posted August 13, 2014 12:27 AM            

- They hide me from their social circle and family. (Which I find weird because I am very attractive)
- They start acting irregular: Call me one day, and the other one not, and so on.
- They start saying that they don't want marriage and anything serious.
- Every time I talk to them about being serious, they start acting defensive or they disappear for days.
- I start realizing that there are other women chasing this men.
- They start treating me bad. And letting me know that I am not their priority.

This are my male planets:

Sun in Virgo 25 degrees (10th house)
-Sun square Uranus in Capricorn "Applying"
-Sun conjunct Mars in Virgo "Applying"

5th house in Aries---> Mars in Virgo 29 degrees (10th house)
-Mars square Uranus
-Mars square Jupiter
-Mars square Saturn

7th house in Gemini ---> Mercury in Libra, 7 degrees, and Retrograde in (10th house)

Mercury square Jupiter
Mercury square Saturn
Mercury square Uranus
Mercury square Neptune

posted August 13, 2014 12:39 AM            

Even beyond astrology, I'm a big believer in the universal laws of attraction. In the past, I've attracted unreliable, flaky, sometimes emotionally abusive romantic partners. Like you, I have a hard Mars-Uranus aspect, my 7H ruler is square Mars, and Mars is opposite Neptune.

I understand it's not easy having a malefic planet in a hard, or even easy aspect to a planet that rules your 5th/7th/8th, or is in one of these houses. A lot of these aspects tied into how deep down, I did [and sometimes still do] feel I need someone who I can 'fix' so I can feel better about myself, or someone who won't want a serious relationship because I feel unlovable deep down inside. The universal law of attraction plays its part in all of our lives...the energy you either consciously or unconsciously send out into the universe will allow the universe to dictate what comes your way.

posted August 13, 2014 12:45 AM            

I know I attract those kind of guys because deep down I feel that I deserve that treatment. Even if those guys are not mean, they start acting like that before they know me better.

I do have self love struggles: Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto in the 12th, and Saturn in the 2nd house! That sucks.

posted August 13, 2014 12:55 AM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:
Sweet Scorpion, you gave me a lot of hope with that info about law of attraction. I will work on that list of things I want and I don't want

I know I attract those kind of guys because deep down I feel that I deserve that treatment. Even if those guys are not mean, they start acting like that before they know me better.

I do have self love struggles: Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto in the 12th, and Saturn in the 2nd house! That sucks.

Maybe I have to work on my self love much before I start a relationship with someone, and spoil it with my lack of self appreciation.

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I'm glad. It makes me feel good to know that my words were able to reach you. Because I empathize - I have been here myself. I have a lot of issues with this sort of thing, and I truly believe most of them are tied to self-worth. It's good that you're recognizing that your inner sense of not being good enough or deserving someone who loves you is definitely going to impede you from having a sane, healthy relationship. People who have a lot of aspects to their luminaries from outer planets will more likely than not be 'manifestors', meaning their feelings about themselves and things that they envision have a high likelihood of either coming true or affecting their environments and how others perceive them. So, you may be a manifestor like me.

posted August 13, 2014 02:55 AM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:
Sweet Scorpion, you gave me a lot of hope with that info about law of attraction. I will work on that list of things I want and I don't want

I know I attract those kind of guys because deep down I feel that I deserve that treatment. Even if those guys are not mean, they start acting like that before they know me better.

I do have self love struggles: Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto in the 12th, and Saturn in the 2nd house! That sucks.

Maybe I have to work on my self love much before I start a relationship with someone, and spoil it with my lack of self appreciation.

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I have Venus in the 12th house too. I've had similar experiences. They like the relationship private. When we do go out in public, they become very jealous and clingy (like they will lose me to someone else). Then they start to criticize me in private, pointing out the flaws they see in me. Followed by twisted kind of irony. Those I really care for end up marrying the very next person they date!

mercury89, if it's any comfort at all, you are not alone in this type of experience. Setting an intention as Sweet Scorpion suggests, may be the trick.

posted August 13, 2014 03:15 AM            

My 5th, 7th and 8th house are a lot different though…
5th house is in libra and my scorpio venus is trine jupiter, sextile uranus, saturn, neptune and conjunction pluto.

7th house is in capricorn, square mercury, sextile venus and pluto, conjunction neptune and uranus, opposite jupiter

I have never had the problem with falling for commitment phobes, I am more of the commitment phobes myself.
But I do have a tendency to fall for Air signs or Fire signs, and because I am very much earth and water myself, I don't really fit with these signs. They are usually more unserious than me, and just want to have a good time and I cannot keep up with them after a while so I break up before they do. I need something more serious because of my 7th house in capricorn, but since yours is in gemini I think you do better in a more light relationship.

I don't have a high self-confidence either, but I guess I am attractive like you, so I always attract a lot of male attention and it was never a problem for me finding love… but a love that lasts, thats a whole other thing and much harder to find.

posted August 13, 2014 11:41 AM            

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If you post your chart, I can see what is your ideal partner and what you really need to fulfill you - and also who you should try to avoid in your life. [/B]

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Hi, Next to Neptune... Hell yeah I want to know which men are suitable for me, and specially which ones I have to avoid!

Thanks

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posted August 13, 2014 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:

Maybe I have to work on my self love much before I start a relationship with someone, and spoil it with my lack of self appreciation.

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posted August 13, 2014 07:48 PM            

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Originally posted by MagnumJoe:
Darling, half of men in the universe are commitment phobes.

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
^ lol true that.

More and more women are too.

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I agree with both of these comments.

Mercury89,

Don't move to Miami as some locations I feel have this in a more concentrated fashion than others..

posted August 14, 2014 08:14 PM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:
LOL I already read the book "why men love ******* "... It really works but not that much....

The men I attract and like, are much more strategic than me.

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posted August 14, 2014 08:38 PM            

*pats you on the shoulder*

You're not alone.

"You get the love you think you deserve" is a pretty good quote to meditate on.