posted July 28, 2014 08:16 AM            

I met someone yesterday that I haven't seen in 11 years.

We were not exactly buddies in high school, but he was Deputy-Head Prefect and I was a Prefect. It was a big deal back then

So, I was a little excited that I recognized him and greeted him with warmth.

But he responded with a very abrupt and empty "hi, how you doing?" and passed and I was taken aback. I was left standing there and well...

I thought perhaps he is in a bad mood? didn't care for me? or was just really on his way somewhere? But all the same, you don't do that to people when they make it a point to greet you.Do you?

I have not met numerous class mates and former teachers from my high school. But when I do,they ALWAYS get so excited and elated to meet someone from way back when. It's a blast from the past.

And even those I didn't particularly care for, those who teased me and those who talked stuff behind my back etc. I think of it as water off a ducks back. I smile and be receptive.

My friend told me not to take it so personally;as he comes into contact with him a few times and is like that with all people.And not just me.

So,it made me wonder, for those of you who have no problem with someone like this- what positions can make a person just indifferent or "gruff" with others?

Mars/Uranus in 1st, Mars/Uranus on the angle, Aquarius/Aries Asc? I think I would also include Uranus/Mars in 7th?

posted July 28, 2014 05:25 PM            

I generally notice this behaviour - being cold and monosyllabic - in Virgo Mercury men, but the guy I mentioned was particularly removed from the emotional side of things.
He also had Aspergers though (which I associate with Capricorn/Virgo influence).

posted July 28, 2014 05:32 PM            

But are these people "aware"? Or are they extra nice to someone only when you serve their agenda in some way.

posted July 28, 2014 06:00 PM            

His reaction suggests he's not a very sentimental or warm person and he just isn't interested in connecting or re-connecting. I don't think there is any conscious awareness on his part, that his behaviour towards you was rude.. mainly since he behaves this way habitually.

posted July 28, 2014 06:00 PM            

He does have a Virgo Mercury, and a Virgo Venus and Mars conjunction. Aaand a Virgo rising, I'm 99% sure about that (could be Virgo or Libra, my bet is on Virgo with 12th house activity).

posted July 28, 2014 07:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
The person I know who completely fits your description has Virgo Sun/Sagittarius Moon/Virgo Mercury/Scorpio Venus/Capricorn Mars.

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Hmmm. I have 3 out of 5 and I come off very aloof and cold at times.

Virgo Sun
Sag Moon
Scorp Venus

posted July 29, 2014 03:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
The earthy Virgo/Capricorn types I know are completely unaware. But I think there has to be a mix between the presence of a lot of earth and the lack of water.
Earthy types who do have water prominent in their chart can still be pretty emotional and expressive.

His reaction suggests he's not a very sentimental or warm person and he just isn't interested in connecting or re-connecting. I don't think there is any conscious awareness on his part, that his behaviour towards you was rude.. mainly since he behaves this way habitually.

This is also partially a gender thing. It's *much* less likely that you could receive this kind of reaction from a woman - even from a cold woman. Men are not as properly socialized as women.

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Oh yes. Yes. This is true.I am looking at it from a sex perspective now.

posted July 29, 2014 04:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
My Leo buddy could kind of fit your description, I think. He appears socially withdrawn and doesn't do small talk much. Appears aloof and careless, but I can see right through his façade, as can other people - he has Sun conjunct Chiron in the 10th (visible wound), opposite Saturn (obvious restriction/inhibition).

He does have a Virgo Mercury, and a Virgo Venus and Mars conjunction. Aaand a Virgo rising, I'm 99% sure about that (could be Virgo or Libra, my bet is on Virgo with 12th house activity).

He also has a Moon/Jupiter/Pluto T-square (Moon in Aquarius).

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I dated someone with Virgo Asc,Virgo Moon. I could never really "feel" them.

As friends, now, its better. In a relationship,I felt that there was something missing.

posted July 29, 2014 09:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
The earthy Virgo/Capricorn types I know are completely unaware. But I think there has to be a mix between the presence of a lot of earth and the lack of water.
Earthy types who do have water prominent in their chart can still be pretty emotional and expressive.

His reaction suggests he's not a very sentimental or warm person and he just isn't interested in connecting or re-connecting. I don't think there is any conscious awareness on his part, that his behaviour towards you was rude.. mainly since he behaves this way habitually.

This is also partially a gender thing. It's *much* less likely that you could receive this kind of reaction from a woman - even from a cold woman. Men are not as properly socialised as women.

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Well,
I'd say there's a lack of water, or weak venus, or weak neptune.

My sister has a cap Asc and even though she has jupiter in 7th in cancer, she's still very brusque.

I'm on the other hand is almost water void (pluto singleton) and I would never do that to anyone because my venus, neptune and jupiter trine Asc.

So sometimes even though I miss social cues, I don't shut myself off

posted July 31, 2014 03:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
What Asc position indicates a very brusque individual?

I met someone yesterday that I haven't seen in 11 years.

We were not exactly buddies in high school, but he was Deputy-Head Prefect and I was a Prefect. It was a big deal back then

So, I was a little excited that I recognized him and greeted him with warmth.

But he responded with a very abrupt and empty "hi, how you doing?" and passed and I was taken aback. I was left standing there and well...

I thought perhaps he is in a bad mood? didn't care for me? or was just really on his way somewhere? But all the same, you don't do that to people when they make it a point to greet you.Do you?

I have not met numerous class mates and former teachers from my high school. But when I do,they ALWAYS get so excited and elated to meet someone from way back when. It's a blast from the past.

And even those I didn't particularly care for, those who teased me and those who talked stuff behind my back etc. I think of it as water off a ducks back. I smile and be receptive.

My friend told me not to take it so personally;as he comes into contact with him a few times and is like that with all people.And not just me.

So,it made me wonder, for those of you who have no problem with someone like this- what positions can make a person just indifferent or "gruff" with others?

Mars/Uranus in 1st, Mars/Uranus on the angle, Aquarius/Aries Asc? I think I would also include Uranus/Mars in 7th?

What do you guys think?

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LOL.

It happens. A lot.

I don't do it on purpose..it means I don't want to talk to you..

posted July 31, 2014 06:11 AM            

It's the truth

posted August 01, 2014 02:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
What Asc position indicates a very brusque individual?

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I think people are only brusque when they want to be left alone. I consider myself brusque no matter how I try to twist my nonverbal language.

I've got Gemini ASC and it's conjunct Mars (as you know!) but also sextile everything Aries in my chart. So Mars, Aries… I can't help it.

Maybe it's the Taurus in me too though.

posted August 02, 2014 07:16 AM            

I also take into consideration that people have various moods and perhaps, on the day that you greet them, they may not be in a mood/attitude that matches yours.

I don't believe that everyone who walks around should only talk to people whom they've "something" to gain from. What a wealth of people one would be missing out on. Even those that the individual may find kinship with.

I think he and I are/were on differing planes on the said day. There was something in me that said "maybe you should let this pass and look indifferent? Don't greet him".

But i was too excited to keep it in. My fault. My mistake. I'll pay attention to my intuition the next time that occurs.