posted September 23, 2014 02:59 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Yes to most of the above except I'm curious, can you please elaborate on what you mean by "imagined attributes"?

And no I haven't found a way to address these tendencies... Saturn is transiting my 5th and not having romantic relationships (in general/ever) seems like a reasonable solution though lol

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By 'imagined attributes', I mean, imagining romantic scenarios with a partner/romantic interest, making them seem kind/gentle/loving/etc, when in reality they haven't really shown those traits yet.

posted September 23, 2014 06:30 AM            

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Originally posted by socialgraffiti:
People with Neptune in the 7th (or Venus/Neptune):
-Do you tend to give imagined attributes to a crush/romantic partner?
-Do you tend to dream about a relationship instead of actually having one?
-Do you like to alternatively play hero/savior or damsel/dude in distress?

And most importantly: -Have you found a way to address these tendencies, or do you just let them be?

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I have a Pisces DSC, with Mars in my 7th house, and I am guilty of doing all 3 things; I literally tried to "mommy" my ex-husband because he was so wounded from his childhood(I wanted to save him from himself), and I daydream about the perfect man often romanticizing him, and the relationship.

It doesn't help either that my Neptune biquintile my Sun either.

posted September 23, 2014 10:42 AM            

People with Neptune in the 7th (or Venus/Neptune):
-Do you tend to give imagined attributes to a crush/romantic partner?

No.

-Do you tend to dream about a relationship instead of actually having one?

No. When I wasn't in a relationship I used to daydream about my "romance" n whatnot though.

-Do you like to alternatively play hero/savior or damsel/dude in distress?

Hmm in the past I did sometimes. At least when I still "believed" that it could help.

And most importantly: -Have you found a way to address these tendencies, or do you just let them be?

The reason behind the savior thing is that deep down I want to believe that there is no "lost case". While I think that the right motivation/help from the right people might help, the more realistic half of me (my venus conj saturn) doesn't think that I'm the right person.

posted September 23, 2014 10:24 PM            

Honestly, yes, I do some of those things. And I think because it's Neptune that it's not always conscious to me in a way, at least not when it's happening. I've never let anything get out of control though with any of these things. But sometimes after reflecting on past relationships/friendships I realize that my wanting to have such solid, close, 'spiritual' relations with others caused me to sometimes put on those 'rose-colored glasses' because I want to believe that the people I'm encountering or involved with are good people whom have my best interests at heart.

So yes, I can sometimes idolize and/or daydream about relationships because I guess I just have an active imagination in that department, and emotionally I want to believe that someone can love me for me wholly and compassionately which, in a way, I don't think is that wrong because deep down who doesn't want that from people? I like to fantasize and create scenarios in my head about the people I'm involved with. I don't usually ever act on them or truly believe that they might happen. But it's just something I do that usually has a romantic-tinge to it. I want to strive for that dreamy, one-of-a-kind, spiritual and emotional commitment. And I know it's not always logical that it's ever going to happen. But I can dream, lol.

I'll also admit to finding the whole damsel in distress/hero-savior thing very romantic, even if it can be regarded by some as illogical or delusional.

I've looked back over the years and realize sometimes where this line of thinking has gotten me and no, it hasn't always been great. But I attempt to catch myself now more-so than ever and try to stop myself in my tracks if I realize I might be over-romanticizing things or people.

posted September 23, 2014 10:48 PM            

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Originally posted by socialgraffiti:
People with Neptune in the 7th (or Venus/Neptune):
-Do you tend to give imagined attributes to a crush/romantic partner?
-Do you tend to dream about a relationship instead of actually having one?
-Do you like to alternatively play hero/savior or damsel/dude in distress?

And most importantly: -Have you found a way to address these tendencies, or do you just let them be?

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I am all of the above but I don't have Neptune in the 7th house. But I have Venus in the 7th house conjunct moon, and Venus is making a square with Neptune in 11th. xx