posted August 08, 2014 02:48 PM            

Your personal preferance is nice

And the aspects!! What sign or aspect demands growth and what sign or aspect prefers comfort and steadiness?

posted August 08, 2014 03:02 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Do you think being with someone else should evoke growth and thus not always be so comfortable or should it be a smooth, pleasant ride?

Your personal preferance is nice

And the aspects!! What sign or aspect demands growth and what sign or aspect prefers comfort and steadiness?

I THINK I want steadiness but Uranus have other ideas for me :-/ No rest for the wicked is my middle name LOL

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Personally:

It really depends...but I think I like a nice balance of both. I want a friend and partner to challenge me in certain ways, but not in a way that will cause ego clashes and tension between us. I like people who try to make me open my eyes to certain things I've never thought of or considered before, but without being rude about it and making me feel condescended to. [I have one such relationship with my two best friends. Their Mercuries are on my Mars in Cancer.] I have Moon trine Uranus, Mars opp. Uranus. I want to be challenged or at the very least, find people who are different than me and can make me see the world in new ways. However, my Mars is in Cancer, Moon is in Virgo, and I'm also Piscean, so constant upheaval and shocking actions from friends, etc. is not a welcomed surprise in my life. I want to learn things from others, sure [Moon in the 9th] and I don't like stagnation, but it makes me uncomfortable when people are too unpredictable.

For synastry:

Aspects for growth I've encountered & appreciated: Saturn on someone's personal planet is a given, of course. The trine and sextile are much easier than the sq. and conjunction, naturally, because there is less immediacy and urgency to the aspect. Sun sq. Sun is an interesting placement because both parties grow. Each one shows the other the qualities she lacks but it doesn't seem very hostile. It's more through just basic interactions with each other. Hard Mercury-Mars aspects can go either way for me, but I've found them to ultimately be a positive influence since my Scorpio Mercury can be somewhat stubborn and dogmatic. Mercury-Mars aspects can indicate debate and challenging someone else's mindset, and this can be good for growth. I feel like Moon-Moon hard aspects are not as easy to deal with in terms of growth as Sun-Sun aspects are. It just seems uncomfortable.