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Topic: When people don't tell you what they think of you?
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NeptunianSag Knowflake Posts: 1078 From: Your imagination Registered: Aug 2013
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posted July 28, 2014 04:30 PM
I'm really confused with my identity because no one tells me what they think of me I.e they find me nice, or they find me horrible, I never really know what people think of me. Sometimes I just wish people would tell me instead of "waiting" in fear. I was talking to a guy and I went to the bathroom, an aqauantance I know sat with him while I went to the bathroom. When I returned my aqauantance was gone but the guy said that he told him I was nice, why didn't he just say that to my face then? I have Neptune square asc and opposite mc. IP: Logged |
IV XXIV Knowflake Posts: 352 From: Registered: Mar 2014
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posted July 28, 2014 04:45 PM
You shouldn't depend upon other people's perceptions of you to find your own identity. People may not say it because they may be shy. I never really tell people what I think of them unless they ask me.. It never crosses my mind to tell you up front. I assume you probably don't care what I think of you. IP: Logged |
next to neptune Knowflake Posts: 1828 From: The Moon Registered: Aug 2013
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posted July 28, 2014 05:10 PM
quote: Originally posted by NeptunianSag: I'm really confused with my identity because no one tells me what they think of me I.e they find me nice, or they find me horrible, I never really know what people think of me. Sometimes I just wish people would tell me instead of "waiting" in fear. I was talking to a guy and I went to the bathroom, an aqauantance I know sat with him while I went to the bathroom. When I returned my aqauantance was gone but the guy said that he told him I was nice, why didn't he just say that to my face then? I have Neptune square asc and opposite mc.
I know exactly how you feel… I never get reactions besides bad ones from people. No one ever tells me I'm nice, so I guess I am not. The worst thing is to be ignored though, bad responses is even good, because at least you know what to change then, unless you don't care what others think. I don't know astrologically what could make this, maybe a weak sun, combined with a lot of neptune? Would that make a person so "confused" about their own identity, that they don't know how to "dress themselves?" I have a weak sun and lots of pisces/neptune influence, and I feel my appearance is very weak, which is probably why I don't get any reactions. Simply because I am invisible, or just plain boring. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 7578 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 28, 2014 05:20 PM
"Before diagnosing yourself with depression or low self-esteem first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by a bunch of ******** ." - William Gibson.You still need to learn not to give a **** what anyone else thinks of you and to take responsibility for yourself. It comes across in the tone of your threads sometimes, if not the subject at hand entirely. It seriously only matters how you see yourself, which ties back into your Venus / Saturn thread. Saturn forces you to grow up, be wiser, and put in the work. No work? No reward. No shoes? No service. If you give into Saturn's fear, (and every time you feel fear it's only a test to overcome it), like caring what people think of you and waiting on feedback from them to define. yourself. you're going to be miserable. Another Saturn trait. And you're just going to go 'round and 'round 'til you detach and organize. What aspects do you have to Neptune? IP: Logged |
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 4879 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 28, 2014 05:21 PM
He probably told the other guy because he asked rather than just blurting it out as he went by.That said, you never really know what people think of you even when they do tell you. IP: Logged | |