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posted May 18, 2014 02:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The chart of a person who is really bad at contacting friends, inviting friends home and is just in general really bad at making new friends and keeping the old ones??

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posted May 18, 2014 03:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Aspects/placement of a person who really suck at maintaining friendships?

Aries everywhere! lol

Other than the part about new friends.. because Aries-types like making new friends, but always forget to keep in touch with old ones. I always do this.

Maybe Gemini as well.. Aries & Gem are both likely to move on to new things.. rather than cling to the old.

But if you are wondering about a person who actually feels *bad* about their inability to maintain friendships ... then... hmmmm Maybe Pisces? Pisces is mutable and they can have such a large circle of friends, in so many different parts of the world - that they accidentally forget to keep in touch - and later regret it.

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posted May 18, 2014 03:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also.. I know you didn't ask but it's worth mentioning... I think Aquarius-influenced people are the best at maintaining friendships. I am so impressed by their ability to multi-task and keep in touch with everyone.
I could never do this. It would just drain me.

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posted May 18, 2014 03:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh wait.. There's something else.. In my chart I have NN in the 11th house.. The NN is supposed to represent things you learn in this life, but you are not naturally very good at. As much as I like meeting new people, I just don't usually put in the effort to maintain a friendship.. but lately I've tried to do this more often.

So I think people with their NN in the 11th or in Aquarius.. could also fit this pattern.

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posted May 18, 2014 03:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Meh. I make new friends easy enough but I don't maintain those friendships well. Cap n uranus-sun/moon/venus/asc.

Idk, in my pov it can be so simple. Just hanging out/talking every once in a while is enough. Sometimes I call them. I'm easy going with my friends too. There are always enough space in my life for them - they can come n go whenever they want. But yeah most people I know would want to be bffs, want to spend a lot of time together. I can't do that.

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posted May 18, 2014 03:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
Aries everywhere! lol

Other than the part about new friends.. because Aries-types like making new friends, but always forget to keep in touch with old ones. I always do this.

Maybe Gemini as well.. Aries & Gem are both likely to move on to new things.. rather than cling to the old.

But if you are wondering about a person who actually feels *bad* about their inability to maintain friendships ... then... hmmmm Maybe Pisces? Pisces is mutable and they can have such a large circle of friends, in so many different parts of the world - that they accidentally forget to keep in touch - and later regret it.


I feel like I'm always too busy and I'm a virgo sun with pisces moon … have a couple of friends who live in a different part of my country, but it's not even that far away…feel very guilty of not visiting them

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posted May 18, 2014 09:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sag_stellium     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Weirdly enough, I have a libra friend who fits the bill. About a month or two ago, I mentally demoted her from best female friend to just another friend/acquaintance. She doesn't need to know about the change. For that, she would have to be a good enough friend to contact me instead of waiting for me to contact her.

She's bad at keeping in touch with everyone aside from her exbf. I wanted to be a support to her through her breakup (her sun conjunct my moon). But I can't support someone who just totally sucks at keeping in touch. That's too one way. It's not fair (conjunction in fairness minded libra sign lol). It also tells you where you fall on their list of priorities: low.

She's a public performer. She is great at keeping up with her fans. Just not with her own friends. It's weird.

So I, almost immediately, acquired new friends and upgraded my other current friendships. Making friends and maintaining friendships is not that hard. People are everywhere.

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posted May 18, 2014 09:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sag_stellium:
Weirdly enough, I have a libra friend who fits the bill. About a month or two ago, I mentally demoted her from best female friend to just another friend/acquaintance. She doesn't need to know about the change. For that, she would have to be a good enough friend to contact me instead of waiting for me to contact her.

She's bad at keeping in touch with everyone aside from her exbf. I wanted to be a support to her through her breakup (her sun conjunct my moon). But I can't support someone who just totally sucks at keeping in touch. That's too one way. It's not fair (conjunction in fairness minded libra sign lol). It also tells you where you fall on their list of priorities: low.

She's a public performer. She is great at keeping up with her fans. Just not with her own friends. It's weird.

So I, almost immediately, acquired new friend and upgraded my other current friendships. Making friends and maintaining friendships is not that hard. People are everywhere.


hmm I can find it difficult to contact people, especially if they one time have cancelled a deal, then I find it hard to contact them again...then I feel like they don't wan't me as a friend....my 11th house is aries, and my mars is in virgo 4th house square uranus, opposite moon and conjunct sun, is that why I always feel like this?

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posted May 18, 2014 09:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sag_stellium     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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hmm I can find it difficult to contact people, especially if they one time have cancelled a deal, then I find it hard to contact them again...then I feel like they don't wan't me as a friend....my 11th house is aries, and my mars is in virgo 4th house square uranus, opposite moon and conjunct sun, is that why I always feel like this?

Does your heart interpret it as disinterest and lack of worth? If someone canceled something important or last minute for a frivolous reason, then perceived disinterest is an appropriate reaction. If you feel like that for any situation, then you will probably work on it during a future transit one day

NTN, you're pretty active on here. Do you feel like this is different from normal life? In threads, we sometimes forget to respond to people who ask questions directed at a specific user. Do you feel safer being rejected on the Internet that IRL? I'm curious.

