convince him to leave her. I myself don't get involved because at the end of the day, he's an adult who can be with whoever he wants. It still bugs me though.

I care about these guys, and if just makes a fellow scorpio wonder... Do Scorpio guys generally like abusive women? Why?

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posted March 23, 2014 02:30 AM            

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Where is your Mercury and where are their Mercuries?

Usually fiery men like loud women who get abusive .. So maybe if a Scorpio has Mercury in Sagittarius or Mars in one of the fire signs...

Otherwise no.. It's not really a Scorpio thing.

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posted March 23, 2014 02:36 AM            

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haha, my mom has merc conj mars, oppose uranus n her verbal lashing is vicious. None of her suitors n admirers lasted for long, until Scorpio dad (sun conj merc in scorp) came along. My father sees it as fun, fiery n challenging, but well he's not humble and sweet, and mom doesn't go at him in public.

he has mars squares n opposition, plus their moon conj n suns trine, so I guess he handles her energy well n likes it.

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posted March 23, 2014 02:36 AM            

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@Odette
They both have Scorpio Mercury, (1)Sag Venus (2)Libra Venus, and (1)Libra Mars (2)Cancer Mars.

I have Sag mercury

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posted March 23, 2014 02:42 AM            

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@12muddy
That makes sense, I guess everyone has they're ideas of an exciting relationship

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posted March 23, 2014 02:47 AM            

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The one Scorpio I guy I can think of offhand (don't know anything other than his sun sign) didn't seem to be drawn to that. He was private so I have no idea what he liked alone but I thought he was a sweetheart (not to be confused with spineless), and his girlfriends doted on him.

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posted March 23, 2014 02:53 AM            

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I'm surprised they have Scorpio Mercury :/
I've been friends with and romantically involved with Sco Mercury men - and they really don't like abusive, obnoxious people.
My Mercury is Pisces trine Scorpio and I don't get verbally abusive. When I'm hurt - I become very very quiet.. which always scares them because they know it's serious lolll

I'm not sure why these guys you know are into that. It's not something I noticed with Scorpio.

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posted March 23, 2014 02:54 AM            

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@PixieJane
Interesting, maybe it's a private thing then. Being a Scorpio myself I don't like to argue in public. So maybe they defend themselves behind closed doors.. At least I hope so.

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posted March 23, 2014 03:04 AM            

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Im sun scorpio and mercury sagittarius and i love when a girl gets loud with me or curses at me lmaooo i playfully **** my gf off sometimes just so she can get mad hahaa

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posted March 23, 2014 03:06 AM            

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@Odette
Idk, I'm surprised myself. The only natal aspect they share is Mars sextile Uranus, both tight orbs. Not sure how that would relate to verbal abuse, but still in there charts nevertheless. Not even born in the same yr, there 12 yrs apart. Hopefully it's just a coincidence.

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posted March 23, 2014 03:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
I've noticed that a few Scorpion males I know seem to be attracted to women who verbally abuse them. My Scorpio relative has been dating a girl who constantly yells at him every time we all hang out together. Oddly enough, this girl has become like a sister to me, and because I get along with her so well I never had the urge to question their relationship.
But now I have a problem, I like a Scorpio guy who seems to like the same type of women. He's so sweet, patient, and humble. I've always hoped that if I wasn't the one for him, it would be someone just as great as he is. However, he's currently seeing a girl that (from what I've seen) verbally abuses, and threatens him. Even his friends try to convince him to leave her. I myself don't get involved because at the end of the day, he's an adult who can be with whoever he wants. It still bugs me though.

I care about these guys, and if just makes a fellow scorpio wonder... Do Scorpio guys generally like abusive women? Why?

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It's actually a form of masochism. These men that are being verbally abused could feel excited or aroused by it. Some people find this sort of thing a huge turn on.
It is mystifying to those who do not. They wonder how can anybody stand being talked to like that? It can be confounding and frustrating because you feel like it's your role to step in and be the rescuer and it's extremely confusing when they don't want to be rescued.

