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Topic: confusing Taurus
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leowoman2
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posted April 17, 2014 04:07 PM
  
I have been dating this taurus man for over 3 months now. He has been very attentive, sweet, romantic, etc. But now it feels to me that something is not ok, because he does not find time to meet me. We only met two times last week and this week only once, that was yesterday. We used to meet at least 3 times a week. He made weekend plans with his son and this does not include me. He assured me that all is ok and he does want to see me more often and he will come to see me on Sunday evening when they are back in town. But now the boy fell ill and he called me to tell me that he does not know, when we can meet again, but he will try to make it happen soon. I asked, can´t the boy´s mother keep him at times and he said yes, she can, but he does not know yet, when this will be. He also added that I can call him any time, when I miss him.
I am very sad about all of this, not seeing him so often anymore and feeling like he is finding reasons for not to meet me, making plans that do not include me and then saying that he is sorry for not being able to meet me. The situation is specially confusing, because last week, when he was at my place, he kissed and hugged me more than usually and it seemed to me that he had missed me and his feelings are becoming more deep. Also, my feelings for him have gotten stronger. I am so confused, I do not understand, why he is behaving like this. Only two weeks ago he was asking me about my summer vacation and we were talking about doing some travelling then. What makes the situation more frustrating, is that he will be leaving town in two weeks because of work and will be away for a month.What do you think, he has lost interest or what is up with him?
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fairaqua
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posted April 17, 2014 05:09 PM
If you want an astrological answer well need more details than "he's a Taurus man"
His ascendant, sun, moon, and venus are all going to come into play.
If you want a basic what I'm reading answer..
It sounds to me like he's got a lot on his mind right now.
A kid, trying to figure out things with the child's mother, starting a new job.
You may just have more time and energy to give to the relationship than he can reciprocate.
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Jo B
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posted April 17, 2014 05:21 PM
Why not just ask him?You can just say something like "is everything ok because we don't seem to be having as much time with eachother as we used to?". That way it won't come across as accusatory or anything. Equally you need to know where you stand. IP: Logged |
IV XXIV
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posted April 17, 2014 05:30 PM
More needs to come into play rather than just his sun sign.. But going off that alone, I think it's fine. As a double Taurus (sun and ascendant) myself, I was able to quickly put myself in his shoes. 1. He has a lot going on, as you can see. No parent is going to neglect their ill child; he's going to spend as much time with his kid as possible to make sure all is well. 2. Not to be too blunt, but you've only been dating for 3 months. I wouldn't exactly want to bring my child around someone I wasn't incredibly serious with, because I wouldn't want to keep bringing my child around new people. It's disrespectful to the child's mother and the child him/herself. I've never met a Taurus, myself included, who wouldn't vocalize what's going on with them once you've asked. We're not the type to shy away from saying we're unhappy or we feel differently for you. We don't like to feel like we're wasting our time. If you've vocalized your concerns, and asked him if you two (as a whole) are okay, and he hasn't brought anything up about it.. I'd guess and say that he isn't lying to you. Give him a little room to breathe. It's stressful to worry about the health of a loved one because often times, there's not much you can do. And who knows if it's fatal? Call him when you miss him, just don't overdo it. Understand that he does have some things to attend to. And relax! I'm sure things are honestly okay, he's probably really worried and stressed and Taurus people aren't keen on expressing that because we equate it to weakness. IP: Logged |
ash20
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posted April 17, 2014 08:29 PM
Most of the taurus people I know put their children before anything or anybody including themselves. You are going to have to show patience if you really want to be with him or move on if you can't handle the fact that his child will always be #1 to him.IP: Logged |
leowoman2
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posted April 18, 2014 02:20 AM
He is Sun Taurus, Moon Capricorn, Mars Leo, Venus Gemini, Mercury Aries, but I am not sure about the Rising sign as I do not know exact time of day when he was born.I am Sun Leo, Moon Sagittarius, Mars Leo, Venus Virgo, Mercury Virgo, Rising sign Virgo. Our sun and moon make us total opposites, I am outgoing, like to take risks and enjoy change and variety, but he is all about stability and security. Common trait is that we are both ambitious and value money. Our Venus signs are also not compatible, my Virgo makes me grounded and very touchy feely in romance, his Gemini makes him express himself more verbally. Only in bed we are very compatible, both have Mars in Leo, one of the most sexual signs in sodiac. I do agree that he has a lot going on right now and I am trying to not be needy and give space. I did tell him that we are not seeing each other much anymore and he reassured me that he does want to see me etc. If he does, then why are we not, why is he not making it happen? I think that if he wants then he would find more time for me. He did say that we can sometimes meet also when he is with his son. But he did not give any date, when this would be. I have met his son only once, it was a month ago and we had a nice walk in the park.
