posted April 28, 2014 03:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
Omg PeterPan!!
Please edit your post...that is completely offensive no matter if it's a joke or not!!

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posted April 28, 2014 06:45 PM            

I'm attracted to Aries influenced girls. I like their strength, energy, and open-mindness. Majority of my female friends are of this sign (also Leos and Sags). Last girl was Aries Sun/Venus (Leo Moon, Libra Asc), one before was Pisces Sun (Gem Moon, Aries Venus, Sag Mars, Leo Asc).

posted April 28, 2014 09:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
It happens in both cases where we already know each other and they constantly physically touch me and stuff, or I introduce them to myself or they introduce themselves to me under the social circumstances and they hit on me

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As for this, yes I understand I have seen girls who constantly touching men. I think they are trying to mark off other women with PDA, giving the vibe "he's mine!" as does a vampire? My ex was one of the victim too. But too bad he couldn't resist her. So I don't bother to negotiate.

posted April 28, 2014 10:14 PM            

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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
I like your interpretation on negotiation.

As for this, yes I understand I have seen girls who constantly touching men. I think they are trying to mark off other women with PDA, giving the vibe "he's mine!" as does a vampire? My ex was one of the victim too. But too bad he couldn't resist her. So I don't bother to negotiate.

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posted April 28, 2014 11:02 PM            

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Originally posted by usc277:
the connection...its like there's a hidden treasure and I want that treasure!

the challenge comes in earning their trust..almost an impossible task with females scorps..but 90% of the times they "let me in"

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posted April 29, 2014 12:08 AM            

I have all three of the main attraction points for a man; Venus, Moon and Descendant in all three air signs each, lol (plus an air Mercury). So that explains the attraction to air. But besides all 3 air signs, I'm attracted to Virgo the most. I don't really know why, but I do have my Descendant ruler; Uranus, in the 6th House. I think another reason is because I see it as an ideal, as I'm a Virgo Sun myself.

I'm also attracted to Sagittarius, but specifically their intellect and way of thinking, not necessarily their personality. Same thing with Scorpio. So maybe Scorpio and Sagittarius Mercuries as well.

I also like water Venuses; mostly Scorpio and Pisces Venus.

Out of the modalities, I've noticed that I'm attracted to Mutable Sun signs the most.
It's funny because whenever I like a girl, she will 80% of the time have a mutable Sun sign.

posted April 29, 2014 03:27 AM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
My man has the same sun and moon as you so.... Please go on

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posted April 29, 2014 08:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
Yup in your case I think there was no need for negotiation. I think it's obvious that he was aware of your concerns and if he couldn't do that one simple thing.. it is highly likely that he would contniue his mistakes even after the negotiation. So much more efficient and easier to just leave it than yelling and all that stuff xD

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posted April 29, 2014 08:52 AM            

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Originally posted by usc277:
whats your sun and moon ?

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posted April 29, 2014 10:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:

Scenario: lady and a man has their first argument after they have officialized their relationship
in this scenario, man is angry but is trying to hold it in.
In reaction to man's anger, lady giggles
At this point the man is even more annoyed and asks the lady what's so funny, in a confronting manner
lady responds, "oh it's just that this is our first fight in our relationship" (expressing that this is cute or something)
All of sudden the man is calm and smiles, saying "come here", gives a hug to the lady and says, "how can I stay angry at you".

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Now I know not to negotiate with guys just giggle.

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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:

As for this, yes I understand I have seen girls who constantly touching men. I think they are trying to mark off other women with PDA, giving the vibe "he's mine!" as does a vampire? My ex was one of the victim too. But too bad he couldn't resist her. So I don't bother to negotiate.

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posted April 29, 2014 10:31 AM            

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Originally posted by depth:
Now I know not to negotiate with guys just giggle.

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posted April 29, 2014 10:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
It really depends on the situation but in this case, the girl stroked the man's ego.
It wasn't the giggle that did it, she expressed that she finds the first argument of the relationship cute, and that she appreciates it or that she doesn't mind it (something along that line).
At that point man's ego is stroked because he is thinking to himself, "Of course she digs me" or something along that line.
It was really the tone that she set, that plays a significant role here, because it allows them to negotiate in calm manners.
In contrast, if she just gave the man a silent treatment or went straight into yelling, situation would have gotten worse. Whether the man deserves such ego-stroking, is whole another debate

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I think it just sounds disrespectful. Plus if every argument ends in a giggle, wouldn't you just have to argue about it again? Arguments are inherently attempts at problem-solving. It's not "silly" or "cute" and the choice is not between "giggling" and "yelling". The third and constructive approach should be "discussing". Which is the only approach I would call negotiating.

posted April 29, 2014 10:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
I think it just sounds disrespectful. Plus if every argument ends in a giggle, wouldn't you just have to argue about it again? Arguments are inherently attempts at problem-solving. It's not "silly" or "cute" and the choice is not between "giggling" and "yelling". The third and constructive approach should be "discussing". Which is the only approach I would call negotiating.

