posted August 25, 2014 09:52 AM            

And then I started looking up charts of all the people around me who have low drives whom I have to keep pushing to make sure they do something. Guess what, they all have cancer mars.

My cap mars is really tired at this point and wonder if any of you have suggestions dealing with cancer mars.

They clearly do not communicate with me their problems and then just passive aggressively do things to hopefully provoke me enough so I can take up whatever left-over business they had.

posted August 25, 2014 11:26 AM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:
What you should be looking at is what's in your chart that is causing you to give extra attention to these people when you don't want to.

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posted August 25, 2014 11:40 AM            

Why do you feel the need to push these people when it is exhausting you?

posted August 25, 2014 11:57 AM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:
So, there are some oppositions and a square maybe. It is a possibility that your view with these people is different side of the coin.

Why do you feel the need to push these people when it is exhausting you?

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because they promise to do certain things that affect me and then never do it.

posted August 25, 2014 12:11 PM            

if they are promising things and then disappointing you dont let them disappoint you any longer.

Do you have any libra placements or influence?

posted August 25, 2014 01:54 PM            

Are you talking about cancer mars or cap mars holding grudge?

Violet7878:

Good call! I have taurus rising, venus and neptune trine asc and 11th moon.

posted August 25, 2014 02:54 PM            

If you feel there is something wrong tell them and go on with your work. That's all you have in your reach to do.

posted August 25, 2014 03:15 PM            

When an argument erupts and Cancer Mars is involved,a "shutdown" or standoff can be expected. Because when feelings are involved, these guys cannot see anything from a rational perspective.

It really is not up to you to solve these problems.The issue started with them and should be resolved between them.

The good new is, they both have Cancer Mars and so the best you can do is supply a platform for them to talk about their feelings and how much the other hurt them etc.

Then you can encourage each individually to initiate a reconciliation-but don't push it.Stand back and let them take it from there.

posted August 25, 2014 03:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Cancer Mars is very sensitive and tends to be defensive about their feelings.

When an argument erupts and Cancer Mars is involved,a "shutdown" or standoff can be expected. Because when feelings are involved, these guys cannot see anything from a rational perspective.

It really is not up to you to solve these problems.The issue started with them and should be resolved between them.

The good new is, they both have Cancer Mars and so the best you can do is supply a platform for them to talk about their feelings and how much the other hurt them etc.

Then you can encourage each individually to initiate a reconciliation-but don't push it.Stand back and let them take it from there.

Do note however,this will happen quite a lot.

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posted August 25, 2014 03:51 PM            

I will suggest don't beat around the bush. Be direct, don't play games. Stand with what you want to say clearly. The more you beat around the bush, the more the situation, what ever it maybe, will get worst.

best of luck unknown

posted August 25, 2014 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
Charlie,

Are you talking about cancer mars or cap mars holding grudge?

Violet7878:

Good call! I have taurus rising, venus and neptune trine asc and 11th moon.

My concern is that I know cancer mars natives are very sensitive and I am low on water so I don't want to rub them the wrong way.
But I feel like an emotional trash can more than ever before

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posted August 25, 2014 05:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Supreme cT:
just plant the idea in there head and make them seem like they choose the decision on there own time, i know how to talk to a cancer mars lol i dated a cancer mars/moon for a long time

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never try to sideways manipulate a cancer moon person.

lol

posted August 25, 2014 09:46 PM            

I also know 2 sags with cancer mars...

posted August 25, 2014 10:38 PM            

Maybe not very helpful in the eyes of Cap/Aries, but none the less true.

posted August 29, 2014 08:42 AM            

But as someone who is both Cap and Cancery herself, I think it helps to give them space. Ask them for things at first so they can say no, and keep things open for you both to change your mind if you need to. When they shut down/withdrew, I'd just leave them alone, often saying so as well (or commenting on it later). Figured they needed some downtime to process everything.

But what I've noticed about them the most is that the sign their moon is in is so important in how exactly their Mars will play out. Dispositor and stuff. If the sign gels well with my chart, we get along swimmingly (lol, pun time!). But when not, well, it's really difficult. I feel like I try and try and any problems never really gets resolved.

My favourite Mars in Cancers had a Capricorn, Cancer, Virgo or Pisces Moon. Especially the Virgo Moon is someone I still think of fondly.

posted August 30, 2014 12:11 AM            

The cancer moon is getting on my nerves. The pisces moon sag sun has been non-responsive so I just leave it as is. Honestly they all whine and whine and whine. I'm a cap mars with sun square pluto so people tend to sense that I'm strong and reliable. I appreciate that they trust me but I have my limits. The whining plus passive aggressiveness and avoidance of problems are just no-no for a Saturn-Uranus heavy person like me