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zerotwo
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posted April 07, 2014 08:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zerotwo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello everyone I have a situation with a Gemini man that I need insight and advice on.
So I reconnected with my Gemini ex during January of this year and I was the reason why our relationship ended. So I basically sent him a letter about how I want to start over to be just friend to which he agreed on. Several weeks later he starts flirting with me basically admitting he still finds me physically attractive after all these years. Now me still having strong feelings for him I was happy and the Aquarius in me tried to seek the truth. Eventually in March he admits that if we lived closer together( He lives in California and I live in Virginia) that he would date me with no second thoughts because he enjoys my company, he thinks I'm smart, he thinks I'm attractive, he likes me, and just thinks I'm overall awesome. He gives me with compliments whenever he possibly can too. However, he also has feelings for his ex Virgo gf who lives closer to him. Also around that time I told him my true feelings and I told him that I love him pretty much always have. Which was super hard for me because I didn't want to be vulnerable.
Now recently I sent him a photo of my newly pierced nipples and that got him wild, so I asked if I could get something in return because I was feeling frisky and before he sent me a picture, he said "I'm feeling frisky since I got laid for the first time in forever yesterday lol." I called him out and I told him that I'm glad he got laid, but did he really have to tell me that knowing that I have feelings for him. He then quickly said he was sorry that it slipped out. So I asked him what am I too him and he replied that he was confused but I'm a dear friend who he has known for a long time. So then I asked him what exactly is he confused about and this is what he said "Everything so I'm not sure how to answer your question and I'm not quite sure what you want me to say. Everyone wants something from me and I'm just like .///."

This is the first time he has ever done this to me so I'm not completely mad at him but I am confused as to why he would do that then claim that it just slipped out. Especially since we were over Facebook chat! Also I feel like I am always initiating conversations which isn't exactly a problem except for the fact I always feel like I am bothering him. I mean I don't contact him everyday but I just feel like I'm annoying him. He told me it's not me it's just that he is going through somethings and doesn't feel social because he doesn't want rely on others for his own issues.

I'm an Aquarius with Scorpio Moon, Libra Rising, Venus in Capricorn, and Mars in Capricorn.
He is an Gemini with possible Aquarius moon, Venus in Taurus, and Mars in Aries ( I don't don't know birth time so I can't get his full chart).

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Jo B
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posted April 07, 2014 08:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds soooooo similar to a "fling" I had with a Gemini guy (also from California! lol) who did the whole "I'm too busy for a relationship" thing after he'd got what he want from me. lol. He was very flattering and complimentary on the one hand, but I will never forget our final meeting when he pointed out that we weren't connecting on another level. Then he'd later (even a few months later) send me texts or messages out of the blue saying he missed me, "needed" to hear me play (we're both musicians), blah blah. He finally got together with an old school female friend from years back (we're both in our 40s) and I noticed from their joint relationship profile on FB the reason why I was resisting him on a psychological level. He has a big tendency to manipulate and "mould" women into his ideal woman physically, resulting in them making a complete fool of themselves publicly by changing their image to look like virtual prostitutes. I'm so over him now and find it tragi-comic now really.

Sorry, my story probably doesn't help your situation but it really reminded me of the Gemini guy I was involved with.

The bit you said about the you sending pics, him saying he felt frisky because he'd just got laid, and then him backing off when you asked what you were to him, does sound like warning bells to me though.

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zerotwo
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posted April 07, 2014 08:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zerotwo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Jo B:
Sounds soooooo similar to a "fling" I had with a Gemini guy (also from California! lol) who did the whole "I'm too busy for a relationship" thing after he'd got what he want from me. lol. He was very flattering and complimentary on the one hand, but I will never forget our final meeting when he pointed out that we weren't connecting on another level. Then he'd later (even a few months later) send me texts or messages out of the blue saying he missed me, "needed" to hear me play (we're both musicians), blah blah. He finally got together with an old school female friend from years back (we're both in our 40s) and I noticed from their joint relationship profile on FB the reason why I was resisting him on a psychological level. He has a big tendency to manipulate and "mould" women into his ideal woman physically, resulting in them making a complete fool of themselves publicly by changing their image to look like virtual prostitutes. I'm so over him now and find it tragi-comic now really.

Sorry, my story probably doesn't help your situation but it really reminded me of the Gemini guy I was involved with.

The bit you said about the you sending pics, him saying he felt frisky because he'd just got laid, and then him backing off when you asked what you were to him, does sound like warning bells to me though.


Oh it's fine! I like hearing about other people's experiences too.

Yep he does that whole if I don't talk to him for a while thing ( because I don't mind giving him space) ends up texting me saying he misses me.
Speaking of flattery...
One time I was talking about another one of my exes and how he downgraded from me. So he says that any girl that your exes date are immediately an downgrade because you are an amazing girl. He also likes to mention how I'm one of a kind. I'm like are you being serious or a your patronizing me?

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Jo B
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posted April 07, 2014 08:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah, Gem men can say one thing, and think or do something completely different. lol

He'd say I was "cute" (hate being called that because I'm sooo not cute, I'm a 5 foot 10 Amazon for heaven's sake!), "cool", "sexy" and that he "really liked me" but his actions suggested otherwise. I'm sure he had 3 of us on the go at the same time actually. lol

The not knowing where you stood with him was the most annoying thing really. But I concluded that he likes to keep women on a string and just pulls them in when his ego needs boosting. lol. It's nice when you finally suss out their motives.

