posted October 14, 2014 07:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
I have this. Indeed I very rarely shout when angry. Instead, I get icy cold, and my voice gets ever more low. It's not that I find it difficult to shout, it's just not my style. But I can say horrible things which I'm bound to regret later; unfortunately I seem to have a talent for hitting where it hurts the most, and when the autopilot takes over, I can only observe myself doing these things, unable to stop it, like watching a car crash. That's why I try not to get too angry in the first place, and nowadays, I rarely do. Once every few years or so. I must say though that it takes a lot to make me so extremely angry that I completely lose it. I'm actually afraid of what I'm capable of doing and saying in such moments.

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Wow. That's amazing.

My experience is the same. It's not that I can't shout.I won't.It's just not my style.

I also get very cold and my voice completely disappears or is muted.I cannot speak and when I do I am CUTTING. Don't test me,not when I am enraged.

posted October 14, 2014 07:31 PM            

But don't you get really self-conscious about other people "hearing" you arguing with another?

I think I should have added that I usually act that way when in a public place OR when I am having a disagreement with another person and people are present.

I really don't shout or get loud- no matter how angry I am.I usually ask for the two of us to speak in private by saying; "will you guys excuse us for a moment? I want to talk to X here...." etc

I notice that each time I disagree with any of my close friends,including my BF, I always say "can we not do this now?" in a very calm voice. That's if we don't have a proper place to talk. Far from people's gaze.

I just don't like other people's attention in my private affairs. Totally against airing my dirty laundry in public etc.

posted October 14, 2014 07:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
That's interesting.

But don't you get really self-conscious about other people "hearing" you arguing with another?

I think I should have added that I usually act that way when in a public place OR when I am having a disagreement with another person and people are present.

I really don't shout or get loud- no matter how angry I am.I usually ask for the two of us to speak in private by saying; "will you guys excuse us for a moment? I want to talk to X here...." etc

I notice that each time I disagree with any of my close friends,including my BF, I always say "can we not do this now?" in a very calm voice. That's if we don't have a proper place to talk. Far from people's gaze.

I just don't like other people's attention in my private affairs. Totally against airing my dirty laundry in public etc.

Oh,but when we get home and the door is shut.The gloves come off.The neighbours will not sleep.

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Well now that you mention it like that, i only "shout" when i have to debate and get my point across or of course when i feel threatened by someone.

When it comes to someone upsetting me about something personal, yes i will pull them to the side if people are around and talk to them in private.

posted October 15, 2014 12:40 AM            

But when wounded... And this is like a couple times in a lifetime rare... I speak simple truths quietly and gently that have power to crush and crumple souls, even more effectively because its done without intent to harm... Please don't hurt me, I can't bear what it will do to you. I know that doesn't make sense, or you think it done intentionally. I think its the Uranus square part. It scares me to see it.

posted October 15, 2014 05:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Do you guys find it difficult to shout or speak loudly? Even when you lose your temper,do you find it hard to raise your voice?

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No.

posted October 15, 2014 03:25 PM            

Just kidding. Sort of. But, my Mercury in the 8th is also conjunct Mars in the 8th. They're in Virgo. I'm more inclined to get snappy or irritable than shouty. I'm not inhibited about raising my voice. I can do it. But, I've also found that a very FORCEFUL tone is much more effective than a very LOUD tone. I've scared people without even yelling.

It's not what you're saying, but the power and punch behind it, which is very 8th House Mercury of me.