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Topic: How bad an idea is it to write an old flirt under mercury retrograde?
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next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 1653
From: The Moon
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 12, 2014 04:41 PM
  
This sag guy with scorp venus(like myself) wrote to me just before mercury retrograde, and then again afterwards. I bet he is very annoyed that I don't answer him.
I can't decide what to do, I feel like an idiot for ignoring him, but I have a boyfriend now who I love a LOT. Still, I'm kind of curious :S IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted June 12, 2014 04:44 PM
Don't do it! IP: Logged |
next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 1653
From: The Moon
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 12, 2014 05:40 PM
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
Don't do it!
but why? maybe he needs to learn a lesson? IP: Logged |
Melodie
Knowflake Posts: 83
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted June 12, 2014 05:50 PM
Outside of astrology, I don't think it's a good idea to be in contact with someone you used to flirt with. Put yourself in your boyfriend's place.IP: Logged |
charlie
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From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 12, 2014 05:54 PM
Do as you wish because otherwise you'll always wonder. Gotta live and learn on our own is my motto. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 1828
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted June 12, 2014 05:58 PM
Actually, I would flat out tell him that you have a boyfriend and do not think you should talk. Given the history. Although we don't know exactly what it was.Out of respect for your boyfriend and your relationship.
From the "flirts" point of view.... Ignoring is an irritating slap in the face. (vs honesty)
And from the boyfriends point of view, if he were to know about it, you're leaving the door open for some purpose. (vs honesty). Which looks to me liked what exactly is going on. Sorry if I come across rude. I don't mean to. That's astrology aside...
My experience with sag's...
They can be quite the player. I've seen it. IP: Logged |
babybull82
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 13, 2014 01:57 PM
I'm gonna have to go with yes, but only under the condition that you tell your bf and then you are honest with the Sag and tell him that you are in a relationship. Now, unless this is someone you want to have a friendship with I'd leave it at that. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
Knowflake Posts: 545
From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted June 13, 2014 03:50 PM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
This sag guy with scorp venus(like myself) wrote to me just before mercury retrograde, and then again afterwards. I bet he is very annoyed that I don't answer him.
I can't decide what to do, I feel like an idiot for ignoring him, but I have a boyfriend now who I love a LOT. Still, I'm kind of curious :S
Maybe you don't love your boyfriend as deeply as you believe you do? Maybe you just feel a strong sense of obligation? That is why this Sag guy is so appealing? I live by the following mantra when it comes to relationships:Don't do anything to cause you to break up with someone that you are not yet ready to let go of.
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Gabby
Moderator Posts: 3882
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 13, 2014 04:52 PM
Are you feeling bored in your relationship? Why not try to ask your boyfriend to do something special n different with you? I'm a saggy and I know at times wanderlust takes hold n as innocent as you think it is, it isn't innocent at all to the person you love n he loves you.
Im sure you would be hurt if you found out he was contacting another girl just to finish up old business... esp when it involves flirting.There's no justified reason or need to do that when your in love.
Once you go there you can't reverse it. The grass is rarely greener on the other side and if you ruin your relationship just to find that out....the grass won't be green anywhere! IP: Logged |
Supreme cT
Knowflake Posts: 351
From: NJ
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 13, 2014 08:13 PM
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Originally posted by Gabby:
Are you feeling bored in your relationship? Why not try to ask your boyfriend to do something special n different with you? I'm a saggy and I know at times wanderlust takes hold n as innocent as you think it is, it isn't innocent at all to the person you love n he loves you.
Im sure you would be hurt if you found out he was contacting another girl just to finish up old business... esp when it involves flirting.There's no justified reason or need to do that when your in love.
Once you go there you can't reverse it. The grass is rarely greener on the other side and if you ruin your relationship just to find that out....the grass won't be green anywhere!
You worded that PERFECTLY i ruined a 3 year relationship because i started to get bored and i "Thought" the grass was greener on the other side but honestly its not! OP Stop talking to that person karma will come back and cut you up just like it did me lol IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 4365
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted June 13, 2014 08:22 PM
Nah don't do it, mercury retrograde has a tendacity to bring back communication opportunities with past loves, exes, old flirting outlets.IP: Logged |
next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 1653
From: The Moon
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 15, 2014 09:55 AM
I contacted him, just to see what he wanted and just so I wouldn't feel bad about ignoring him. I seriously only contacted him, because otherwise I would be wondering about what he wanted… and ofc, the only thing he wanted was to flirt with me again. So now I ignored him, because ofc I don't want to flirt with another guy:S
I love my boyfriend, and it has nothing to do with being bored…it's just because I'm a curious person, that doesn't want to be mean towards anyone.. IP: Logged |
pinkgh0st
Knowflake Posts: 50
From: california
Registered: Oct 2011
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posted June 16, 2014 12:44 PM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
but why? maybe he needs to learn a lesson?
