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Topic: Triple Cancer situation
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Zombieskywalker
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Hobart, IN USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 13, 2014 05:14 PM
  
Hello, whenever I have a question about compatibility this site is where I come to search. Now that I've joined, I'm hoping I can get personal insight instead of looking in from the outside. I apologize ahead of time if this is a long read so please bear with me. I'm a Cancer female. I'm not sure how to insert pictures so here is a link to my chart.
http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?pa=mobile&clang=e&stx2=s%3Douts%3D24&btyp=2gw&rs=4&lang=e&cid=mobile-z1vfileGqWhvA-u1392491563&nhor=1 There are two Cancer guys with whom I am extremely fascinated with. I'll start with the first one. I met him two and a half years ago on Facebook. We had an instant connection, but unfortunately at the time he had a girlfriend yet he still tried to flirt with me (We lived 400 miles away). Him and his gf broke up which then he heavily flirted with me, and I found out via Facebook they had gotten back together and I told him how angry I was that he would lie to me. We lost touch for a bit but we always found out way back into each other's lives. Fast forward two years later, him and his gf are no longer together because she cheated on him ( irony). 6 months after they broke up and about a month after my ex and I broke up, Cancer guy and I started really talking. I was planning on moving to the same state as him (Not because of him, but my family is originally from the state he lives in and my uncle who I am very close to lives there . Also I was unhappy where I lived. He would text me every morning and night, we talked about a future, living together when I moved, etc. Keep in mind although almost three years have passed, we've never met. We Skyped in Jan and saw each other live for the first time and it was amazing. I was smitten. We finally met in person when I moved to live with my uncle a month later and all I can say is Two years died within minutes. He was very aloof, came off as cold, but when it came to being intimate it was a different ball game. Every time we hung out we ended up having sex. Sometimes he wouldn't text me for days and weeks. I ended up moving back to my home town last month (Cancer guy does not know, and still think I'm living with my uncle) I'm moving back with my grandma at the end of the month though. But the last time I saw him, we slept together and he didn't text me for two weeks. Turns out shortly after I saw him he went back to the hospital (He is bipolar and schizophrenic ...I'm bipolar as well but not schizophrenic) Anyway. Now that I'm temporarily not near him and because I'm sick of how he treated me and I gave him the cold shoulder, suddenly he's relentless in trying to get me to hang out with him. He won't leave me alone. I ignore most of his texts and he STILL texts. I'm pretty much stalling because I do really like him but I won't be able to see him for another two weeks and I don't want him to think he can just text me out of the blue like nothing happened, never addressing how he went from hot to cold the moment we met and now back to hot again now that I'm no longer showing interest. This is something I want to discuss with him in person but I'm wondering if it's even worth it. I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I'm not even mad at him, I can't be. There's just something about this kid that pulls my heart strings and I don't want to lose that. Here's the link to his chart.
http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?pa=mobile&clang=e&stx2=s%3Douts%3D24&btyp=2gw&rs=4&lang=e&cid=mobile-z1vfileGqWhvA-u1392491563&nhor=2
Now about the second Cancer guy. This is a quick one because I just met him. I met this Cancer guy on a dating site about three weeks after I moved back to my home state. He took me out to dinner and we talked for hours well after we ate. After he text me and said Thsnk you and that he had a great time. I agreed. The second time we hung out, I met up with him and his friends at a bar. I usually feel very uncomfortable around people I don't know, but I felt like I've known these people forever. I had a blast. And that was also the first time I noticed the overwhelming chemistry I had with this guy. After it was time to go he walked me to my car and we had a long warm hug and it was kind if funny and awkward because I felt like I could almost read his mind and I knew he wanted to kiss me but we were both being awkward kids and stalling the moment by just giggling while still embraced in the hug. Finally he goes to kiss my forehead (Hes like 6' something and I'm 5'2) so I quickly get on my tip toes and we kiss. Not even a minute after I pulled off he text me that I was cute and awesome. Last night he had a small get together at his house with some friends and invited me. Once again I had fun. Everyone eventually left by 2AM and Cancer guy asked if I was staying over. But instead of inviting me to his room he said he has some extra blankets if I wanted to spend the night. So I did on the couch. I won't lie part of me was disappointed because I feel like our chemistry is off the charts and well... You know the rest. But at the same time I feel like this made him a gentleman because he could have easily tried to hook up with me but instead he made sure I was comfortable. This morning I woke him that I was leaving and he walked me to my car, we had that magnetic hug and I left. No kiss because I know I had morning breath lol. It sucks that I'm moving out of state in two weeks because
I am curious where this would lead. I know I just met the guy but there's just something about him.
Why does love have to be so complicated. Here's Cancer guy number two's chart. I didn't get a chance to ask his birth time yet so his birth time. ( rising) is probably not correct but atleast you can see his other planets and how it relates to mine.
