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posted October 26, 2014 05:04 PM            

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Lots of great responses.
I have this aspect. What Faith said is correct, be very careful.
It's a type of thing where people have super high ideals, at first. Then this necessarily fails, always, because that's how the real world works, and the disillusionment that follows it can lead to a kind of soulless player type, in both sexes. Once you figure out you have "no more heart to lose", you just don't care who gets hurt in the process anymore.
Like Faith said, it leads to: "It's not that hard to seduce women(or men). Once I figured out how to do it, it's like I could have anyone I wanted."

So there's this process of idealization -> heartbreak -> not caring anymore that goes on. And it can become a loop.

I think what you're trying to do, with trying to hook him with something, is the exact opposite of what this aspect really wants, and sort of what they're afraid of. That people are not really who they claim they are.
The challenge is to accept the reality of people, flaws and all. If you try to modify yourself just to appeal, you're sidetracking him from his lessons in life.

Be exactly and precisely who you are. If he doesn't appreciate that, save yourself the time and the effort and move on for good to someone who does, and without reservations.

When this aspect matures, the people start flat out hating those who decieve them. If you try to play him and he eventually figures it out, you won't even be friends after because his resentment will be so strong.

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posted October 26, 2014 05:14 PM            

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@DeepFreeze: "In the square, Neptune lies to Venus. (the native lies to themselves, though they don't realize this.)
They very much have this fairytale type of romantic idea. It really could involve anyone! Married, single, older, younger. The belief is that anything with that person of their obsession despite ANY and EVERY obstacle. They may not really be attracted but they FEEL attracted because they've built this dream, this obsession. They get obsessed! It can give any Pluto a run for it's money!
As an example, if this person were into Astrology, it could be all kinds of nasty synastry and they would completely focus on any good aspect. "Oh that's a trine by sign!" even if they don't aspect. That type of thing. Faults, obstacles... everything is "workable"."

OMG Becky...

I have Venus square Neptune, and a Virgo IC and everything you wrote is TRUE! Plus I have Moon opp. Pluto (*whispers* In the 5th...) I must be a f*cking NUTCASE and not even know it! In actuality though I do do that. Everything is "workable" to me and it always surprises me when others don't behave the same way. I don't think I've left anyone in heartbreak though, luckily.

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posted October 26, 2014 05:18 PM            

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posted October 26, 2014 05:30 PM            

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"When this aspect matures, the people start flat out hating those who decieve them."

YEP. I have Sun and Mercury square Neptune too, and Sun, Mercury, Venus / Mars and Mars ASC and Aries in all three.

I think hating someone who deceived you is pretty general and although I do fool myself into being obsessed with someone's ideal, I know I've never gone around just seducing men for the fun of it. I can't because I know how that ugliness feels, which I think is also a characteristic of the squares.

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