posted March 27, 2014 11:24 PM            

I usually remain friends with them.

posted March 28, 2014 12:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:

Maybe the synastry.

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exactly ^

In all my experiences (including with my husband when we began dating the *2nd* time) - there were aspects in common -

Now, for others it could be different (perhaps houses, or dominance/strength or importance in some other body/aspect) - but for me it is often the DW of Saturn to the DSC ruler between us. In each of my relationships where a partner came back, or won't stop trying to come back (my stupid ex is still not getting it), there's this aspect at play. major, and tight, but not always a "harsh" aspect, always a DW for me (or should I say us). Then there is often a DW with Venus or Mars-Saturn aspects, but not always a DW. I'd also suspect they have multiple SN or Karma aspects (if you use those to denote matters of possible "unfinished business" or lessons of life).

She probably has a repeating theme in her relationships like I do with men who have Mars in square with me, or men with either Mars-Saturn/Pluto-Saturn hard aspects by natal & synastry with me...
*at this point I'm certain someone can send me out in a crowd of men (even women) to bring one back at random. I'm certain I'd find that one who has this aspect with me. It is the "it" factor, I think everyone has at least one aspect they will gravitate to over others... be it Venus cnj/opp Moon or Sun-Pluto, or even more specific, like always encountering those with either Aqua rising, Sun tri Moon-Pluto, or Uranus 1st with Sun-Pluto tri Moon... they will have some key energy/energies bound to repeat. lol

certain aspects - the synastry I mean, will make for certain behaviors. Some healthy, some not so much. I'm pretty certain the synastry where Saturn has a greater importance in the aspects of the natal and couple can and usually does lead to either abandonment or attachment issues. Bad timing, or repressed feelings (out of fear, loss of freedom/the foreign feeling of deep emotion/fear of dependency even)... and, in those who have a sensitivity or attraction to those aspects, it would be common to have one or the other partner -later- approach at (probably) a "bad time" hoping to rekindle or recommit. Bad-timing is just one of the lessons with this aspect I think now, after having experienced it enough.

Shoulda', coulda', woulda', but you didn't now you can't. That's what I learned to tell them. *shrug* lol

posted March 28, 2014 07:06 AM            

7th house is partners, 5th house is lovers in romance and flings. Jumping every three houses forward indicates the second partner after the first and then the third from the third will be the next relationship from the second or third from the first. This is because you can take these relationships to be like siblings of each other.

So if the current relationship is 7th, your next future partner will be 9th, the one after that is 11th, if there is any.

To go backwards, if 7th is your current partner, then the 5th is the the previous partner, the 3rd will be two partners before etc.

posted March 29, 2014 11:32 AM            

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Originally posted by hodad:
I see Saturn/Neptune as 'unfinished business' between 2 people that tends to repeat itself.Like they didn't get it right the first time so they keep trying.It could be a past life thing,it could be a this life thing---it just seems to span over many years.They met,they separated,but they keep coming back together to try and get it right.It's kind of a haunting aspect.
There was a great article on it on ThroughNightsFire.com called 'Dangerous Love,Sacred Love'

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