posted April 05, 2014 03:31 PM            

Can we just have one cancer appreciation thread.

posted April 05, 2014 04:01 PM            

I mean did have this cancer friend that would have to answer his mum every 5 minutes on his phone.

posted April 05, 2014 05:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Poor cancer...

Can we just have one cancer appreciation thread.

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Yeah I mean despite any hurt feelings I still think they're great overall

posted April 07, 2014 09:16 AM            

He used to be straight by the way (has a kid I believe) but eventually came out as gay. He's Aries sun/moon, don't know his rising sign.

posted April 07, 2014 10:17 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
It's ok they tend to have that effect on people lol. What's his venus sign? Cancer sun Gemini venus is a deadly combo, but I think if he has a more stable venus sign Cancer guys can be huge sweethearts and genuinely caring... Especially if his sun is in your 1st that's a great aspect to have..

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My husband is a Cancer with Venus in Gemini.

posted April 07, 2014 10:21 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Yes but don't do it. DON'T DO IT!!!!!

They will make you fall in love with their dreamy eyes and amazing cooking skills and then just up and disappear... Until they're ready to come back like nothing happened of course lol

Jk for the most part, they are really attractive... Just not very consistent

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posted April 07, 2014 04:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Jo B:
Yes he's very nice.
In that first pic I had to do a double take because I thought he looks like Duncan James from Blue (British boy band from a while ago).

He used to be straight by the way (has a kid I believe) but eventually came out as gay. He's Aries sun/moon, don't know his rising sign

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posted April 07, 2014 04:54 PM            

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Originally posted by moonram:
Lol. Seriously! My husband is extremely inconsistent. His emotions are relatively stable (Moon in Capricorn), but not his behavior. He has Leo Rising, Mars in Leo, and Venus in Gemini. It's a headache. I'm a temperamental Aries with an oversensitive Moon in Pisces. I officially kicked him out for a trial separation on my birthday at the end of March.

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posted April 08, 2014 01:39 PM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
I'm sorry hopefully you guys can work things out. Gemini placements can be fickle, but Cancers usually come back once they've had their time for solitude or whatever it is they do hiding in their "shells" lol. I understand it's difficult though, I think with this guy I sabotaged things by letting the inconsistency get to me and dwelling on fears which then became self-fulfilling prophecies... So I think it's best to just give them their space, but as an Aries I'm sure you would want more clearly defined boundaries which is only fair. 12th house synastry can be difficult too, is his Venus also in your 12th?

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No, his Venus in Gemini falls in my Eleventh House conjunct my Chiron.

I am wishy washy about boundaries. I have a hard time maintaining and enforcing them (Moon and Mercury in Pisces).

posted April 08, 2014 01:40 PM            

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To Love a man
Lisa Citore

If you want to change the world Love a man; really love him
Choose the one whose Soul calls to yours clearly who sees you; who is
brave enough to be afraid
Accept his hand and guide him gently to your hearts blood
Where he... can feel your warmth upon him and rest there
And burn his heavy load in your fires
Look into his eyes look deep within and see what lies dormant or awake
or shy or expectant there
Look into his eyes and see there his fathers and grandfathers and all
the wars and madness their spirits fought in some distant land, some
distant time
Look upon their pains and struggles and torments and guilt; without judgment
And let it all go
Feel into his ancestral burden
And know that what he seeks is safe refuge in you
Let him melt in your steady gaze
And know that you need not mirror that rage
Because you have a womb, a sweet, deep gateway to wash and renew old wounds

If you want to change the world Love a man, really love him
Sit before him, in the full majesty of your woman in the breath of
your vulnerability
In the play of your child innocence in the depths of your death
Flowering invitation, softly yielding, allowing his power as a man
To step forward towards you…and swim in the Earth’s womb, in silent
knowing, together
And when he retreats…because he will…flees in fear to his cave…
Gather your grandmothers around you…envelope in their wisdoms
Hear their gentle shusshhhed whispers,
calm your frightened girls’ heart
Urging you to be still…and wait patiently for his return
Sit and sing by his door, a song of remembrance,
that he may be soothed, once more

If you want to change the world, love a man, really love him
Do not coax out his little boy
With guiles and wiles and seduction and trickery
Only to lure him…to a web of destruction
To a place of chaos and hatred
More terrible than any war fought by his brothers
This is not feminine this is revenge
This is the poison of the twisted lines
Of the abuse of the ages, the rape of our world
And this gives no power to woman it reduces her as she cuts off his balls
And it kills us all
And whether his mother held him or could not
Show him the true mother now
Hold him and guide him in your grace and your depth
Smoldering in the center of the Earth’s core
Do not punish him for his wounds that you think don’t meet your needs
or criteria
Cry for him sweet rivers
Bleed it all back home

