posted August 13, 2014 10:46 AM            

I am sympathetic towards him because we all have our own "stuff" and I try to be as understanding as I can be but it is sometimes very difficult for me. Normally it is things he processes in his own mind but sometimes he will let his anxieties affect the way he acts towards me. At his worst he is quiet and uncommunicative/unresponsive/cold, or can be very sarcastic/nit-picky/critical, or when better he has these incredible highs where he is on top of the world, hyper, energetic and ready to party. On his best days he is very much a "suck" (for lack of a better term), seeking my affection and very cuddley and this is when he is the most emotionally open and honest.

In the beginning when he was at his worst I used to take it very personally, thinking he was just not that into me. Then I chalked it up to him being a typical Cancer and the moodiness associated with this sign, but his chart isn't water-heavy at all and this seems different from that. Over time I've learned infinite patience in riding the waves. I believe a lot of this has to do with his feelings of self-worth and self-esteem.

Can this be seen here?

posted August 13, 2014 11:07 AM            

I know that's vague and general.
Like me having moon in Gemini... Mercury in cancer is out of it's comfort zone.

I knew this woman, dated briefly I guess.
The most anxiety riddled person I've ever met. She was always seeing a Dr. Always on meds, and they never helped. She had less a nervous shake almost always.

Cancer
Sun
Mercury
Mars

posted August 13, 2014 12:16 PM            

Ruler of the 3rd house is Mercury, very afflicted, especially by Saturn - excessive worry that can strain the nerves.

The Cancer stuff definitely doesn't help - adds emotionalism and insecurity, mood swings.

That Saturn/Mars/Pluto conjunction in Libra in the 7H must be very difficult to deal with, especially in relationships. It's square his Sun so there's a lot of tension there.

posted August 13, 2014 12:34 PM            

I don't really know what aspects to give you though but I do have Uranus sextile Virgo Mars, Asc with 0.18 orb. Mercury in 11H and Uranus in 3H. There's a lot of highwire activity in me; physically and mentally and sometimes I nearly have to beat my body to death to quiet my mind.

posted August 13, 2014 12:48 PM            

I have only gotten tidbits of his upbringing but from what I understand his father worked shift work and usually at night so he didn't see him much. His mother essentially raised him and his sister. He is definitely not the traditional rough-and-tumble son his father would probably have preferred to have so I think he has gotten a lot of teasing about that from him. They did not get along when he was growing up. He also admitted to having struggled with severe acne as a teenager which made him a very "angry teen" and greatly affected his social life even into his early university years when it began to clear up. Then people began to "notice him" he said. Even to this day almost a decade or so later he still has trouble really looking at himself in mirrors.

He really has been on a mission since then to really "prove himself" - in work and especially with women - at least on a surface level. So I guess this all ties in.