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Topic: Cap Venus + Scorpio Mars Hurt...How to proceed?
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Haplesschild*
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 28, 2014 06:05 PM
  
Dating guy (A) for a month and a bit. Been hanging out every other day and texting and calling for hours daily. He asked 'what page I was on' a week after hanging out, told me he's never texted or called anyone this intensely. Made it clear he wanted to be in a relationship with me.I told him I wanted to keep my options open. So...Atm we are not exclusive. I went on a date yesterday (I've been asked out quite a few times the past 4 weeks and have been declining until now)and told him beforehand. He seemed cool with it. During the date I started feeling really bad. Did not do anything (no physical contact) but have realised I really liked this guy (A) and felt guilty. Went to see him. He was upset. Says he doesn't know how he feels about me now. Was cold and refused a hug/kiss (which was justified I guess). Since we're not together, logically I don't owe him anything but now I realise I don't want to hang out with other guys anymore. I spent the night at his place, he kept his distance. I felt really bad cos I could see he was hurt. What should I do now? Should I give him space? He's a Cap Sun, Leo moon, Sag Mercury (conjunct Uranus), Cap Venus and Scorpio Mars. IP: Logged |
sag_stellium
Knowflake Posts: 408
From: 8th house
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted March 28, 2014 07:52 PM
I'm a cap Venus, mars Scorpio sag mercury. I'll have to come back to this but I will! IP: Logged |
summerlite
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posted March 28, 2014 08:09 PM
You hurt his ego. Just apologise and make up your mind whether to continue as friends or not.------------------
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Odette
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posted March 28, 2014 08:10 PM
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I told him I wanted to keep my options open.
O_O ummm I would never say that to a Leo Moon with Cap Venus and Sco Mars.
I just wouldn't. Even if I did keep my options open - they would never know about it. This was a pretty big mistake.. I'm sorry but I don't think he will get over it. I am just being honest. I've been close to many men with Leo/Scorpio influence.. and I have Cap Moon&Mars myself.
I'm familiar with this "vibe".... I think he is very very upset... I don't think you understand how upset he is. quote:
logically I don't owe him anything
If you enter a relationship with a Capricorn influenced person thinking you don't "owe" them anything.... that's just ... relationship-suicide. If someone said this to me... I would be like "goodbye". I am only interested in people who want to -owe- me something... because I give a lot - and I don't care about people who are unable to give back. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 28, 2014 08:26 PM
I don't want to lie though. Wanting to keep options open n not telling him is dishonest imo. If I'd just told him I wasn't sure it'd be bs. I'm an Aries rising and Virgo Sun-I feel compelled to be straight up. I told him back then I needed to get to know him better, I didn't want to just jump right in. IP: Logged |
Chiemi
Moderator Posts: 2109
From: Michigan
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted March 28, 2014 08:29 PM
I agree with Odette.I'm a female with have a Leo Moon and Scorpio Mars and I'd feel the same way if someone said that to me. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 1715
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posted March 28, 2014 08:43 PM
Does it make any difference if he did end up giving me a couple of hugs this morning and texted to make sure I got home alright? I think he still wants to see me, just has to think right now. I know, I probably shouldn't have gone out on that date. But since he's free to date other people too, I didn't think it was such an issue. =S I only just checked his chart tday. Didn't know he was a Leo moon, Cap Venus or Scorp Mars until just before. Didn't want knowledge of his chart cloud my judgement of him. Sigh ok. I told him I am getting attached to him and he didn't really respond. How should I proceed action wise? IP: Logged |
Venusincap89
Knowflake Posts: 1015
From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 28, 2014 08:55 PM
"logically I don't owe him anything"
I have scopr Mars and Venus cap, and I agree you didn't owe him anythingbut yeah telling him you wanted to keep options was.... BIG BIG mistake (if this happened to me, I would just keep it cordial and not talk, if anything hi and bye at most with a cordial smile)
if anything you coulda just been like..
Let's hang out for a month or two and then let's decide together, because I value your time and I wnat your decisions to help your cause You definitely hurt his ego
but good news is, I am certain that he will come around this because, you hurt his ego, leading him to think about you a lot and be emotionally be invested in you, making remedy to his pain possible from you and only you, and thus hating you and loving you at the same time Bad news is, even if he does over come this and things get going, your statement 'I want to keep my options open' will come back and get in the way of things
hence significantly hurting the long term stability If you want to be with him for a long term, you are gonna have to significantly improve on your negotiating skills, from now on but what are your signs?? IP: Logged |
summerlite
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted March 28, 2014 09:13 PM
Leo moons can be forgiving and since you two went on a date, he hasn't cut you off entirely. You do have to explain that you just needed time to think through which is why you said "keep your options open".And I agree with Venusincap. Those words will come back to haunt you later because Caps don't forget. ------------------
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