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Topic: Stalking your ex's girlfriend and obsession.
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florence Knowflake Posts: 1124 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 17, 2014 05:41 PM
quote: Originally posted by Yanmorg: Thank you! & I see we have a lot in common as far as our behavior patterns. I'll start reading or working out, but just like you, that'll only last a little while.. Intense sports might be an option, but I'm a manger at my job and I'm in school full-time.. PLUS I'm just flat out lazy. I did delete all of my social networking sites at one point and it was the most refreshing and liberating time in my life aside from my childhood years. I felt present versus always attached to my phone and what's going on in a virtual reality that doesn't really exist. I would do that again, but I'm so indecisive and I don't think I'm quite ready to let go of social networking completely. I feel that time is coming. I feel trapped and enslaved by social media because of these bad habits I pick up. It's not worth the hassle at all.
Yes, a lot I recognise including searching for intensity. I've really had to consciously fight myself against inviting darkness in. In my case I think sun opp asc probably is to do with that because until this thread I never realised how it was about polarising power on some level. With all your Scorpio it's probably so many factors. I deleted all social media many times and quit the internet but eventually I'd get it for some practical purpose and end up again curious. something going on there less to do with the person than some directing of my energies or self. Now I think giving myself ultimations to cut off all interest is part of the problem and I'm trying to learn to stand back from my energies and drives and curiosity without making them do something. My asteroid Alice is conjunct my sun if I remember rightly so it might be worth checking in your chart. IP: Logged |
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posted August 18, 2014 05:59 AM
quote: Originally posted by Yanmorg:
I did delete all of my social networking sites at one point and it was the most refreshing and liberating time in my life aside from my childhood years. I felt present versus always attached to my phone and what's going on in a virtual reality that doesn't really exist. I would do that again, but I'm so indecisive and I don't think I'm quite ready to let go of social networking completely. I feel that time is coming. I feel trapped and enslaved by social media because of these bad habits I pick up. It's not worth the hassle at all.
100% agree. I am exactly like that. I deactivated FB at one point and it was absolutely liberating. I think I might start a topic on this so thanks for the inspiration!
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DeepFreeze unregistered
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posted August 18, 2014 06:36 AM
I deleted mine for about 6 months and came back. However, that time away changed me. I check my fb about once a day for a few minutes. With a group for just my family if that's all that I want to see. I feel like I have the benefits without the trapped feeling but I know exactly what you mean. IP: Logged |
Geeky Knowflake Posts: 1588 From: the Sun, vacation house on Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted August 18, 2014 11:31 AM
quote: You hit it right on the head.I can't figure out what about their new girlfriend allows them to stay together. It has nothing to do with self esteem issues because that's why I'm puzzled in the first place. Not to take anything away from their new partner, but there's nothing wrong with me either. My thoughts go something like this: "Maybe she's less intense?" "Is she the happy go lucky type and I'm not?" "What about her makes him satisfied?" "Why did he leave me and end up with her?" "Are they even happy?" "Is he treating her exactly how treated me?" etc etc etc..
I do still do this 4 years later, but as time goes on, the length of time between checking up on him widens. It's so dumb because I don't even want him back. But I loved him and it hurt so bad not to have it reciprocated. Here's what we share: Venus in Scorpio Mars conjunct Pluto ------------------ “Most people would rather be sheep than stand on their own with antlers on.” IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 3416 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 18, 2014 11:36 AM
I stalk the sh*t out of anything that breathes!!! Or not...*pets Pluto* Sun, Moon, Mercury sq. Pluto IP: Logged |
Yanmorg Knowflake Posts: 1177 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted August 18, 2014 11:47 AM
quote: Originally posted by Geeky: I do still do this 4 years later, but as time goes on, the length of time between checking up on him widens. It's so dumb because I don't even want him back. But I loved him and it hurt so bad not to have it reciprocated. Here's what we share: Venus in Scorpio Mars conjunct Pluto
Yeah, I noticed this with me as well. I broke up with my "first love" over two years ago and I get disgusted just thinking about him. He still begs for us to get back together, but I don't even love him but I still stalk him at least 4 times a day vs. constantly back when I was heartbroken over him and he was dating another girl while we were broken up. I don't want any of my former guy friends, back but I still feel the need to know what's going on in their lives and their significant others'! IP: Logged |
Yanmorg Knowflake Posts: 1177 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted August 18, 2014 11:50 AM
quote: Originally posted by charlie: I stalk the sh*t out of anything that breathes!!! Or not...*pets Pluto* Sun, Moon, Mercury sq. Pluto
Haha, it had to be all that Scorpio tension!
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Yanmorg Knowflake Posts: 1177 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted August 18, 2014 11:53 AM
quote: Originally posted by DeepFreeze: I deleted mine for about 6 months and came back. However, that time away changed me. I check my fb about once a day for a few minutes. With a group for just my family if that's all that I want to see. I feel like I have the benefits without the trapped feeling but I know exactly what you mean.
I felt the same exact way when I deleted mine.
Before I got back in the habit of checking mine regularly after I had been off for awhile, I would even forget I deactivatedy account! IP: Logged |