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Topic: Cancer Moon swings?
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orocairion
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posted September 28, 2014 06:54 PM
  
Hello all, haven't been around for a while. Been busy with life and planning trips, like a good ol' sadge.Anyway, I need some help here. I've been seeing this person for a while though I've known her for a while. We didn't use to hang out as often as we do now though, so now I'm starting to see some mood or personality changes from time to time. At one time they are one of the most caring and sweet person but other times their patience seems worse than that of an Aries with the tongue and ability to criticize of a Virgo. So, how's the best way to cope with it, if it's actually their moon and not them being crazy?. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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From: South Africa
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posted September 28, 2014 07:43 PM
I have Moon in Cancer and my mood swings are infamous.Cancer Moons need to blow off a lot of steam and have a friend who is very sensitive to how they respond to words, gestures and body language. I was writing,in another thread, that this position is very difficult(especially for the men). How to best deal with a Cancer Moon? Never judge and always be attentive to listen and offer care and advice-when needed. If they are like me, they respond well to sensitive types.Use words like "how do you feel about that?" , "do you feel confident about this...?" etc. Go for the feeling place all the time. We are a handful-I must admit.  IP: Logged |
orocairion
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posted September 28, 2014 07:58 PM
As an Aries Moon, it is quite a handful. And my Sag placements don't make me the best at body language reading nor at taking hints...And words, well, us sagittarians are quite infamous when it comes to words, lol Mind you, a Neptune conjunct Sun plus Pisces Asc probably blunts a lot of these traits in my case IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted September 28, 2014 08:28 PM
Look. I wouldn't say that I am an expert with dealing with this Moon position.I am a Cancer Moon myself(Sag Sun conjunct Neptune like you) and I usually don't have many Cancer Moon people as friends. I always feel like the ones I know are not completely "naked" with me. It makes it very difficult for any type of bonding to take place. The thing is, you will unwittingly say or do something that they'll misinterpret. But notice their body language afterwards. They may even resort to silent treatment(Sun/Mars in Cancer is also very similar in response) The key here is to take time knowing them. After time has been established, you'll find that they grate less on your nerves and you can almost always "read" what their response is going to be-in any particular situation. As a Cancer Moon,I like Virgo Moon people. It just takes time for us to bond and realize that we are not out to hurt or demean each other. Try to be open emotionally. I know its tough for Virgo's to do. But for Cancer positions, vulnerability is key.
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orocairion
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posted September 28, 2014 08:56 PM
Oh, but I'm not a Virgo moon, but an Aries moon.It makes even more hard, I guess IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted September 28, 2014 09:10 PM
Oh oops!!! Then its going to be very heavy-going.Aries-who is a lot more individualistic in nature- can snap and have an argument with a really close friend. But before long, they have forgotten all about it. They interpret disagreement as just having a differing point of view. And expect that the relationship continue thereafter. Cancer Moon -who has a more "communal" nature- would never dream of fighting with their close friend. If such a disagreement occurs,its usually serious.Cancer would personalize it and then wonder if they made a "mistake" in having that person as their friend? They are big on loyalty. Not always expecting that the two of you agree,but expecting that any disagreement be sensitive and cordial.Not all out war(like it can get with Aries) and then going on as if nothing happened. I have some Aries moon people I know, but am not close to them. They have the subtle nature of a gun. It just doesn't connect. And another thing, Cancer will always be focused/ wanting to talk about feelings. Aries doesn't enjoy doing this/doesn't even know how. They believe that feelings are meant to be acted upon,not lulled over for weeks on end. You(Aries Moon)may unintentionally bring out your Moon (Cancer)mate's friend mood swings-without realizing it. The two cardinal natures usually do this. Especially when they are squared
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orocairion
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posted September 28, 2014 09:52 PM
Yeah, but thankfully my Neptune-Asc-Sun thing mellows the Aries aspects quite a bit.Actually, the aries trait that really show up are that of being impatient and at rare times, being snappy. I do make the effort of keeping things cordial when we disagree, and other times when the subject is passionate, I'll avoid voicing my disagreement, just nod and move along And thanks a lot for your imput, it really helps get some idea of what should I keep doing and what I should avoid doing IP: Logged |
Sagical
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From: Glenbow, Canada
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted September 28, 2014 10:42 PM
Hmmmmmmmmm. I am a Cancer moon in a long teem relationship with an Aries moon person. How does he cope with me? He laughs his head off at me. Mr light and glib. Many times he has told me that I needed a good hard kick in the butt to straighten me up, until it backfired majorly in his face. He was shocked to the core. He had to do some research on something about me and to develop an understanding or empathy to deal with me. It has helped him a lot. If I tell him that I feel overwhelmed, he will just sit there and hug me or rub my back. Just listen till whatever it is is out of my system.IP: Logged |
charlie
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From: los angeles, ca, USA
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posted September 28, 2014 11:13 PM
My boyfriend's daughter is a Cancer Moon. Let's just say that my Capricorn Moon doesn't approve..at all. She is a manipulating, cry-baby and she will literally cling to your leg; in stores-at home-in park-in bathroom-kitchen-everywhere. 8 years old she is :-/IP: Logged |
orocairion
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posted September 28, 2014 11:21 PM
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Many times he has told me that I needed a good hard kick in the butt to straighten me up, until it backfired majorly in his face. He was shocked to the core.
Lol, I've have had thoughts of saying that at times, but I know better than to blurt it out by now. But it's nice to know it's doable but given my venus-venus square and merc-merc square with them, its probably a lost cause. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted September 28, 2014 11:26 PM
I have aries moon and I find that the best way to deal with the cancer moon I know is patience. Just sit next to them and hold their hands. Can't go wrong with that. Speak little, coz in such a critical time words tend to be taken the wrong way. And knowing myself I probably say the wrong things anyway hah. IP: Logged |
ifaf
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posted September 28, 2014 11:39 PM
My best friend isn't a cancer moon, but a cancer sun with a pisces moon and he takes things very personally. We've been friends for over 5 years and I've just recently learned about things I've said that hurt him 3 years ago, and why he was giving me the silent treatment some nights  I just thought he wasn't feeling well and never asked.
I'm a critical virgo, blunt scorpio moon w/ the awkward sag sun. The best I can do, and it's very hard for me - I don't even know if I can do it - is pay close attention and open up (eek..) Ask him if he's ok and think carefully before I say anything, if I remember to. He needs a lot of reassurance too, and I'm afraid I can't provide that he told me "I'm happy to see you" one time, and I didn't reply because I was uncomfortable. He was very hurt. I just took a few seconds to quickly calculate my words and told him it was nice to be there - even though that wasn't really on my mind, I was just OK being there. He'd know if I was lying, too, so I just have to find the correct words to express my true feelings without hurting his.
It's worth it though. Not many people are as empathic and genuinely care about what happens to people, he cried when he saw my parents weren't arguing over dinner for the first time in forever. He was so touched lol. IP: Logged |
orocairion
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posted September 29, 2014 11:19 AM
In this case, I think they are one of those cancer moons that don't like to show signs of any weakness or showing how something might affect them, so it makes thing a bit more difficult.Or maybe is that Leo Sun pride getting in the way? IP: Logged |
violet7887
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posted September 29, 2014 12:58 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
My boyfriend's daughter is a Cancer Moon. Let's just say that my Capricorn Moon doesn't approve..at all. She is a manipulating, cry-baby and she will literally cling to your leg; in stores-at home-in park-in bathroom-kitchen-everywhere. 8 years old she is :-/
LOL.
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