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posted May 18, 2014 10:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sag_stellium:
Does your heart interpret it as disinterest and lack of worth? If someone canceled something important or last minute for a frivolous reason, then perceived disinterest is an appropriate reaction. If you feel like that for any situation, then you will probably work on it during a future transit one day

NTN, you're pretty active on here. Do you feel like this is different from normal life? In threads, we sometimes forget to respond to people who ask questions directed at a specific user. Do you feel safer being rejected on the Internet that IRL? I'm curious.


lol, yes I know I'm pretty active at the moment... but it will change in a couple of weeks, it's just because I'm taking my examns... I'm not especially active anywhere else on the internet though, and I'm never really chatting so much with strangers, I think I'm as afraid of getting rejected in here as anywhere else

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posted May 18, 2014 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for earthypisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's me...

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posted May 18, 2014 10:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariestaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me!

Sun conjunct Uranus in Sag in the 12th house ('leave me alone')

Saturn in the 11th house- enough said

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posted May 18, 2014 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for DeepFreeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saturn in 11th...?

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posted May 18, 2014 12:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Uranus in the 11th house possibly.

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posted May 18, 2014 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IV XXIV     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mercury/Venus in Aries in 12th
12th house ruler Aries
Gemini moon in 1st house
Aries stellium in 12th house
Saturn in Aquarius in 11th

Well I never invite my friends over.. I just never liked doing that. I would prefer to be over someone else's house. Only my closest friends have their own keys to my apartment, which is shared with another one of my best friends. Anyone else, I'm never too keen on inviting them over, but if anyone absolutely needs somewhere to go, my home will always be open for as long as they need. It's weird. Lol.

As far as maintaining friendships.. I am pretty horrible at it. I have 4 best friends that I'm really hot and cold with, but they understand and 'get me' so they've gotten used to it and know I'll always come back around. I like to consider it as me going out to experience the world, and them understandably giving me the complete freedom to do so. With that trust and respect for my personal growth, I will always return happily to them. With other people, especially those I don't feel an attachment to, I couldn't care less. I don't reach out at all, I'll answer if you contact me but the conversation will usually die after a few minutes. I just feel like it's annoying to have to speak to people I'm not close to. I feel like it's a burden lol.

As a previous poster said as well, I do get bored pretty quickly and want to move onto newer things and people. I'm mature enough to understand that the friends I have are heaven sent, so I do not kick them to the side or "retrieve them" when they're needed.. But I do sometimes feel the need to make new friends for a new, refreshing experience. Quality over quantity, though. That's always been my motto.


Edit: Something that may also contribute to this would be that most, if not all, of my friendships usually end because we've grown apart. Eventually, we stop putting in effort, and go our separate ways. If we see each other on the street, we'll say hello and catch up a little. And we're still there for each other throughout life's hard battles, but we're nowhere near as close as we once were. All of my friendships just "run their courses" after a few years.

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posted May 18, 2014 02:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for page one     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe IV's right. As a 12th houser I find I have a strong pull to occasionally just remove myself from the world, including friends and family. It's nothing personal.

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posted May 18, 2014 08:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cap/aqua influences. I have seen Libra influences too.

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posted May 18, 2014 08:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Maybe IV's right. As a 12th houser I find I have a strong pull to occasionally just remove myself from the world, including friends and family. It's nothing personal.

I have sun, north node, and part of fortune in my 12th house and i dont do that.

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posted May 18, 2014 08:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DeepFreeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Maybe IV's right. As a 12th houser I find I have a strong pull to occasionally just remove myself from the world, including friends and family. It's nothing personal.

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posted May 18, 2014 08:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great analysis Odette!

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posted May 18, 2014 10:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for iliketurtles     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i have sun sqaure uranus, with uranus in the 11th. i thought that it being in its own house it would be good. i make new friends really easy however i am crap at maintaining any friendship so friends are usually in and out of my life. i dont want anything too routine or even normal i suppose

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posted May 18, 2014 10:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Saturn in 11th...?

I was best friends with two different girls; one for about 9 years and the other for about 12 years and I still keep in touch with my childhood friends.

I have saturn in the 11th and pluto in the 11th but I also have jupiter and uranus in the 12th with moon in the 4th so I like been at home to recharge and I like spending a lot of time on my own to ponder/reflect, recharge and dream with SO as the 7th is a point of release for my tsquare. When I am not in a relationship I hang out regularly with a friend who I feel close to, I tend to focus all my energy on one relationship or friendship mostly. I dont like shallow friendships.

Between work, marriage (my BF now) and needing a lot of alone time I dont hang out with friends often but I do check up on friends every so often..but only the friends who have passed the test of time...

My pluto in the 11th has had the need to end long term friendships but my saturn in the 11th has the need to keep in touch with the ones that have proven themselves..however my jupiter/uranus in the 12th do make me disappear into my cave or my adventures and so I dont hang out regularly with the friends I have chosen to keep but I do care for them.

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posted May 19, 2014 01:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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The chart of a person who is really bad at contacting friends, inviting friends home and is just in general really bad at making new friends and keeping the old ones??

VENUS SQUARE SATURN!!!!

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posted May 19, 2014 02:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for manderin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ketu in the 11th definitely.

These people make friends easily and can be quite popular on a superficial level BUT They have a hard time maintaining any real friendships long-term.

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