If you want to change the world love a man, really love him
Love him enough to be naked and free
Love him enough to open your body and soul to the cycle of birth and of death
And thank him for the opportunity
As you dance together through the raging winds and silent woods
Be brave enough to be fragile and let him drink in the soft, heady
petals of your being
Let him know he can hold you stand up and protect you
Fall back into his arms and trust him to catch you
Even if you’ve been dropped a thousand times before
Teach him how to surrender by surrendering yourself
And merge into the sweet nothing, of this worlds’ heart

If you want to change the world, love a man, really love him
Encourage him, feed him, allow him, hear him, hold him, heal him
And you, in turn, will be nourished and supported and protected
By strong arms and clear thoughts and focused arrows
Because he can, if you let him, be all that you dream

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posted April 08, 2014 01:41 PM            

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If you want to change the world, love a man, really love him.
Find the one whose eyes are like blazing suns,
that make you look away the first time,
that pierce right through you,
blinding you to everything but the moment,
melting you into a puddle of soft pastel light,
even though you cringe at the color, pink.

The one who stops you’re thinking,
who sends your lashes fluttering
and all the blood rushing to your cheeks.
The slow-to-speak-one,
whose smile is like a flute,
who summons honey bee songs,
blossom songs and morning bird songs
with his listening.
The fallen-sky-one with the mark on his back,
where he lost his feathers from flying too close to a star.
The broken one in search of his wings,
who tells you the story of how to make fire.
If you want to change the world, love a man
beyond your fear of being burned.
Beyond unforgiveness and the walls you’ve built
to protect your sovereignity and anonymity.
Love him beyond old wounds and lies
you believed to be truth,
the hole in your heart from an absent father,
the scar on your sacred flower left by thieves.
Beyond past lives and the memory
you keep like a shrine to betrayal
when you fell to your knees in the ashes of your village,
and love became a field of bones.
Lift your darkened face to him who stands before you.
Take his hand and let him raise you to your feet.
Trust him to hold you as you tremble and weep in his arms for all that has been lost and found in this holy instant.
If you want to change the world, love a man
Beyond your faithlessness
and your secret hatred of humanity
Beyond all your judgment and self righteous projection.
The stone on your heart is as ancient
as the thought that you had to deny His existence
to know your power.
You are no less God than you ever were.
Man is no more guilty than Woman is innocent.
Love him for bearing the burden of desire in his sex
so your temple could remain whole unto itself-
for taking on the split aspect of mind
that seemed to abandon the oneness of heaven
so that you might know the joy of Its extension.
Love the ecstatic, primal root
castrated by religion as the root of all evil-
the channel of divine creative impulse-
that sparks the seeds of life, death and birth
from the womb of space and time.
Love the humble guardian and warrior
Man has been to Woman
even as he hunts her,
even in his drive towards self gratification,
which ultimately is the portal to soul union.
Love the violator who holds the mirror
to everything you have disowned within yourself-
so that all your desire, your creative impulse
may be freed
from the chains of separation, lack and guilt
and you can finally trust your Self.
If you want to change the world, love a man
in all his instinctual animal nature,
in all his hunger and devotion to beauty.
Love him beyond your vanity and pridefulness,
your gilded possessiveness and need to special-
beyond your well thought out conditions for safety
and all your concepts of how a man
should be in relationship.
Love him beyond your anger at not getting your way,
beyond your terror of not knowing or being in control.
Love him in his relentless pursuit
to penetrate the deepest sanctuaries within you,
that hold the chaos of your strongest emotions,
your carefully guarded secrets of separation
between light and dark, virgin and ***** ,
man and woman, spirit and form.
Love him for opening the door to sensuality,
to your primordial self that is beyond duality,
for binding you to pleasure
even as the air closes in around you,
even as you writhe with madness,
cursing your incarnation as the enemy-
even as you contract and claw,
crying out in despair, such joy it brings.
Love him for not yielding
to your resistance to surrender-
for standing in his masculine power
even as you threaten to destroy him.
If you want to change the world, love your man
for leaving you to live his purpose,
whether it’s for a day, a week, months or years.
Love him for breaking his own heart over and over-
for holding the tension and balance
of polarity and intimacy,
of distance and closeness.
Love his need for silence and solace-
for keeping some of his mystery to himself-
not that he has anything to hide,
but so you will always have surprises!
Love his evolutionary nature
that seeks new experiences,
that can never be satisfied-
for his boundless curiosity,
that if allowed to be free
might be your own liberation
from complacency.
Love him for shining independently
from the seat of his own majesty-
for not needing, yet choosing you
from a place of knowing his magnificence.
Love him for being your patient direction and destiny-
for returning to you
your own brightness through the dark night-
for helping you to remember
the one and only relationship you’ve ever had
and tried to forget-
for bringing you to that vulnerable, powerless
abiding place of surrender
you’ve been afraid of and waiting for all your life-
where you can finally be consumed by Love-
where you can finally be claimed by God.

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