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Topic: Would you touch this man with a 10 foot pole????
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margym0o
Newflake Posts: 7
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted July 04, 2014 04:11 PM
  
Unfortunately this lovely specimen I have been in a relationship with for the past almost 5 months has a terrifying Astrological footprint. As I begin to understand Astrology more I am beginning to see the aspects of his chart play out. If not for my knowledge of Astrology thus far I likely would have ended it already. Even just understanding the Cancer (him) and Gemini (me) dynamic has helped me to be more patient with his idiosyncrasies. What a blessing Astrology can be sometimes.This man has so many redeeming personal qualities (like that infectious Cancer love) but I just don't know how it will unfold over the long-term. I want to believe there is a possibility things could work out but there are red flags popping out all over the place. He is 32 years old and his longest relationship was 2 years in his late 20's. Other than that he has had a handful of 1 year or less relationships and many, many, MANY "casual" female encounters. This man is EXTREMELY sexual and very, very career driven. Deep down he seems to desire that long-term connection, marriage and family with someone but his own nature gets in the way. Some scary highlights of his natal chart: - Venus in Gemini
- Mars in Libra - Sun square Mars
- Venus opposition Neptune
- Mars conjunction Saturn - Pluto heavy natal chart in general - Mars, Saturn and Pluto in 7th house
- Uranus in 8th house Here is a visual of what we're dealing with here: http://tinypic.com/r/bivxhk/8 Is this man a lost cause as far as any long-term potential in concerned or should I wait and see how it goes? Would it take the right kind of woman to get him to commit for the long-haul or will every woman be doomed to fail? IP: Logged |
IV XXIV
Knowflake Posts: 299
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Registered: Mar 2014
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posted July 04, 2014 04:59 PM
I have a few of his placements.. Lmao.. I wouldn't necessarily run from him, but I'd be a little weary. Sun in Cancer being in the 5th house (ruled by Leo) would probably make him a little more fiery, especially with that Aries AC. He's probably very indecisive (Mars in Libra and Venus in Gem) so that would be an issue.. And I haven't heard many good things about Venus in Gemini.. But everyone is different! Pluto in the 7th just shows passion and intensity, in my opinion (I've got it in my natal). Not necessarily bad, just depends on the person dealing with it. Don't bet all your money on astrology. If things are going smoothly with him thus far, and continue to, then make your own decisions without the stars 
Edit: As far as the short-term relationship issue, I've faced the same dilemma, but I've chalked it up to my intensity. After about a half a year-to-a whole year, I'm comfortable enough with you to show how intense I am. That tends to create issues amongst people and scare them away. So, now, I no longer show it, which never allows me to grow close to people, so I have many "casual" things in my life - platonic and romantic. He may not be the issue.. Pluto in the 7th allegedly attracts controlling, dominating, intense partners and maybe that messes with the dynamic a bit. Only way to know is to ask him!
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next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 1724
From: The Moon
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted July 04, 2014 05:41 PM
you're not the only one… my boyfriend have the reverse - venus in libra and mars in gemini. He also got sun in 5th house, but it's a libra sun. He also got venus square uranus - and uranus and neptune in 7th house, opposite his cancer ascendant. Not exactly good. The ruler of his seventh - Capricorn(Saturn) is sextile his moon though, but also opposite ascendant.
We have never had any problems in our relationship though, and he have no problems with commitment…actually I'm more commitment phobia than he is lol. But according to your partners chart: His seventh house ruler is Venus and his gemini venus is in 3rd house and looks pretty well aspected… His 8th house ruler is scorpio and pluto is in 7th house, conjunction mars. I don't know whether that makes him faithful or not, but in my opinion I think it would. His mars in 7th is frightening though… yeah, and it's square sun, conjunction pluto. It explains to me the many short relationship. But each one makes him grow a lot though… IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen
Knowflake Posts: 4971
From: In my 1st house Uranus and Neptune
Registered: May 2011
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posted July 04, 2014 08:20 PM
Would I touch him?
