posted June 23, 2014 04:54 PM            

Gemini in question always figured ways to be around me, or say a quick comment. We eventually started hanging out one on one and while romantic interest was discussed we didn't progress past the first couple of dates. After that the Gemini went cold and we disappeared from each other's lives for half a year. Fast forward to today, we see each other every once in a while and the Gemini - who was the one who turned down my advances to go on further dates - is still constantly giving off signs of interest but is carrying out no intent it seems? If I start talking to someone they'll butt in the conversation, if I am in the area they'll constantly stare at me, lock eyes, find ways to be in my proximity, answer questions I ask indirectly (if I am in a conversation with a person and ask a question, they'll find a way to make the question about them and start qualifying themselves about the topic), constantly leaves their friends just to be next to me or follow me around the room, but will never actually talk to me anywhere.

posted June 24, 2014 01:26 AM            

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Originally posted by WakkaTBC:
Geminis, currently dealing with a Gemini at the moment and things have been pretty on off to say the least.

What gives? Are you guys normally one for mixed signals and indecisiveness? I already asked them multiple times to go out and they either tried to let me know that there is competition, or attempt to make me jealous by flirting with others directly in front of me. I've called them out in the past saying they're doing this to get a reaction out of me and it won't work, which they admit to, but this seems to be going for far too long. Is this your way of testing people, flirting without intent, or what?

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posted June 24, 2014 02:25 AM            

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Originally posted by babybull82:

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I'd say move on with life and just be a buddy/friend, that's all Gemini men are really good for anyway.

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posted June 24, 2014 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by WakkaTBC:
Geminis, currently dealing with a Gemini at the moment and things have been pretty on off to say the least.

Gemini in question always figured ways to be around me, or say a quick comment. We eventually started hanging out one on one and while romantic interest was discussed we didn't progress past the first couple of dates. After that the Gemini went cold and we disappeared from each other's lives for half a year. Fast forward to today, we see each other every once in a while and the Gemini - who was the one who turned down my advances to go on further dates - is still constantly giving off signs of interest but is carrying out no intent it seems? If I start talking to someone they'll butt in the conversation, if I am in the area they'll constantly stare at me, lock eyes, find ways to be in my proximity, answer questions I ask indirectly (if I am in a conversation with a person and ask a question, they'll find a way to make the question about them and start qualifying themselves about the topic), constantly leaves their friends just to be next to me or follow me around the room, but will never actually talk to me anywhere.

What gives? Are you guys normally one for mixed signals and indecisiveness? I already asked them multiple times to go out and they either tried to let me know that there is competition, or attempt to make me jealous by flirting with others directly in front of me. I've called them out in the past saying they're doing this to get a reaction out of me and it won't work, which they admit to, but this seems to be going for far too long. Is this your way of testing people, flirting without intent, or what?

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I think this problem is unique to the Gemini in question. Have you got some chart positions?

posted June 24, 2014 12:39 PM              

What I'm gonna say may be harsh but I really want to help you and prevent heartbreak and headache if I can. I "dated" a Gemini guy on and off for almost 3 years. All that you said sounds identical. It seriously sounds like we're talking about the same guy

My guy and I worked together and started developing crushes on each other at first. We eventually told each other, although it was pretty damn obvious to everyone else that we liked each other and started seeing each other. We never established that we were anything more than just really "liking" each other and that "like" led to sex and he disappeared after a few more times for over a year. I changed jobs and never really forgot about him but moved on. Seriously out of nowhere he pops back in my life and we literally go right back to where we were. Had crushes again, really "liked" each other again and once again sex came right back in the picture. He disappears again for a littler over half a year and comes back. I was so naive and just stupid that I went back to him and each time resulted in us having sex. So although I know he really liked me I was his booty call(I hate even talking about him honestly, I get so upset but atleast I'm being honest and I really want to help you) I eventually got tired of it and broke all ties to him. Deleted and blocked his number.

