posted August 11, 2014 11:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Canadiangirl:
Sagical:
The Gem Rising thing for me was to talk through it, is how it worked for me.

--That's really funny, I have Gem rising and I would always talk through my driving lessons and test. It tended to calm me down as well

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posted August 11, 2014 12:25 PM            

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Originally posted by PisceanDream:
Is the cone touching the curb or is it placed far away from the curb as though it's a car?

If it's the former, then when you cut right make sure the passenger door is lined up. Like the middle of it, a bit closer to the mirror. Then start backing in and cutting left slowly. If you feel worried you're gonna keep hitting the curb, don't hold hard right and back in for long. Hold it for a bit then start cutting left, if you're far... Adjust accordingly. This link is really helpful as well since it has animations.
http://www.wikihow.com/Parallel-Park

Any any anytime. You're more than welcome.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Brontex:
Ew. Right. I was thinking about my parking space here since I have to parallel on a daily basis. But it is on the wrong side now that I think about it. Guess I'm kinda slow today.

When I park on the street I usually just look over my shoulder through the rear passenger window while I'm angling into position. My car is old and doesn't have power mirrors so I don't rely on them much. But there's definitely a lot more blind faith involved with clearing the front bumper.

Really it's a practice/don't panic thing. It's going to feel really counterintuitive until you're used to it. And road cones suck. Maybe go find something that you can actually see to practice with until you get the hang of it.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:28 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I completely agree!

Remove all previous to that other than to learn from the previous.

I took a hands on test at work (which they have now eliminated because so many would fail). I took it 7 years ago. Failed, said eff that. 4 years later I did again, and failed.
Then a few years later I really wanted to get into this field of work.

I psyched myself out. I formed strategies being that I had seen it before and I just kept telling myself over and over that I would. I believed I would... And I nailed it.

Relax... And remove negative thinking. Clear your mind, think of how you will conquer what you're doing wrong or what makes you inconsistent.

Nothing ever went well when I've been frustrated.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Good luck, ss.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Sagical:
I believe in you. Keep practising. I was 27 hears old when I got my drivers and it took me three or four tries to get it. The final test when I got it was a close call. What helped me pass is that I talked through it all what I was doing, especially when it came to the uncontrolled intersection (cause that was a weak point in my tests before that).

The Gem Rising thing for me was to talk through it, is how it worked for me. I'm thinking more relaxation and focussing exercises before taking the test or the Neptunian concept of let's play pretend and picture the examiner as a friend or an old lady that you have to drive around on errands. An Rx in the chart can mean the energy is more internalized and guidance come from within.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Too old??? Too old????

There are people I know their 30's that don't have a driver's license or are terrified of driving.

I got mine when I was 28 years of age. 8 years older than you- "oldie".

I was never "ready" to drive and felt really anxious behind the wheel when I was younger.

If you are not ready, you are just not ready.

Its hard to change Momentum from where it is ; since you have been feeling anxious about this issue for a while now.

Take what the others have said and get the technical details right so that you can gain some confidence.

Its all about confidence. And confidence is "knowing' what to do when/if something does not go according to plan- because it is seldom "smooth sailing" on the test day anyways.

It may rain, the instructor may be in a "mood", there could be traffic, there could be road repairs,the traffic lights may be malfunctioning,you may have to deal with an aggressive driver alongside you etc.

Secondly.Focus on the end result.Focus on on how it will feel after getting your license.Focus your attention in that space and avoid everything else.

Fail your drivers 1st time; focus
Fail your driver's 2nd time; focus
Fail your drivers 3rd time; focus
Fail your drivers...you get the picture. You have to focus on the end result.Only on the end result.

The nice thing about Saturn in 3h- and you might not see it now,is that it will make you an even better driver than those who got the license before you.

Because this was a "weak" spot that you learned to develop,it will thrive and become very strong- even 2nd nature. It'll be like you have been driving for 100 years.

I wish I could give you a hug.I know the feeling because I have been there.

I have Saturn on the angle; everything in my life is delayed.EVERYTHING.

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posted August 11, 2014 12:34 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
I think you are being WAY too hard on yourself! I understand your fears and concerns, but what we put out in the universe is what we get in return. So the more you focus on being nervous, the more you will become nervous. The more nervous, the more doubt and fear kicks in.

Do you have any stress or anxiety technique you use to help yourself relax? I went through a period of getting anxiety attacks randomly in my car for no reason. I did some relaxations techniques and I haven't had them since (to be fair I was extremely low on B12 which was the real cause of the attacks).

I can share some techniques and tips if you want.

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I do have a tendency to be very hard on myself. I totally agree with everything you said here. I am going to try to use the power of my thinking and visualization tonight to increase the chances of doing well on the exam tomorrow. It's worked for me in the past with other things. I think that I need to reassure myself that I am ready, I know I am, it's just the parking that is bothering me a little. I used to not be able to even get inside of the space, period, without hitting a cone or doing something even worse. I will try to remember this and be less hard on myself. Thanks for reminding me of that.