posted August 06, 2014 08:14 PM            

My hubby is an odd duck and my Scorpio Venus cannot figure him out. Just when I think I have him figured out, something shifts and I feel very insecure again.

Are you aloof?

Do you have emotions or are you just a genius at hiding them?

How the heck does anyone know you love them if you don't show it (romantic gestures) or say it?

I *get* the "wanting a best friend and a lover" thing and we do have that. I am hoping for a deeper bond in the "romantic love" department though.

Is this even possible?

And you know what else burns me? Everything I have read online says that Aqua Venus / Mars would like the unconventional relationship and I am soooooooo down for that (I am polyamorous). However, my hubby is strongly monogamous and told me no way, no how!

I still chose to marry him because I do love him, but it feels so one sided. I am married and lonely and it's only been a few months.

posted August 06, 2014 08:23 PM            

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I could answer the Aqua Venus side if you want.

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Sure... I'm ready. *finds popcorn*

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Honestly, I don't understand Aqua Mars. At all.

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That's where I'm at.

posted August 07, 2014 12:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
What are you like? I am puzzled.

My hubby is an odd duck and my Scorpio Venus cannot figure him out. Just when I think I have him figured out, something shifts and I feel very insecure again.

Are you aloof?

Do you have emotions or are you just a genius at hiding them?

How the heck does anyone know you love them if you don't show it (romantic gestures) or say it?

I *get* the "wanting a best friend and a lover" thing and we do have that. I am hoping for a deeper bond in the "romantic love" department though.

Is this even possible?

And you know what else burns me? Everything I have read online says that Aqua Venus / Mars would like the unconventional relationship and I am soooooooo down for that (I am polyamorous). However, my hubby is strongly monogamous and told me no way, no how!

I still chose to marry him because I do love him, but it feels so one sided. I am married and lonely and it's only been a few months.

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Hmm,this is very interesting. Venus/Mars conjunct is supposed to suggest someone very passionate and demonstrative.

In the air sign,however,it is likely to be more verbal expression than physical.But this is also greatly influenced by the house position.

What house position are they in?

Does the Venus/Mars combo have an aspect to Neptune/Saturn nataly? That can restrict expression or make it confusing/unclear.

Or perhaps he has Saturn/Neptune aspecting your Venus? or your Saturn/Neptune aspecting his Venus/Mars?

posted August 07, 2014 07:20 PM            

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What house position are they in?

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H1 (with Saturn but not conjunct with Saturn).

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Does the Venus/Mars combo have an aspect to Neptune/Saturn nataly? That can restrict expression or make it confusing/unclear.

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He has Venus Square Neptune.

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Or perhaps he has Saturn/Neptune aspecting your Venus? or your Saturn/Neptune aspecting his Venus/Mars?

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I can't tell. I'm not that good at reading a synastry chart. It looks like my Neptune might be aspecting either his Venus or Mars.

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Also, you could be responding to the current Saturn in Scorpio transit.A lot of Scorpio/fixed sign positions could be feeling stressed,"unloved" and isolated right now.

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Could be. I am mostly mutable but I do have some Scorpio influence, in particular, Venus.

posted August 07, 2014 07:26 PM            

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So you feel like he loves you? I think with Aqua Venus, if they feel like they love someone it's enough.

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OMG this! He has said more than once, "I married you, didn't I?!"

As if that makes me feel better. I need more than that and I am honestly afraid this isn't going to work. I'm a few months into a marriage and already losing my patience. He was so NOT like this while we were dating. Does he think that now that he's married me that he can just settle in and get lazy?!

posted August 07, 2014 07:31 PM            

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The answer is... Don't marry us, we aqua venus's are meant to be forever alone unless you are our soul mate 100%

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GAH! You know, I sensed this and I actually said no several times before finally saying yes. I found his persistence endearing but it's weird... he was persistent, but I wasn't convinced he REALLY wanted to be married. I had a gut feeling he just isn't cut out for this but I overlooked it and I told myself I was being paranoid.

I thought, "Why would someone ask so many times and not want it?" so I just went with it.

Now I feel mentally ill for ignoring that gut feeling.

posted August 07, 2014 07:56 PM            

I am going thorough this, exact at 4:25am:

"Uranus transits sextile Moon This transit occurs only twice in each 84-year cycle of Uranus. Your emotions are highly stimulated by this transit, and you will allow yourself to look at the world very subjectively. Your inner world is at least as important to you as the outer "reality" that you function in. Now is the time to revel in your innermost feelings.

You are likely to make more emotional demands on your friends and love partners. All new and existing relationships must have an excitement to them that you may not have demanded before. If your current relationships cannot adjust to your increased emotional needs, you will not hesitate to find others that do. You have to be able to exercise total freedom in your emotional self-expression. Anyone who tries to limit you in this area will meet with great resistance."