Anyway, I'm not a man so what do I know. I just think it sounds like she pulled the wool down over your eyes.

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mmmm I lacked good examples to give, my point is not being delivered clearly here, I apologize.
Um, I am not saying that every argument should end in a giggle, I am just saying it would sometimes help negotiation to be more efficient if both parties went into it a little more calmed down. (And I think this would work with both men and women)
As for the actual negotiation itself, I honestly think it would work well as long as its done calmly. So I think it would be unnecessary to giggle or ego-stroke if the other person wasn't that angry to begin with.
anyways the main point I was trying to make in the example I gave was that certain ladies are able to skillfully calm the man down, rather than going down to the same state the man is in. Once again whether the man deserves such help is whole another debate, and this could work the other way around too. (Men to women)

posted April 29, 2014 10:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
mmmm I lacked good examples to give, my point is not being delivered clearly here, I apologize.
Um, I am not saying that every argument should end in a giggle, I am just saying it would sometimes help negotiation to be more efficient if both parties went into it a little more calmed down. (And I think this would work with both men and women)
As for the actual negotiation itself, I honestly think it would work well as long as its done calmly. So I think it would be unnecessary to giggle or ego-stroke if the other person wasn't that angry to begin with.
anyways the main point I was trying to make in the example I gave was that certain ladies are able to skillfully calm the man down, rather than going down to the same state the man is in. Once again whether the man deserves such help is whole another debate, and this could work the other way around too. (Men to women)

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posted April 29, 2014 11:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
And how is this disrespectful? :'(

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posted April 29, 2014 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Okay, I see. It makes sense if you have problems with anger and a lighter tone can dissipate it a bit. We each each have different needs when it comes to the other person in a relationship I guess, and it's good that you are aware what yours are.

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and I just wanna add that I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, but I did mention that in this case, lady was the one who was showing class by taking the control of the situation, and by not going down to the same state.

posted April 29, 2014 11:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
and I just wanna add that I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, but I did mention that in this case, lady was the one who was showing class by taking the control of the situation, and by not going down to the same state.

and I would like to argue that men's satisfaction in the relationship is determined by how the lady negotiates during or after the disagreement, rather than sexual satisfaction as suggested by popular beliefs (Obviously not for every men, but for most men who are sane)

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posted April 29, 2014 11:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
It depends what the issue of the argument was. If you had brought any issues to her attention I would say it was disrespectful because she found the situation funny instead of taking your anger/issues seriously and addressing the situation. If she instead giggled, it sounds like she was addressing the anger and not the reason behind it. If she brought up the argument (or if the argument itself was very childish from both of you) it would instead be a self-acknowledgment of pettiness/childishness in the situation.

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Very true.
Once again the story I gave lacked clarity, sorry xD
The example I gave was before the issues were addressed and it was the build up to the negotiation process
and yesss the good intention behind certain actions are not always perceived correctly by certain individuals.
I am well aware of how difficult the whole process is in reality though. I've seen few married couples who pay serious amount of money to go to relationship therapy sessions, just to be able to not speak when they are angry, and discuss their issues calmly.

posted April 29, 2014 11:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
and I just wanna add that I wasn't trying to be disrespectful

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posted April 29, 2014 11:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
Very true.
Once again the story I gave lacked clarity, sorry xD
The example I gave was before the issues were addressed and it was the build up to the negotiation process
and yesss the good intention behind certain actions are not always perceived correctly by certain individuals.
I am well aware of how difficult the whole process is in reality though. I've seen few married couples who pay serious amount of money to go to relationship therapy sessions, just to be able to not speak when they are angry, and discuss their issues calmly.

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posted April 29, 2014 11:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
I didn't mean that you were disrespectful btw? I said that giggling sounded disrespectful, depending on the circumstances. Anyway you would have to be the judge of that, and also not everyone has a leo ASC and need to be taken seriously. Though I, too, have venus in cappy :-)

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posted April 29, 2014 11:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
What signs do you have Sibyl? other than Venus in Capricorn? (Capricorn Cyber Five*)
and you mentioned different needs that people might have
what would be yours?

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Aqua sun, Leo ASC, Cancer Moon. 6 planets in Capricorn (including venus) :-) What are yours?