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leowoman2
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posted April 19, 2014 08:59 AM
Please, can anyone help me understand him? I might be over thinking, but I am afraid to loose him. I am naturally not good at relationship stuff and I have only had few short term relationships. I believe this comes from my Leo Sun and Sag Moon that makes me fickle and afraid of commitment, but with this guy I want to make it work. IP: Logged |
geminigal2805
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posted April 19, 2014 09:30 AM
Hi leowoman : )
I'm not gonna give u any astrological advice. I have been around taureans so I think I do know them a bit.now they are kinda slow(no offense to any taurus folks here).Slow to make up their mind, to process things , slow to react, slow to get angry etc. It could also mean they have great inner strengths, stamina. Once they have made up their mind they won't give up easily. They don't like temper tantrums, wild behaviour, too much drama etc from their love interest.
N when they like someone their courtship period is usually a bit long. For a fire sign or an air sign it is frustrating. I mean they take forever to tell u they love u. But hey watch out for all those subtle hints. When a Taurus loves u there will always be love in the air. Maybe they won't tell u but u sure can feel it. Hey he did tell u he will miss u n that u can call him anytime u miss him. Do call him n tell him u miss him. But don't be clingy. Just don't rush it. Fools rush in. He is worth all the wait. Also he is with his sick child. That must get him major brownie points. I def wouldn't wanna be around a man who can't stick around his child esp when not well. I think he sounds like a great guy. All the best.IP: Logged |
Jo B
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From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 19, 2014 10:10 AM
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Originally posted by leowoman2:
Please, can anyone help me understand him? I might be over thinking, but I am afraid to loose him. I am naturally not good at relationship stuff and I have only had few short term relationships. I believe this comes from my Leo Sun and Sag Moon that makes me fickle and afraid of commitment, but with this guy I want to make it work.
Sounds like you're doing most of the "trying" in this relationship. Maybe you should back off, don't contact him AT ALL (especially not to say you miss him), allow him to miss you and let him come to you. In my experience/knowledge the more someone is trying to make something work, the more the other party will resist - it's a classic "convincer/resistor" relationship dynamic. So just let him be for a while. If he's meant for you he'll contact you.
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leowoman2
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posted April 19, 2014 03:31 PM
Actually, I do not feel that I have done much "trying" in this relationship or in any of my previous ones if I compare it to what I have heard from my friends. I am not the "trying" type, as I said in my previous post, I do not like commitments, I like the feeling of being unattached of anything (my Sag Moon is probably the cause of it).
We have been dating now almost 4 months and he has always treated me well, meeting me 2-4 times a week and keeping his promises, bringing me flowers and an expensive gift on Valentines day, etc. He has met my sisters and some of friends. All of them tell me that he is a very nice guy and one even told me that I really should keep him. Well, I am trying it now.  I just wish that I could understand him better, what he wants and what he needs. I did call him today and we had a nice, relaxed chat. In the end he said that it was nice to hear my voice and he is clad that I called. I hardly ever call him, he usually is the one who calls. But I wanted him to know that I miss him without saying it in words.
I do not know why that is so, but this is how it has always been with me, I do not like to call people. So, what do you think, is all ok and I just need some patience? What are the signs that Taurus man is loosing interest?
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