posted August 04, 2014 10:51 PM            

Frustrating! Especially as I'm trying to get to know the person better.

posted August 05, 2014 02:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
One word: con-trol. (troll?)

*waits to see if anonymi will chime in*

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LOLOLOL.

Not hypocritical. I'm very private and fiercely protective of my boundaries. I have to be since I used to be very open and willing to help people, and got burned very badly.

I am more controlling about the image I put out and career decisions, but not of other people.

I'm very good at reading BS (even said that in the bday book!), so I will call you out on it,

posted August 05, 2014 09:24 AM            

I thought at first it was just him being a typical Cancer - slow and careful to reveal himself and "side-stepping" any direct questioning - but I'm finding it goes much beyond that.

I totally agree about one with this aspect holding their cards very close to their chest. He will not answer anything he does not want to, especially if he feels it will open him up to criticism or make himself vulnerable. I find that most of the time if I ask him something on a touchy subject he will dance around it until I back off, and then after a few minutes of quiet he will come find me with an answer/explanation. I interpret this as him wanting to have the right words to say and not to misspeak in the heat of the moment.

I wouldn't necessarily call them hypocritical. In my experience, my partner will not ask me any more questions than is necessary to get a satisfactory answer to his question. Once he has the facts, he drops the subject. That is I guess you could call his "b/s" radar in effect.

posted August 05, 2014 11:22 AM            

Bella, I didn't know you did, too!

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Originally posted by margym0o:
I totally agree about one with this aspect holding their cards very close to their chest. He will not answer anything he does not want to, especially if he feels it will open him up to criticism or make himself vulnerable.

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It's kind of simple, really.

Sun square Pluto gives a person the feeling that they are deeply flawed. Pluto is constantly telling the person's sun, their core, that there is something fundamentally wrong with them.

So people with this aspect control their outflow, out of fear of the other person eventually discovering the fact that they are not good enough. Or that they have been pretending to be a better person than they actually feel like, inside.

posted August 05, 2014 01:21 PM            

It just irks me to no end lol...He is an Aqua w/Pluto in Scorp

Sun in 9 and Pluto in 6.

He practically demands info from me but disappears when I ask the same type of questions & I am not even prying....just wanna know basic things lol

posted August 05, 2014 01:57 PM              

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Originally posted by Faith:

It's kind of simple, really.
Sun square Pluto gives a person the feeling that they are deeply flawed. Pluto is constantly telling the person's sun, their core, that there is something fundamentally wrong with them.

So people with this aspect control their outflow, out of fear of the other person eventually discovering the fact that they are not good enough. Or that they have been pretending to be a better person than they actually feel like, inside.

If you look at it as a self-esteem problem instead of a hypocrisy problem, and treat it with sympathy, the sun-Pluto person is more likely to trust and open up a bit.

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posted August 05, 2014 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by moonstruck87:
thanks to all for the feedback.

It just irks me to no end lol...He is an Aqua w/Pluto in Scorp

Sun in 9 and Pluto in 6.

He practically demands info from me but disappears when I ask the same type of questions & I am not even prying....just wanna know basic things lol

It's so bizarre.

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Aquas like you to pick things up. They are not gonna tell you much, especially if they are very Aqua and are a bit less mature
I'm an aqua with sun square pluto and I find that sun square pluto Aquas are more likely to eventually tell you something about themselves because they are more analytical if themselves than typical Aquas.

posted August 05, 2014 03:15 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by moonstruck87:
[b]thanks to all for the feedback.

It just irks me to no end lol...He is an Aqua w/Pluto in Scorp

Sun in 9 and Pluto in 6.

He practically demands info from me but disappears when I ask the same type of questions & I am not even prying....just wanna know basic things lol

It's so bizarre.

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Aquas like you to pick things up. They are not gonna tell you much, especially if they are very Aqua and are a bit less mature
I'm an aqua with sun square pluto and I find that sun square pluto Aquas are more likely to eventually tell you something about themselves because they are more analytical if themselves than typical Aquas.

Pluto square sun is not an aspect to take light of. It means the person felt their privacy was invaded when they were younger. It's to dominate or be dominated. They are very strong people. If you loosen someone with this aspect and allow them to trust you, they will be a lot more sharing than typical Aquas [/B][/QUOTE]

posted August 06, 2014 10:42 AM            

As such,they are very suspicious and can be very confrontational if they even suspect foul play.

The Aquarius nature you described rings so true.There was a guy,my friends ex, who was like that.

He wanted to befriend people,myself included, and would ask questions that I thought were very personal and sometimes not very appropriate.

In the process of sharing,however, he would be very slow to come forward to the party. He would always answer questions with "I see", "Okay"," Perhaps" etc. After you have written an essay about yourself.

I couldn't understand him so we drifted apart and haven't heard from him since.

My sister has the opposition to Pluto and she "see saws".

She will open up completely about herself and share. But once she feels taken advantage of or under-appreciated for bearing her soul,she closes up,becomes defensive and swears "never again".

I have the sextile aspect and as another Know-flake wrote,I tend to "over-share" LOL