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posted March 23, 2014 03:09 AM            

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@Supreme cT
Do you argue back or stay submissive?

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posted March 23, 2014 03:15 AM            

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@StarlightSmileSupreme
That's exactly how I feel I wish I was able to accept the way they feel about these women, but I think on a certain level it's unhealthy. Maybe I need to avoid them.

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posted March 23, 2014 03:47 AM            

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@StarlightSmileSupreme
That's exactly how I feel I wish I was able to accept the way they feel about these women, but I think on a certain level it's unhealthy. Maybe I need to avoid them.

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If you get involved you will just add to the drama and maybe that's part of the attraction? More drama. Some people like to have a lot of drama around them and if more people get involved, they enjoy it even more.
Maybe these men hope other women will get involved then it will lead to more emotion from everyone around them, an invariable whirlwind of feelings all being expressed by everyone who knows them, with them in the eye of it all.

Try not to take them too seriously, Moonfish. If they want to distance themselves from such people, they will. If they won't there isn't much you can do about it.

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posted March 23, 2014 04:00 AM            

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@Supreme cT
Do you argue back or stay submissive?

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I like to argue back lol but i do it for fun i dont let it escalate to an actual personal arguement where feelings get hurt if i sense it getting to that level i stop

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posted March 23, 2014 04:02 AM            

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LOL wait people like being yelled at..?

I'm always like...
Hush now
simmer down
Inside voices PLS

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posted March 23, 2014 04:06 AM            

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@StarlightSmileSupreme
That's true. It's easier said than done but I'll definitely work on it, like you said I have no other choice

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posted March 23, 2014 04:13 AM            

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@Supreme cT
Oh I see, nothing wrong with that ^^ The guys I'm talking about put up with some serious, degrading comments. Not something most ppl would consider playful at all.

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posted March 23, 2014 04:16 AM            

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@Kerosene
Yea, but you're not a Scorpio
They can definitely learn from you though lol

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posted March 23, 2014 08:33 AM            

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Interesting. It's something I see a lot of in Moon/Asc in Scorpio, but not Suns.

They get these volatile women then provoke them into emotional rage. Moon/Venus in Aries is also like this.

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posted March 23, 2014 01:16 PM            

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I have Sado and Pluto/Venus sitting on my AC, and I have noticed that when guys disagree or argue with me, it hurts my feelings and turns me on at the same time. Fortunately I'm experience enough in life of being hurt that abused does not turn me on, but hurting my feelings just a lil ....makes me attracted to someone and mad at them at the same time. Sometimes I just want to get away from them but some guys know how to do it in a way I can tell they don't mean anything by it, they are just being strong and stating their opinion in spite of it disagreeing with me.....those are the ones I want!!
Noticing this about myself is kind of amusing! I don't like "yes men" they do not turn me on, they are boring!
I like the guys that challenge me and not because I like the fight...because it hurts n my feelings and then I want them to make love to me n make me feel better!
Sadly...this is just my reality n I've had to accept it!

What I think sometimes happens is Pluto ppl are so used to ppl being intimated by them, the ones that are not intimidated by Pluto ppl are different, and interesting.
Some Pluto ppl want to control these ppl or challenge them...and if they can't they don't like them.
But the milder or more introverted Plutonian person who isn't all about control they can kind like the ppl who are willing to stand up to them.
I think when this kind of Pluto person is young they might accept abuse because it's still a power struggle that Pluto loves but it's an introverted power struggle, maybe their Pluto/scorpio placements are retrograde? I do think as they get older they will find a more mature understanding and won't accept abuse but will accept, admire, n love ppl who don't show any signs of intimidation or desire to say something just to appease anyone.

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posted March 23, 2014 01:36 PM            

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The ones i know would never tolerate crap like that. Check the synastry.

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