http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?pa=mobile&clang=e&stx2=s%3Douts%3D24&btyp=2gw&rs=4&lang=e&cid=mobile-z1vfileGqWhvA-u1392491563&nhor=4 Note that both of their North nodes are in Aquarius which is opposite my Moon. In terms of personality, Cancer guy number two has a more genuine, sincere and gentle personality. Granted I've known him less than a month and I've known Cancer number one going in three years, but Cancer number one seems more manipulative and sneaky. What's crazy is we all have Venus in Gem. Sorry again this was so long! IP: Logged |
Zombieskywalker
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Hobart, IN USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 13, 2014 05:26 PM
Sorry guys! I figured out how to upload charts.Mine
[IMG]http://i1291.photobucket.com/albums/b555/Zombieskywalker17/Mobile%20 Uploads/image_zps617fdc15.jpg[/IMG] CANCER 1
[IMG]http://i1291.photobucket.com/albums/b555/Zombieskywalker17/Mobile%20 Uploads/image_zps3ce6c1d2.jpg[/IMG] Cancer 2
[IMG]http://i1291.photobucket.com/albums/b555/Zombieskywalker17/Mobile%20 Uploads/image_zps8a587a37.jpg[/IMG] IP: Logged |
Zombieskywalker
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Hobart, IN USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 13, 2014 06:35 PM
I hope someone out there can help me with this. :/I do have a slight update though. Cancer 1 has been texting me since yesterday practically begging me to hang out with him. Obviously I cannot do that because I'm 400 miles away atm but he still does not know, so I've been making up excuses that I'm tired or something but he won't stop. He said he doesn't like being by himself. So that makes me feel like he's basically using me as a way to feed HIS happiness and comfort. Like he doesn't want to hang out with me because he enjoys spending time with me, he's lonely and I'm the only would be soul who would buy into it. I'm sure if he had other people to hang out with, I'd be the last thing on his mind. It angers me but still I can't be mad at him. IP: Logged |
sunflower-moon
Knowflake Posts: 182
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Registered: Apr 2012
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posted April 14, 2014 04:41 AM
I'm not going to comment on the synastry because I'm not that great at it, but I will say I had a very similar situation with someone who was born 2 days after your Cancer 1. It was always back and forth and up down, largely due to him. I was just too young/dumb to realize. He could never be alone and always had another girl(s) lined up before a relationship/hookup ended and that seems to be the case with yours as well. My advice would be to only be friends with him, if that's possible. If you think your feelings would get in the way of that then I would tell you to steer clear of him. Change your number, block him from FB, etc. because he won't stop calling. He needs to work on his own issues and figure them out alone before he gets into a relationship, or else any relationship he has, whether that be with you or someone else, won't work.I don't necessarily regret the time I spent on/with my Cancer ex simply for the reason that I learned a lot, but if I somehow could've seen what was really going on I wouldn't have stayed with him. I could've spent that time with someone who actually had their crap together and had a real relationship. Just my two cents. If you're doubting it at all you should know that it's not the best situation for you. You're a Cancer, follow your intuition.  IP: Logged |
sunflower-moon
Knowflake Posts: 182
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Registered: Apr 2012
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posted April 14, 2014 05:07 AM
Just read back what I said and it sounds very negative lol. I may be biased because it took so long for me to truly move on from my situation and to be happy again. My point was that with my Cancer ex it just seemed like he didn't truly care about any girl he was with, he just picked a partner and went with it & it then would slowly disintegrate over time, which obviously stemmed from issues he had. Not saying I didn't have my own, but I feel that that was the main source that caused our relationship to sour. I would just be very cautious if you do try to pursue anything and try to take things slow. Set very clear boundaries and, since you're both Cancer's, one of you is going to have to communicate directly since you're known to be indirect.IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1710
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 14, 2014 05:23 AM
Cancer men will play you until all games have been exhausted from the Game-a-D ick (sorry couldn't help it) tionary. True facts from my experience and although I have the whole bloody existence of stars in the sign Cancer, I will never like them. BlehIP: Logged |
Zombieskywalker
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Hobart, IN USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 14, 2014 07:28 PM
Thank you guys for your reply! I'm most definitely being cautious with Cancer 1. It's weird though because as a Cancer myself, I feel as though he's very manipulative and the fact that he suffers from two mental illnesses just adds on to his naturally crabby and moody ways intensifying it. But at the same time, I don't understand him. He has a Pisces moon and maybe that's why, I don't attract too many Pisces but the ones that I do have been HORRID. An ex friend of mine whom I crushed on was a Virgo with a Pisces moon and he hurt me as well as my Cancer ex who has a Pisces moon. So my opinion on male Pisces or strong Pisces placements are not very high. But this Cancer literally spent all yesterday morning and evening trying to convince me to hang out with him and now he's texting me today. Do I want him to give up? Not really, I feel I need to confront him in person about his behavior and some silly part of me wants to believe SOMETHING good will come out of this, even if it's just a good friendship because honestly I don't think I trust him enough to date him. If three years ago he openly admitted to me he would cheat on me with his Scorpio ex, what makes me different?IP: Logged |
birdy
Knowflake Posts: 1375
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Registered: Dec 2011
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posted April 14, 2014 07:50 PM
What Charlie said.IP: Logged |
Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 462
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 14, 2014 07:59 PM
I didn't look at the charts either. However, just reading your stories about the two different guys, there are definite warning bells in my head about guy No. 1 (the hot and cold treatment, as you say). I had a similar experience with a guy I'd only known via the internet (he was from California, I'm from UK). Our internet "connection" (excuse the pun) went on for months then almost a year later I visited Cali (not for him) but decided to email him and say I was there. At first he was over the moon, was saying things like "I now know why I was feeling happy, because YOU'RE here" (puke), but then when we met (well the second time, not the first time which was ok) he went COMPLETELY aloof and horrible. The second guy sounds really nice however. I like the way he offered you somewhere to sleep at his place without hitting on you. That shows respect, he probably doesn't want to rush things either. I had a similar situation with a boyfriend who I ended up having a 3 year relationship with. Starting off as friends first is always good. Anyway good luck, the second one sounds much more promising, but I guess you haven't really known him that long. Just have fun and what will be will be. IP: Logged | |
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