posted June 12, 2014 07:04 PM            

It's not really about 'when'. It's more like... is there something there? Or is it dead territory?

posted June 12, 2014 07:13 PM            

But generally if there's an obvious lack of interest, there's no interest either because what's the point? So there will be no move.
That's the dead territory - no room for fruitfulness = no move.

posted June 12, 2014 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Alright, then it's a typical case of, "I want to conquer you". Whether it's just the chase or something deeper, that I cannot know.

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posted June 12, 2014 07:25 PM            

Usually Scorp-influenced people like emotional honesty and bravery. That's like +100 pts for you. But we can also play with people or have fun without having deeper intentions - especially if there are some flighty placements in the chart.

So it's up to you to see if there's something there you'd like to explore and act based on that, then see his reaction and so on.

ETA. Oh if you want him to stop watching you or whatever, just keep ignoring him. And if he makes a move, say you're not interested. Simple.

posted June 12, 2014 07:29 PM              

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Well, what do you want? Do you like him or not? It depends on what you want from him.

Usually Scorp-influenced people like emotional honesty and bravery. That's like +100 pts for you. But we can also play with people or have fun without having deeper intentions - especially if there are some flighty placements in the chart.

So it's up to you to see if there's something there you'd like to explore and act based on that, then see his reaction and so on.

ETA. Oh if you want him to stop watching you or whatever, just keep ignoring him. And if he makes a move, say you're not interested. Simple.

Ps. I gotta go now, will be back later.

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posted June 12, 2014 07:59 PM            

He was only ever in one serious relationship before my best friend (he's in his late 20s), and he cheated on that girl but made sure she never knew. She still doesn't know to this day. He slept around a lot and never cared much for seriousness; he basically just used women for his own pleasure and that was that.

When he met my best friend, it was instantaneous. Within a week of knowing her, he would leave flowers outside of her house and text her incessantly. He wanted to take up all of her time, meet her friends, meet her family. Everything in their relationship moved very quickly. They dated for 6 months and then got married.

He is very needy and very clingy. We joke and say that he's practically a woman. He has very strong emotions and is very willing to vocalize what he's feeling, what you've done wrong, and what more he wants out of the relationship. At the same time, he's also very childish if he doesn't get what he wants, and he's very vindictive and spiteful. He "aims to cut" (his own words).

When do they decide that someone is worth while? I don't think they "decide"; I think they just know. It certainly wasn't a decision for him, especially because my best friend hurt him pretty badly in the beginning, yet he still wouldn't walk away from her.

When do they move from watching to pursuing? I'm not exactly sure with this one.. The guy I know just automatically pursued.

posted June 12, 2014 08:08 PM              

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Originally posted by IV XXIV:
I would like to state this disclaimer first: I'm not a Mars in Scorpio, I've never dated a mars in Scorpio, and I don't know how many I actually DO know... But I know of one, who is married to my best friend, so I know a lot about what he's like in relationships and the whole chasing/courting process.

He was only ever in one serious relationship before my best friend (he's in his late 20s), and he cheated on that girl but made sure she never knew. She still doesn't know to this day. He slept around a lot and never cared much for seriousness; he basically just used women for his own pleasure and that was that.

When he met my best friend, it was instantaneous. Within a week of knowing her, he would leave flowers outside of her house and text her incessantly. He wanted to take up all of her time, meet her friends, meet her family. Everything in their relationship moved very quickly. They dated for 6 months and then got married.

He is very needy and very clingy. We joke and say that he's practically a woman. He has very strong emotions and is very willing to vocalize what he's feeling, what you've done wrong, and what more he wants out of the relationship. At the same token, he's also very childish if he doesn't get what he wants, and he's very vindictive and spiteful. He "aims to cut" (his own words).

When do they decide that someone is worth while? I don't think they "decide"; I think they just know. It certainly wasn't a decision for him, especially because my best friend hurt him pretty badly in the beginning, yet he still wouldn't walk away from her.

When do they move from watching to pursuing? I'm not exactly sure with this one.. The guy I know just automatically pursued.

I agree with Doux in that being emotionally honest and up front with them will be in your best interest. If you want to understand him a little bit more, just tell him that. I don't think they have any issues telling you about themselves.

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posted June 12, 2014 08:47 PM              

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The guy I'm dealing with is a libra with virgo venus, pisces moon. He seems to be an ok guy so I don't want to be mean. Just Cappy politeness

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posted June 12, 2014 08:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
@IV XXIV Aren't they! too much for me. He was beautiful yes but that didn't make up for his attitude and mental problems. Wanting commitment yet not wanting commitment and so much more they don't tell you about Scorpio mooners LOL. He had mercury and ascendant in Scorpio also. The biggest nightmare. He cheated on his girlfriend with me so you can only imagine how that ended.

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Oh girl, thank God you're out of that.

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Originally posted by theunknown:
The guy I'm dealing with is a libra with virgo venus, pisces moon. He seems to be an ok guy so I don't want to be mean. Just Cappy politeness

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posted June 12, 2014 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by IV XXIV:
I understand. Ask him subtly and nicely. Just kind of be like "you're really interesting and intriguing to me, I'd like to get to know you better". I always just go full out, guns blazing with it when I'm interested with someone. I'll usually just be like "so tell me about your childhood and your dreams and your fears and the most tragic thing that's ever happened to you, I want to know everything". A little intense, I know, but it's how I roll lol.

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posted June 12, 2014 08:53 PM              

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Originally posted by theunknown:
He doesn't seem to be shy. Selective with friends, yes. But he seems social and sure of who he is. Seems stable and picky ... When I first met him, I thought he was heavy fixed ...

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