You don't need to be the one to teach him. Let him learn on his own. IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 3121
From: AC conjunct Jupiter-Uranus
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted June 16, 2014 01:02 PM
quote:
Originally posted by next to neptune:
I contacted him, just to see what he wanted and just so I wouldn't feel bad about ignoring him. I seriously only contacted him, because otherwise I would be wondering about what he wanted… and ofc, the only thing he wanted was to flirt with me again. So now I ignored him, because ofc I don't want to flirt with another guy:S
I love my boyfriend, and it has nothing to do with being bored…it's just because I'm a curious person, that doesn't want to be mean towards anyone..
I dont ignore exes, I think that is rude and of poor taste personally. I dont do unto others what I dont want to be done to me. If we had something special at some point out of the respect for what I felt for you I would reply. I dont belief in been enemies bc we did not work out. I would keep it light and avoid person to person contact and would let them know I am in a relationship but I am not above letting them know I care; we all have multiple soulmates in our life and you can find a way to honor the one you are with at the moment without insulting the memories of the one you were with in the past. After all if you belief in past lives you will reunite with all your soulmates so I like to be in good terms with people I cared for deeply if possible. IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 3121
From: AC conjunct Jupiter-Uranus
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted June 16, 2014 01:13 PM
I have personally tried to help my own husband look for a girl from his past he had romantic feelings for online (I spent over an hour looking for her and this was this year), she is someone from his childhood he spoke to me about on our first date and I suspect maybe is his TF or a meaningful soulmate. I just recently saw him looking at his ex profile on facebook; he was sharing that with me and he was just checking up on her seeing how she is doing. I would never tell him that he cannot say hi to his ex. Its human to occasionally wonder how people you care about from your past are doing..He didnt' say hi to her but she wrote to him years ago and I did not panic...I get it. But people are so selfish and insecure and we think we own others and that they belong only to us....but we all have a past and we all have multiple soulmates. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
Knowflake Posts: 457
From:
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted June 17, 2014 08:26 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I have personally tried to help my own husband look for a girl from his past he had romantic feelings for online (I spent over an hour looking for her and this was this year), she is someone from his childhood he spoke to me about on our first date and I suspect maybe is his TF or a meaningful soulmate. I just recently saw him looking at his ex profile on facebook; he was sharing that with me and he was just checking up on her seeing how she is doing. I would never tell him that he cannot say hi to his ex. Its human to occasionally wonder how people you care about from your past are doing..He didnt' say hi to her but she wrote to him years ago and I did not panic...I get it. But people are so selfish and insecure and we think we own others and that they belong only to us....but we all have a past and we all have multiple soulmates.
Amazing. As a Scorpio with a Scorpio stellium and strong mars on the cusp of my 7th house, this reply made my skill crawl. Haha. Seriously though, hopefully one day I can harness all of that intense energy and get to this point. Most people should read this. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 17, 2014 10:02 AM
^ Loool same.You were born a few days after me, I believe. IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 3121
From: AC conjunct Jupiter-Uranus
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted June 17, 2014 11:52 AM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Amazing.As a Scorpio with a Scorpio stellium and strong mars on the cusp of my 7th house, this reply made my skill crawl. Haha. Seriously though, hopefully one day I can harness all of that intense energy and get to this point. Most people should read this.
Its a nice ideal to aim at that is all, I get its challenging but if you are at least aiming at that ideal I give anyone props for trying and aiming at this even if they fall short over and over again! the fact that you are self aware and attempting to self-regulate this I find valuable and is the process I have been undergoing for a while now. I have venus/mars in leo and saturn in scorpio so me reaching this point has been a process, I am now almost 31. Chiron, Pluto, Neptune and Uranus have all played a role in this. Specially now that my Uranus entered my 5th after doing quite a lot during its transiting in the 4th this feels more natural to me than ever before...but I will always have venus/mars in leo and saturn in scorpio so I am sure this ideal will continue been an ongoing process for me although It feels natural to me right now.. But thanks for the great feedback! I do find the possessiveness of Scorpio charming and alluring with the right dosage and frequency LOL......Perhaps a nice balance between pluto and uranus is the key.... BTW I have been with my husband for 7 years so that helps..the longer you have been with someone I feel the less jealous/possessive you are OR PERHAPS the older you get the less jealous/possessive you are. If you just started dating its more natural to feel more possessive, its a brand new love and you don't want it to end prematurely type of thing! So I get both sides but wanted to offer a different perspective.... IP: Logged |
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