The best advice I can give you is to move on. Leave him alone, don't talk to him, call him. Nothing. Tell him you don't want to waste your time and that you're done. He is playing you and I guarantee you he has another girl on the side that he's playing as well. I do like Geminis a lot actually, they're very fun and always keep you entertained but in love I'd rather be single than date one. Too stubborn, two faced, they get so bored so easily. I just don't get them in relationships. If he isn't upfront with what he wants with you than he's playing mind games with you. They will play mind games and confuse the hell out you because if you don't take control from the start they see you as weak and can. Gemini men are the worst men in relationships. Weak women are not for them, they need someone to really take control and make the rules. When they've met that "one" then they'll be completely different. I thought I was the one and I was, the ONE who got hurt and used. I've seen it sooo many times with him and having guy friends who are Geminis, they use people. They can be the coldest, meanest and just plain cruelest men on this planet. They lack passion(my kind anyway), depth and just the ability to be faithful to anyone who isn't their "one". They kind of remind me of a more social, chipper Scorpio minus the intensity Scorpios have obviously.

Move on. It's the best thing you can do at this point. He WILL hurt you if you let him.

posted June 24, 2014 12:46 PM              

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
I agree with everyone else lol. If you do manage to keep his interest it's nothing much deeper than... Keeping his interest lol. Just move on. Geminis are a lot of fun but I've never had much with one. You might need to be a very specific kind of girl to be able to deal with one of these guys.

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posted June 24, 2014 02:06 PM              

I think she has Aries moon though. VERY aggressive and doesn't have any shame in who sees it.
She keeps his booty in line. I've seen her tell him, "do you want to go in the yard and wrestle this out mother effer?"

posted June 24, 2014 02:15 PM              

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Haha makes sense I have no fire planets. My form of taking control is just being completely nuts. Shame cause they really are fun. Fun dates. Fun conversations. But really better as friends. I've actually never ever seen a Gemini man with a girl friend. I've had them tell me they had a girlfriend in the past. But I've never witnessed a girlfriend... I really think all they want deep down is a best friend with benefits they can call a lover. Come to think of it, I haven't known any Gemini male or female that I've seen with any kind of long term mate... Hm.

I don't think they are playing mind games with any intent to harm or even confuse. They are just confused as all hell themselves and don't know what they want. They are the one sign that I don't understand in any way. They are sensitive but their feelings don't run very deep. They love the opposite sex but it's also like they can't be bothered with the trouble. Twins for sure.

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I agree. They may not mean to confuse but they sure as hell don't act like it. I don't get them, they don't even get each other or themselves LOL. The first and only word I think with them is superficial. I know a couple who both happen to be Geminis and are really awesome together. I'm thinking they were either water or fire heavy because they just gave off this protective vibe with each other and their children always. Very protective of their little unit.

posted June 24, 2014 02:50 PM            

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I know a couple who both happen to be Geminis and are really awesome together. I'm thinking they were either water or fire heavy because they just gave off this protective vibe with each other and their children always. Very protective of their little unit.

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yep, my gem and i are very compatible and are protective of our relationship and our children. we are very social as a family unit, but still love eachother's company and have deep trust. which i think is very importnant for geminis...with all crazy mental activity, it's nice to know that i have a secure lover/family...and i don't get bored! i have venus in cancer, his is in aries. intresting combo. were both heavy gemini/mutable.

i agree with most of the above in that this guy is not going to be anymore than what he has already proven to be. interested when he's interested but only for a little fun. if you try to initiate anything more, he will disappear.

i've had the pleasure of being in serious relationships with 4 geminis. there needs to be intense and varied intellectual stimulation, you need to blow their mind! then there needs to be strong sexual attraction that can take many forms....quickies in risque public places, all nighters/marathons at home, a touch of this, a touch of that...role play is always fun too! haha
mutual enjoyment of playful activities. from beachcombing to sports to hiking to roadtrips, whatevs.

there also needs to be space. you need to be and let be with geminis.

just a few of the ingredients that have made up the what i deem successful relationships with geminis that i've experienced.