posted August 27, 2014 01:51 PM
This is interesting as I can relate to your friend.I also have Uranus in 7th.It was almost in the 8th house and I'm trying to figure out what the nature of depression stems from? As I also have severe bouts of depression and have had them all my life.
Are we depressed because of external manifestations not happening? i.e No job, no money, no love-life, no family, loss etc.
Or are we depressed in spite of having all of these things?
Coz your friend did draw a distinction between being single AND being lonely. He noted that they are not the same. BRAVO!!
But he put a bandage on a deeper wound by thinking that having someone would provide a shortcut to happiness.
He got married to her because she offered him "relief": Relief from thinking about how lonely he is.That is not the same as being in love.
With Uranus in 7th, one desires freedom above all else in relationships.There is also heightened restlessness and an aversion towards all that is conventional in partnerships.
I don't think this marriage will last as he wasn't optimistic going into it in the 1st place.
The problem with your friend is more internal.He,like me, wants momentum.
This marriage may offer a temporary distraction by having him be "busy" and not introspect so much. But when the dust settles and it becomes more predictable, he'll find that little(in him)has changed.
I suggest that he seek counsel.Or else he find a way to find another distraction that will last even longer.I am doing that myself because like him,my problem is more internal.
I am doing my best in the current relationship to be honest. But I can't guarantee that it'll last and wouldn't want it to if it starts to bore me.