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Topic: How can a scorpio Venus get rid of their jealousy?
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next to neptune
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posted March 27, 2014 02:20 PM
  
When I was little I always got a little jealous on people who got more attention than I did and was prettier etc. Today I don't really get jealous on my friends, except if they got huge attention from the guy I want! But it has always been a little hard for me to get rid of this attention-jealousy… especially in relationship, if the guy gives attention to other girls 
I have always done my best to hide it and only once I showed it to a guy who was actually unfaithful to me many times(so I guess it was with a good reason) The problem is just that I don't even wan't to THINK I'm being jealous, I don't wan't to have those thoughts, I'm afraid that people can sense it even though I would never show it to people… is there any way I can get rid of these emotions? I got my scorpio venus in 5th house, conjunction pluto, trine jupiter, sextile saturn, uranus and neptune, bi-quintile moon.
Venus is also the weakest planet in my whole chart
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fairaqua
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posted March 27, 2014 02:29 PM
Where is your mars?IP: Logged |
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From: Mercury
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posted March 27, 2014 02:32 PM
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Originally posted by fairaqua:
Where is your mars?
my mars is semi-strong
virgo in 4th house, conjunct sun, opposition moon, square uranus IP: Logged |
fairaqua
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posted March 27, 2014 03:05 PM
Im new at this, so just bear with me. If Im wrong hopefully someone else will come along and redirect you It sounds to me like your jealousy is emotionally driven. I dont think this is an upfront venus problem per say..
Emotions is moon (mother) maybe having some problems with Saturn (father, blocking) ... and in the right (wrong) house it could cause problems. Id like to see your chart if youd have time  IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted March 27, 2014 11:27 PM
I have Venus in Taurus and i know what you mean. I try but i cant control it lol!My blood boils and it doesnt help that my moon is in taurus either and they are conjunct! IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted March 27, 2014 11:30 PM
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Originally posted by fairaqua:
Im new at this, so just bear with me. If Im wrong hopefully someone else will come along and redirect you It sounds to me like your jealousy is emotionally driven. I dont think this is an upfront venus problem per say..
Emotions is moon (mother) maybe having some problems with Saturn (father, blocking) ... and in the right (wrong) house it could cause problems. Id like to see your chart if youd have time
One of the traits of venus in scorpio is jealousy. Thats pluto for ya. IP: Logged |
next to neptune
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From: Mercury
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posted March 28, 2014 02:58 AM
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
One of the traits of venus in scorpio is jealousy. Thats pluto for ya.
I know But is there no way you can learn to get rid of those emotions? I didn't knew that taurus venus would be jealous:S I would like to feel so secure with my partner that I didn't mind when he was seeing other girls, I mean, if he loves me the most, what is there to be jealous about… jealousy is just annoying IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted March 28, 2014 03:17 AM
I've never been jealous ever. I'm a Libra and one thing that I've noticed from having many Libran friends and family is that they aren't either. My scorpio venus is in the 1st. What's your sun and moon? Those could be fueling the Scorpio's jealousy whatever they are. I've always just lived my own life and never felt the need to ever envy anyone. Jealousy is such a waste of time and energy. There's a reason for everything. Everything in life has a purpose and a certain lesson, whatever that lesson may be. Jealousy weakens a person, it fogs them from learning that lesson and the purpose. It's an insecurity, so you have to ask yourself what your insecurities are and fix them. Learn to let dumb stuff go. That's how I've lived and I haven't had any problems yet . IP: Logged |
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From: Mercury
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posted March 28, 2014 03:28 AM
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
I've never been jealous ever. I'm a Libra and one thing that I've noticed from having many Libran friends and family is that they aren't either. My scorpio venus is in the 1st. What's your sun and moon? Those could be fueling the Scorpio's jealousy whatever they are. I've always just lived my own life and never felt the need to ever envy anyone. Jealousy is such a waste of time and energy. There's a reason for everything. Everything in life has a purpose and a certain lesson, whatever that lesson may be. Jealousy weakens a person, it fogs them from learning that lesson and the purpose. It's an insecurity, so you have to ask yourself what your insecurities are and fix them. Learn to let dumb stuff go. That's how I've lived and I haven't had any problems yet .
I have virgo sun opposite pisces moon… those aren't really jealous signs? And my partner is a libra too, conjunct his libra venus and he is definitely not jealous at all, which is extremely nice…I just want to be like him, not having to care or be jealous, but I already think his state of mind has affected me a lot, but I would just really want to not even have to think those thoughts cause they are so annoying... IP: Logged |
Heartsong11
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From: RainbowPlace
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posted March 28, 2014 04:05 AM
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
I've never been jealous ever. I'm a Libra and one thing that I've noticed from having many Libran friends and family is that they aren't either.