This is a fun question.  Let me look..
His Sun is conjunct my Sun 2 degree.. oh la la..
my Sun falls into his 5th house and his Sun falls into my 6th..
His Venus is conjunct my Venus and it falls into my 5th.. and my Venus falls into his 3rd His Moon is conjunct my Moon and his Moon is conjunct my Nadir THAT being said..
That energy of the Mars-Pluto would probably excite me but turn me off, his Mars is weak but mine is even weaker lol
his Sun looks good and strong
he seems to love affection too and wants to marry too for he has the same placements as me and how could he not idealize romance? He looks a little confused and bored but with that Venus oppos Neptune i'd be wary of him catching some kind of sexual disease lol IP: Logged |
margym0o
Newflake Posts: 7
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted July 07, 2014 11:01 AM
Thank you everyone for your input. Thinking about it he can come across as a very serious and determined individual (Pluto energy?). He needs to be in the mood to be playful. His career and work weighs heavily on his mind. I can be very light and playful and I can always tell when he is in a "serious" mood. I am quick to snap out of any funk I am in whereas he will snap out of it when he chooses. Trying to communicate with him when he's in one of his "serious" moods is like trying to talk to a brick wall. He can be very harsh and critical and cold at his worst. He is also I would say "OCD" about cleanliness and gets anxious when his home isn't clean. His personal appearance is also extremely important to him. Having suffered from acne in his younger years he is hyper sensitive to any bodily imperfections. To summarize I would say he very anxiety-ridden overall though I don't know if that would be attributed to his natal chart.Otherwise yes he does LOVE giving and receiving affection. In his tender moments he is very cuddley and is not afraid of a little PDA. He can also be very caring and sensitive. He is definitely a mixed bag and you never know what you're going to get but it keeps me on my toes How does our synastry look? I know there are a lot of heavy/negative aspects but aside from our communication barriers when he is in one of his "serious" moods I feel we balance each other well. I try to keep things light and I am extremely supportive of him when his anxiety takes over and he helps to soothe my nerves and guide me when I get frazzled or start over-thinking everything. We also have this almost magnetic attraction - it's like an unspoken feeling that pulls us together when we're in each other's presence. I could be annoyed with him but I still want to hug him. We are quick to discuss and move past any hang ups we have. Do we have any long-term potential? Here is our synastry wheel. He is on the outside.  Edit: I should also add it has taken this much time to get to where we're at. I have been extremely patient with him through the ups and downs of his "moods" and questioning myself and our relationship causing me some emotional distress. I feel we now understand each other better and have both made accommodations for each other in some ways. Definitely not a very "easy" or naturally-flowing relationship by any means but it feels more valuable to me than any of my past "easy" relationships. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 1402
From:
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 08, 2014 07:59 AM
He seems a biggg flirt and might be pretty charming bt manipulative. I probably wouldn't date sb with his placements... been there done that with a cancer sun,venus in gem. NEVER again. Gem + libra combo energy makes them...not the best bf material. Air needs sth to stabilise it more. My cheating ex from a few years ago had pluto in 7th house too...IP: Logged |
margym0o
Newflake Posts: 7
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted July 08, 2014 09:06 AM
I have heard that about Cancer Sun + Gemini Venus however I don't like to generalize based on that aspect alone. I myself have a Gemini Sun (though with a Leo Venus) and am almost loyal to a fault. I couldn't be bothered with the emotional distress of the lies and deceit.My brother has a Cancer Sun + Gemini Venus (Aries Mars as opposed to Libra Mars though) and yes, he definitely had numerous casual encounters with women in his early 20's but he is very committed to his girlfriend of over a year now. He has Venus in the 12th and Saturn, Uranus and Neptune in the 7th so a pretty grim looking picture but he seems to crave that stability of having a "wife and kids" so who knows long-term? I guess we'll have to see. IP: Logged |
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