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posted September 12, 2014 11:37 PM            

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I don't mean bully them and harm them excessively but when someone bothers you and you have a strong need to nitpick everything they say and how they think, lacking any sympathy if it makes them feel bad- what points to that?

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posted September 13, 2014 12:01 AM            

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afflicted mercury and or Saturn, maybe? I know that when someone really gets on my nerves, I really go in on them with my words. I have to ask: "Why would you say that? Do you hear yourself?! You're so stupid!" Among other rude things I might say. I have mercury in cancer opposite Saturn/neptune/uranus with mercury in the 4th house (my 4th house sign being gemini) then I have mars square jupiter/saturn with mars in the 1st house (my first house sign being Pisces)

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posted September 13, 2014 12:02 AM            

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I rarely know aspects in synastry, when it comes to this. I know that the worse I feel in my own life, the more likely I am to take something personally, which is usually what prompts me to do this. I try not to, though.

I've been under heavy cardinal transits. Saturn, Uranus, Pluto. Saturn might be a big culprit - Mars in transit, another. I try not to talk down to people, especially since I know that I'm not better than them. I prefer to find something in common with them, something we can agree on.

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posted September 13, 2014 12:23 AM            

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My bf and I have Pluto sq mercury in our synastry me being the pluto person and him the mercury, and I as a Virgo venus as well tend to nit-pick and obsess over certain things he says. I usually never forget, good or bad (am also a scorpio moon). Like if he says something I either interpret differently or overthink it to the point where I'm the only one obsessively creating toxic thoughts that I made up due to paranoia. Sucks, because I feel like it's because of this bad habit that he sometimes refrains from telling me things because he knows I'll take it differently. I like to dissect words and stuff.

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posted September 13, 2014 04:41 AM            

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How bout Mercury/Mars? Saturn can be critical too. Merc/Mars can agitate or reflect competition.

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posted September 13, 2014 11:58 AM            

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I would say Virgo energy, they can tend to be rather perfectionist oriented at times IMO and this can spill over into how they approach their partner. Also I have heard though never experienced it Pis/Sag squares in synastry where the Sag tends to pick on and scrutinize the Pis person, but have only read that not experienced it personally, well except for my own sun/neptune pis/sag square...stop analyzing and beating me up already goddammit...9th house sun as well, fun times.

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posted September 13, 2014 12:46 PM            

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^^ I think that may be a Sag trait in general? Because I've experienced that same scrutiny. Or I'm just highly Neptunian with all my squares and whatnot. But I do have Virgo IC like you said. Its just that it doesn't spill over into everyone (it does...just not the way I was thinking of when I OPd, which was when you hear someone's ideas and want to argue with them and know you could win, without shame or guilt if you end up being mean and sarcastic.)

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posted September 13, 2014 05:14 PM            

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We'll I'm Virgo rising and when I get into an argument I'm he kind of person that brings up that only inconsequential thing from 2 years ago...

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posted September 17, 2014 03:16 AM            

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My ex-husband called it "spitting poison" or "spitting fire" because I am apparently really good at cutting people down with words.

I don't know what in my chart points to this, but it's always after I feel like I have had my intelligence insulted. I feel the need to claim my superiority.

Ego issues could be my Leo Ascendant... combine that with my critical Virgo Sun and get hypercritical nitpicking?

I do lose a lot of friends this way, but I wouldn't be ME if I didn't speak my mind. The people left around me have to have really thick skin to survive... I think that also feeds my ego to feel like I have only strong people around me.

Maybe?

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posted September 17, 2014 11:20 AM            

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I thought about that. I was wondering what it could be, hard Mercury aspects, hard Moon to Moon aspects...
But what really stood out to me in synastry, be it romantic or non-romantic, is one Moon in someone else's first house! The Moon person is the verbally abusive one in the relationship. I have yet to see an exception to this. I really don't like this overlay!
I was thinking about a friend of mine who I always criticize. Our Moons are square by sign - Aquarius and Taurus but too wide for an actual square. I first thought this would be the reason. But then I know so many fixed Moons and I'm not anything like that with them.

This friend of mine has a Taurus Ascendant conjunct my Moon.
I ran some synastries with similar patterns over the time and, yep, this one keeps popping up time after time.

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posted September 18, 2014 05:23 AM            

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Mars/Saturn is very critical,nitpicky,can almost be sadistic---in both natal and synastry.

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