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Topic: Venus in the 11TH and Exes
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 10926 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 20, 2014 01:25 AM
None of my exes want anything to do with me after we split or end things between us. Being friends with exes is supposed to be a characteristic of Venus in the 11H, so I was wondering if this happens because my --Venus is in Aries, or is it --because it's square Saturn and Neptune? --Or is it because it's sextile Mars in Gemini in the 12th house. Which one? Also does anyone else have this happen who have Venus in the 11H? IP: Logged |
Supreme cT Knowflake Posts: 850 From: NJ Registered: Jan 2014
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posted September 20, 2014 01:49 AM
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CajunWitch Newflake Posts: 20 From: New Orleans Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 20, 2014 02:28 AM
I have Venus in 11th. It's easy for me to remain friends with exes, but I usually will not allow a relationship to evolve without a prominent friendship to securely fall back on. Venus Square Neptune could explain a lot for your situation. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 10926 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 20, 2014 02:32 AM
It would be easy for me to be friends with them too, but they don't ever seem to be able to fall back into a friendship. They just stop talking to me like they don't care if I live or die << Saying that objectively, not because I crave for them to. So, Venus square Neptune would come into affect after a break-up? Does it mean their rose colored glasses fall off about me? Or does I subconsciously change somehow since Neptune is related to that? IP: Logged |
next to neptune Knowflake Posts: 2712 From: The Moon Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 20, 2014 04:09 AM
My ex had venus in the 11th and I desperately wanted to be friends after we broke up, I actually offered to him many times, and I even told him while still together that I wanted to remain contact after a break up because I wanted to just have him in my life. He was Aqua sun and libra moon in 7th(square venus though), and after we broke up he has completely ignored me, and he even texted me and said that he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, that he doesn't like me and blabla. I think it's maybe because he still felt something, and my hope is to meet him one day and laugh about how stupid we were in a relationship and just agreed on being friends (or at least just friendly towards each other) But I'm sure it won't happen with him lol IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 10926 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 20, 2014 05:43 PM
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I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 9778 From: Death Star Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 20, 2014 05:58 PM
This placement shows YOUR wish to stay friends. And that's not enough for it to happen. Do they have Scorpio/Leo/Capricorn/Pluto/Saturn prominent in their charts? I think Uranus could interfere with it too. "It was fun while it lasted, bye bye" *turns around, walks away and forgets she existed*. ------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 10926 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 20, 2014 07:56 PM
So, basically, my chart is a map of disappointments since Uranus is in my 7H. With Saturn. And Pluto in my 5th. How anticlimatic. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 10926 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted February 17, 2016 01:52 AM
Bump, haha! Found this randomly and wanted more answers about Venus in 11H people. To update, yes they did have a lot of Capricorn / Scorpio/ Leo / Saturn /Pluto! Makes sense now.IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 206 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted February 17, 2016 08:33 AM
I don't have Venus in 11th, mine is in 5th BUT it's in Aquarius. I always want to remain friends and can't imagine going back to strangers/no contact after break up. But no guy ever wants to be just friends or remain friends after break up. It sucks for someone like us: Venus 11H, Venus Aquarius etc.IP: Logged |
Starry~* Knowflake Posts: 460 From: New York, USA Registered: Nov 2011
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posted February 17, 2016 09:39 AM
I know someone with venus in 11th conjunct neptune. Ex's are dead to him. But that's probably because he was a very prominent scorpio. However, when getting into a relationship he made it very clearly that friendship is also very important in a relationship. The whole "be my lover but also my best friend" thing is what he seeks.IP: Logged |
Elysia Knowflake Posts: 783 From: Registered: Aug 2015
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posted February 17, 2016 12:59 PM
Hey! I'm a 7th house Venus, but I'll tell you about my experiences with exes not wanting to be friends. Well, one ex, to be precise. I couldn't because I still had a hell lot of feelings for him. So is the case with my friends and their breakups. Whoever still has feelings, usually cannot stand being friends. In general three kinds of people can stay friends with their ex -- 1. Emotionally healthy people, who can process the break-up in a mature way and cherish what remains - i.e., hopefully, a nice friendship. 2. Those who 'moved on' first, or whose decision it was to break up or those who don't feel *that way* about their ex anymore. 3. Those who are secretly still in love but are being patient and hanging around till there's a chance to get back together. Earning brownie points in the meantime for 'being a good friend.' P.S. I do have Venus trine Uranus(01°17'), but that hardly qualifies as anything remotely like an 11H venus (esp since it also conjuncts Jupiter and wiiidely trines Neptune). Just thought I'd put it out there - some Uranian connection, even if far-fetched. IP: Logged |
Sylven Knowflake Posts: 407 From: Netherlands Registered: Nov 2014
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posted February 17, 2016 01:39 PM
Hmmm ... I'll answer. My Venus is in 11th sextile Uranus and opposite my Aquarius Moon and over all I am very or a bit Uranussy with Uranus being in 1st square Sun and trine Moon. I often have the feeling of been there done that. I am always on the look out for fresh and new. Yes, bored quickly when I was younger. It was almost always me who broke it up but I did remain on friendly terms with some. Though friends is a big word. My friends do change as well. I have not even a hand full I could call real friends. And the ones I have I don't see much. What I do have is I know a looooot of people. Many short contacts with deep conversations and intellectual as well. Strange when I am speaking about it. Friendship also kind of scares me off as I feel it's an obligation and I'd rather not have too many of those. But, most can always count on me, door is ALWAYS open when they need me even in the middle of the night. I know myself. If it gets boring I change my mind and I get bored looking for new.It's other way around with my husband. I was friends with him for 8 years. Not close but we always clicked and felt he understood me. Then after 8 years something happened. So our base is friendship and I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!! He is my best friend!! Isn't it so that once you're an ex you're not addressing your venus anymore? I dunno... IP: Logged |