(I'm not talking about ALL Gemini men btw, I also had a very nice 3 year relationship with one of them who was lovely and not at all like that).

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zerotwo
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posted April 07, 2014 09:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zerotwo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Jo B:
Yeah, Gem men can say one thing, and think or do something completely different. lol

He'd say I was "cute" (hate being called that because I'm sooo not cute, I'm a 5 foot 10 Amazon for heaven's sake!), "cool", "sexy" and that he "really liked me" but his actions suggested otherwise. I'm sure he had 3 of us on the go at the same time actually. lol

The not knowing where you stood with him was the most annoying thing really. But I concluded that he likes to keep women on a string and just pulls them in when his ego needs boosting. lol. It's nice when you finally suss out their motives.

(I'm not talking about ALL Gemini men btw, I also had a very nice 3 year relationship with one of them who was lovely and not at all like that).


Omgosh I'm so glad that you are over him. He sounds so bad.

The thing is I still want to be at least friends with him but right now I'm keeping my distance.

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Odette
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posted April 07, 2014 09:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hmmm If he has a Gemini Mercury (mutable) then it's possible that what he said just slipped out, even over FB chat. I've had that happen & I have a Pisces Merc. I can think and type at the same time, sometimes even faster than I talk, but my Merc is also sq Uranus.
If he has a Taurus Mercury, it was most definitely pre-planned. Fixed Mercuries seldom say things with no forethought.
When you questioned him... His answers are basically saying that he cares about you but he doesn't want to commit. It could be because he doesn't feel 'in love', but more likely it's because he's mutable and he wants to experiment and sleep around (sow his oats) before he gets serious with anyone.

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Jo B
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posted April 07, 2014 09:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by zerotwo:
Omgosh I'm so glad that you are over him. He sounds so bad.

haha, yes he is/was (ahhh it's so good when they're history and you've stopped caring!)

He once rather arrogantly said to me that we would be "friends for life" but I just thought "not from where I'm standing buddy!".

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zerotwo
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posted April 07, 2014 09:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zerotwo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
hmmm If he has a Gemini Mercury (mutable) then it's possible that what he said just slipped out, even over FB chat. I've had that happen & I have a Pisces Merc. I can think and type at the same time, sometimes even faster than I talk, but my Merc is also sq Uranus.
If he has a Taurus Mercury, it was most definitely pre-planned. Fixed Mercuries seldom say things with no forethought.
When you questioned him... His answers are basically saying that he cares about you but he doesn't want to commit. It could be because he doesn't feel 'in love', but more likely it's because he's mutable and he wants to experiment and sleep around (sow his oats) before he gets serious with anyone.

Do you think it's also the whole distance thing? Like sometimes I feel like it's "I would of if I could of" with him. Also Taurus could possibly be in his Mercury according to cafeastrology when I put 12 noon as his birth time. So what do you think now? Could he possibly did that to get a rise out of me in some sort of way?

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charlie
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posted April 07, 2014 09:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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zerotwo
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posted April 07, 2014 09:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zerotwo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Jo B:
haha, yes he is/was (ahhh it's so good when they're history and you've stopped caring!)

He once rather arrogantly said to me that we would be "friends for life" but I just thought "not from where I'm standing buddy!".


I can't believe that after all the stuff he put you through that you two could be "friends for life."

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Jo B
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posted April 07, 2014 10:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by zerotwo:
I can't believe that after all the stuff he put you through that you two could be "friends for life."

Me neither, he was pretty immature actually for someone in their mid-40s. The only way we actually had something nice in common was our music history (both grew up during the punk era in the 70's and liked the same groups). Maybe we can chat occasionally in the future on FB or something but it won't be as strong friends.

I think it was the novelty of having my first West coast romance that sucked me in really. (I'm from UK and spent time in Cali). I wanted it to be all romantic but truthfully I was just a bit naive. lol

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posted April 07, 2014 11:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He sounds like a male w****. I would move on.

Im a gemini and dated a gemini man once. He wasnt like that at all. If anything he was too possesive.

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Jo B
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posted April 07, 2014 12:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
He sounds like a male w****. I would move on.

Was trying to work out whether w**** meant witch, willy or - the more obvious one - *w*nker?

(Where's the halo smilie?)

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posted April 08, 2014 02:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminigal2805     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Jo B:
Was trying to work out whether w**** meant witch, willy or - the more obvious one - *w*nker?

(Where's the halo smilie?)


Jo B I used to read male w**** as male wh**e lol.
To the OP do u really need to be friends with this guy? If I were u I would totally ignore his calls/texts etc. I don't see this going anywhere. U shouldn't waste yr time on this guy.

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posted April 08, 2014 10:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StrandedSaturn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Gemini is the fakest sign after all. Forget Libra.

These guys are only about using women. All with a smile. The women are all about acting happy and dumb all the time while hiding deep, dark secrets.

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Jo B
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posted April 08, 2014 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by geminigal2805:
Jo B I used to read male w**** as male wh**e lol.

Ahhhh, I get it now! lol. Although my brain had to get into gear on that one, for a moment I was thinking... "whale"?? "white"??

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posted April 09, 2014 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Sounds soooooo similar to a "fling" I had with a Gemini guy (also from California! lol) who did the whole "I'm too busy for a relationship" thing after he'd got what he want from me.

Lord, I hope it wasn't jewelry.

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Jo B
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posted April 10, 2014 12:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jo B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Nine:
Lord, I hope it wasn't jewelry.

Lol, nope I kept that well hidden!

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posted April 10, 2014 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello zerotwo! Welcome to LL

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