I was just thinking about this yesterday. I've noticed this too
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fairaqua
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posted March 28, 2014 06:51 AM
I think if you can get to the root of the jealousy you can learn to work through it..
It might not be an overnight fix, but I think it may be something you could work through. IP: Logged |
LucieLemonade
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posted March 28, 2014 07:23 AM
I'm also a Scorpio Venus and I'm not particularly jealous though I have had my moments when I was really young, like really young.... in middle school. I learned that I would become jealous when I was insecure about a relationship/how others felt about me. When I was 13 I had a friend who I wanted to spend more time with but she had other friends she would go out with without me. Then I would feel jealous of her other friends. But I learned to accept that I liked her more than she liked me and I learned to enjoy the time I did have with her instead of being sad/jealous of the time she spent with her other friends. I mean, I also had other friends and would not have liked it if she would get mad at me for going out with them without her. I also figured out that if I felt jealous of a boy I like giving attention to other girls, it meant that boy either wasn't interested in me or he was playing games. Either way, I wasn't having that. There are plenty of other guys out there. No need for me to stick around. It was time for me to find someone who was interested in me. I figured out the more self confident I am the less jealous I am. I also figured out that I wouldn't like it if people tried to control me so I don't try to control them. Build your confidence and self esteem. Trust your instinct. Accept sometimes you like people more than they like you. Appreciate the time you do have with them. Respect yourself enough to not stick around for guys that don't respect you.
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Jo B
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posted March 28, 2014 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
But it has always been a little hard for me to get rid of this attention-jealousy… especially in relationship, if the guy gives attention to other girls
I have always done my best to hide it and only once I showed it to a guy who was actually unfaithful to me many times(so I guess it was with a good reason)
I certainly wouldn't blame yourself for THAT, or think you're being jealous. I think if someone is openly seeking out or giving other women more attention than you in a social or public situation to the point where it feels like they're avoiding you, and DEFINITELY if they are actually cheating on you, you've every right to feel indignant. I cannot stand it when a guy feels the need to be the centre of attention in that way rather than feel comfortable having a one-to-one interaction with you. I've seen it a few times in men - all air signs I might add. The sexiest/coolest guys are the ones who just chill in their own skin (and pay you quality attention as their girlfriend) lol IP: Logged |
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From: Mercury
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posted March 28, 2014 11:42 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
I certainly wouldn't blame yourself for THAT, or think you're being jealous. I think if someone is openly seeking out or giving other women more attention than you in a social or public situation to the point where it feels like they're avoiding you, and DEFINITELY if they are actually cheating on you, you've every right to feel indignant.I cannot stand it when a guy feels the need to be the centre of attention in that way rather than feel comfortable having a one-to-one interaction with you. I've seen it a few times in men - all air signs I might add. The sexiest/coolest guys are the ones who just chill in their own skin (and pay you quality attention as their girlfriend) lol
I wish you were right, but the world isn't like that…I often go to parties or social gatherings where my relationship is being tested regarding that matter, and more often than not my boyfriend is talking to other girls, and I better learn how to handle that…. and also, what about if your girlfriend/boyfriend has some close friends from the opposite sex? That is considered "normal" in the western world. even though I don't really believe in those friendships… IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted March 28, 2014 11:52 AM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
and also, what about if your girlfriend/boyfriend has some close friends from the opposite sex? That is considered "normal" in the western world. even though I don't really believe in those friendships…
Really, why is that?
I think it's nice and healthy to have purely platonic friendships with the other sex. Admittedly I do check guys out on first meeting for their attractiveness/romantic potential (haha) but then after that I treat them just as I would a female friend. Guy friends are fun to be around, plus a lot of them can fix things. hehe IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 1106
From: Mercury
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted March 29, 2014 03:16 PM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
Really, why is that?
I think it's nice and healthy to have purely platonic friendships with the other sex. Admittedly I do check guys out on first meeting for their attractiveness/romantic potential (haha) but then after that I treat them just as I would a female friend. Guy friends are fun to be around, plus a lot of them can fix things. hehe
Yeah maybe…I haven't had guy-friends since I was a teenager…they always tried to have sex with me or kiss me at some point… I don't even think they were in love, but they just though they could have a little benefit from our friendship maybe? I just think it really suck… I don't really trust male-friends after that!
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