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Topic: Should I? or Should'nt I?
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bella_taurus
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted August 12, 2014 01:55 PM
  
I have a huge crush on this guy at work. We don't work together, but we work in the same buliding. I cannot get this guy out of my head for anything in the world; thus, I HATE obsessing over a guy because I think it's just silly. We talk here and there, and we've even bumped into each other a few times outside of work. I think he is just amazing, handsome and super smart, but...he's so out of my league, I don't think he will ever go for a gal like me. I'm weird, aloof at times, and awkward (thanks to my aquarius rising). I want to write him an email at work, but again, I don't want to come off as desperate or obsessive.What should I do??? IP: Logged |
PisceanDream
Knowflake Posts: 194
From: Alexandria, VA, USA
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted August 12, 2014 02:03 PM
I don't wanna impose my opinion or anything and do correct me if I'm wrong, but I think Aqua ASC is really charming. They're friendly but detached and I think that you might feel "aloof and awkward" on the inside but that's not necessarily the vibe that people would get from you. I'm an Aqua ASC myself and I often feel awkward/aloof/weird but people's reactions towards me don't necessarily reflect how I feel about myself. If anything, I think you're at an advantage because anything you might feel towards him wouldn't really show on the surface. I can like someone a lot and yet it wouldn't show just because of how friendly and cool-tempered I can be. I say talk to him next time you bump into him. I guarantee he won't pick up on any "obsessed" vibe or a vibe that you're into him, if that's something you're worried about. And don't say he's out of your league. I don't believe in those kinda things at all. Be confident and be yourself. If he can't accept you or doesn't like you for it, then you're better off regardless. Good luck  IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted August 12, 2014 02:04 PM
Just go for it!! Even though he may reject you, atleast you won’t be left with any regrets.IP: Logged |
Comatoes
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posted August 12, 2014 02:13 PM
I would do nothing for now, dating people at work is tricky, I would not rush into things if I were you. But if you're really serious start talking to him in more longer conversations and see what he is like, don't use e-mail that is lame, talk to him upfront so you can see his expression and eyes that can tell you a lot about how to proceed.IP: Logged |
HappyLoewe
Knowflake Posts: 188
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Registered: Jan 2014
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posted August 12, 2014 04:02 PM
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Originally posted by bella_taurus:
I have a huge crush on this guy at work. We don't work together, but we work in the same buliding. I cannot get this guy out of my head for anything in the world; thus, I HATE obsessing over a guy because I think it's just silly. We talk here and there, and we've even bumped into each other a few times outside of work. I think he is just amazing, handsome and super smart, but...he's so out of my league, I don't think he will ever go for a gal like me. I'm weird, aloof at times, and awkward (thanks to my aquarius rising). I want to write him an email at work, but again, I don't want to come off as desperate or obsessive.What should I do???
Are you saying that he is out of your league because he's intelligent and handsome? You should fancy someone like this. This is the mark you should be hitting in life. I wouldn't start emailing him at work as you don't appear to know enough about how he acts at work or what he is truly like. I would leave that until you have established a stronger connection. For the moment, I suggest you sit on your hands and keep it casual and keep trying to bump into him here and there. It's the same for him - working in the same building together and, so, how do I approach this girl? He may be going through similar turmoil as you. Leave it a while longer and let him come to you. And for the record, Aquarius rising is a lovely placement. One of my besties has this. Yes, she can be aloof and distant at times but on the whole she's warm, funny, crazy, mad and makes me rofl all the time. She's really pretty too as most Aquarius rising are IP: Logged |
PeterPan
Knowflake Posts: 410
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted August 12, 2014 04:59 PM
Haha well why don't i give you the opposite perspective(as i am an intelligent, handsome male) XD.Defenetly don't write an email that IS weird. What you should do is bring up in a conversation that the two of you should do something somtime (don't say that, be more specific). And if/when you DO spend free time together doing your chosen activity you should give off hints that you are attracted to him. You see guy's find it offputting when females aggressivly pursue them, im not saying you should play hard to get, just indirectly make it known that you are attracted to him and if he feels the same way he will pursue you.
BTW stop defining people by leauges that won't get you anywhere, go for what you want not what you think you deserve
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bella_taurus
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted August 12, 2014 05:11 PM
Thanks to ALL of YOU for the great advice. It's driving me crazy because such a connection to him, er...maybe it's just infactuation...LOL.
I will keep you guys and gals posted on this...I hope all goes well!
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bella_taurus
Knowflake Posts: 349
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted August 19, 2014 02:52 PM
Update...I talked to him briefly today during my lunch break, AND I went for it. I asked if he had some time to talk and he said that there was conference call he needed to attend, but we'll talk later. I felt like a loser. Me and my "fantastic" way of convincing myself approaching someone at work is a good idea.
Ugh....
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