Interesting.

posted August 07, 2014 08:20 PM            

But on a general note as a Aqua Venus I prefer friends as lovers. Not the whole friends with benefits game my generation likes to play, but rather developing a friendship first and love slowly developing over time. I want (or hope!) to marry someone I would consider my best friend.

So Aqua Venus can be a little tricky because we can be very independent and get a little scared when this freedom is infringed about. If you try to lock us down right away, send text messages every second, or act clingy, this is where an Aqua can run. The trick is to slowly work your magic: let us get comfortable and closer to you without our freedom or independence being threatened.

Aqua Venus typically (but not universal) enjoys intellectual stimulation, witty banter, technology, trying new things and places, and anything that breaks the boundaries. Buying us roses or perfumes are nice, but if you really want to impress on Aqua take us to a that hidden, quirky restaurant downtown or that new art museum display that just opened.

Aqua Venus usually isn't comfortable with the whole lovey, dovey smothering love. It takes time for us to feel comfortable with this and open up. We overanalyze: everything is mental for us at first. You have to find a way to get us out of our head and more into the present.

posted August 08, 2014 03:16 AM            

But you did mention that there is a Neptune square to both the Venus/Mars placements,so that could be it.

I find that Neptune aspecting the two may "hide" feelings or indirectly express them.There could be some difficulty in being consistent or maintaining that level of expression towards you.

Also, I wasn't referring to a synastry cahrt when I asked you the Saturn/Neptune question. Just look at you Saturn and see if the Sign/Degree forms harsh aspects with his Venus/Mars combo.

Since he has Venus/Mars in Aquarius,if your Saturn is placed in Scorpio/Leo/Aquarius/Taurus- this suggests a challenging Saturn aspect with him-which makes it awkward for him to be openly affectionate with you.

Do the same and look at his Saturn to see if he has Saturn in fixed signs too.

Lastly, you were not clear on whether Saturn in 16 Deg Scorpio,forms aspect with your Venus.

If it does, that is if Venus is between 7 Degrees and 25 Degrees, you could be experiencing a temporary "cooling off" of affections in your relationship.

posted August 09, 2014 04:34 PM            

I can't read charts yet. I can only know what astro.com tells me. I will post over in IA.

posted August 09, 2014 04:44 PM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
Was he more demonstrative while you were dating? Did he show his emotions before? Because if he just stopped showing you love then the feelings might have faded on his part. People don't just stop showing emotions if they used to unless the emotions are gone.. Though I can't be sure this is the case you didn't give us much information.

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When we were first dating, he was always saying sweet things and sending me texts all day long. If I didn't text back immediately, he would send a sad face and ask if I was mad. He seemed genuinely sweet.

Then it turned off (which is part of why I told him "no" so many times before saying "yes" to marriage). He was so excited in the weeks leading up to our wedding that he was sweet again. He was calling me, "Future wife" and "Future Mrs. so & so" and he was making plans with me.

It carried over for about 2 weeks after the wedding. He would say things like "I can't believe I wake up to such a gorgeous wife" and stuff like that.

Then it just stopped. :/

We've only been married for a few months, so we should still be in that fun honeymoon period. Sexual chemistry was never an issue, it's just that I feel like he doesn't pay me enough attention otherwise.

He blows hot / cold. Just when I am about to give up and walk away, he starts being sweet again. Except right now, I'm very close to walking and he hasn't turned it around.

Unfortunately for him, I am the type of person that will grow tired of it quickly because I know I can get it elsewhere. I know that makes me a bit of a jerk, but I don't stick around in relationships when the resentment sets in. It's just not productive.

posted August 10, 2014 05:12 PM            

I am asking about placements so I can understand him better. That is all.

posted August 15, 2014 01:25 AM            

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Most aqua people are actually very jealous and possessive.

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I actually encountered this for the first time after two & a half years together. I had never seen him jealous and the circumstances were just plain ridiculous.

He came home and I was on the phone with my uncle. I didn't walk out of the room or do anything that seemed "secretive" but I guess he heard a male voice on the other end and flipped out. He left, slammed the door & tore out of the parking lot and I had no idea why. Like no idea!

So he comes back and I hang up and he's being all tight-lipped and silent. I asked what was wrong and he said, "nothing, I just went to the store" all dismissive like, so I dropped it for a bit.

After about 30 minutes of silence, he finally broke and said, "Soooo.... were you talking to your ex?!"

I chuckled (probably not the best response) but it was just so absurd to me! I said, "no, I was talking to my uncle" and he calmed down.

The most ridiculous part of all is that he regularly hangs out with his ex-gf because they do music together. But I'm never allowed to be uncomfortable about that. He tells me, "that doesn't count - we're bandmates."

Riiiiiiiiiiiiight. As if he never has dinner or beer with them (she tells me, lol!).

ANYWAY, the point is that for the first time ever, he showed a ridiculous display of jealousy. I had never seen that side of him. This is the man that stays home with the kids while I go dancing with friends (male and female friends).

What the heck?!