posted October 27, 2014 11:51 AM            

You don't need people around you that do not support or love you for who you are.
In addition, I am sure you are beautiful no matter how many kgs/pounds you weight.

Be confident, don't let someone with his own self-image issues drag you down. And don't look for approval outside of yourself, if you find yourself beautiful and treat yourself gently, you will attract those that think and do the same.

posted October 27, 2014 12:49 PM            

That kind of behavior is just not on and I don't think this is about him being a Sag. I had a Cancer BF who used to tell me the same thing and I wasn't even particularly overweight at the time. I just wasn't fit enough for him. He used to make me go to the gym with him. I was perfectly fine and he made me feel miserable about myself.

Don't let this guy do it to you! It's controlling and as you say mean.

posted October 27, 2014 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by aquagirlneedslove:

I have already severed ties, as I don't need someone bringing me down and making me feel like a loser.

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Excellent! Well done. Only YOU can tell you what you need to fix (or not). We need people in our lives to help us get to where we want to be/be who we want to be. Not try to change us into what they want us to be. He's being controlling, not "honest".

posted October 28, 2014 02:54 AM            

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Then when I get upset he looks at me like I'm nuts.

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posted October 28, 2014 04:08 AM            

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Originally posted by aquagirlneedslove:
I met a Sag guy that I think is really smart, funny, and a little worldly. When he is being nice we have so much fun, but then he changes. I find him very hurtful and mean. I am overweight and I am not ashamed or hiding it. He feels the need to point this out every time he sees me. Tells me I should lose my stomach and then tells me if I am ashamed to be on a scale I need to do something about it. I think that is so rude and awful. I don't think it has anything to do with being blunt or honest. I have thick skin, but if you are not happy with me the way I am then leave me alone. What about all of his short-comings that I don't mention. I just don't understand this behavior at all.

How does he justify acting/speaking this way? Then when I get upset he looks at me like I'm nuts. I have ended the friendship because I don't want to spend time with someone that wants to bring me down. - Let me add that he is the one that flirts with me. Makes no sense.

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Mostly when people point out "flaws" in us and criticize us for them, it is because they see the same flaws in themselves. Otherwise they wouldn't be so heavily invested.

Some people look at their association with another person as an extension of themselves. So they start to dictate standards on how another should behave so that it reflects "well" on them. Stuff that

In the interest of not throwing out the bucket with the water, maybe you should make a list(when calmer) of why you like to have this man around in your life?

If the friendship is worth saving,telling him to "shut it" and stop hurting your feelings would be enough.Otherwise if he continues to be belligerent and disrespectful,you may say goodbye.

Most Sag's I know cherish friendships and don't ever want to lose someone whom they see as "broadening' their horizon over something that they said or did.

They may trivialize the reasons you are angry with them at first, but if you are able to make them understanding(perhaps switching the game on them)and putting them in your shoes,they'll catch on.

posted October 28, 2014 05:51 AM            

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Originally posted by stillatlarge:
That is a Sag thing, the weight... My sister's husband was a sag who majored in physical education or whatever. He was a Tennis pro and later a tennis coach.

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posted October 28, 2014 06:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Kibriana:
Every single Sag I've ever met was big on physical activity. Compared to them, I fell like a lazy idiot.

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You've just met one who isn't.
Nice to meet you!

posted October 28, 2014 06:29 AM            

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Originally posted by LucieLemonade:
You've just met one who isn't.
Nice to meet you!

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posted October 28, 2014 06:39 AM            

Sags can put on quite a show of confidence that they really don't have. To be fair I think Leos can be the same way at times. It's just handled a little differently. Leos go fishing for compliments, sags use a sledgehammer to pound you down. (I'm Leo if you didn't already know)
This one sag sun/moon guy friend of mine at work would point out my gut before I lost weight and got in shape. I didn't take it hard though. I more saw it for what it was. Every now and then he would point out his own, but not often! Idk... His facial expressions gave him away.

But then he would compliment me on a job well done on other things, etc. Invite me out.
His comments never bothered me. I gave them back.

Anyway... Knowing many sag's myself. I wouldn't be surprised if he actually liked you but your weight bothered him. He might have thought that he'd like to date you if you lost weight.
They have funny ways about handling things. Blunt, but then hide other things. Hide thier vulnerablilities.

Anyway, if it bothers you, then you did the right thing.

I personally really like sag's a lot.
I couldn't have ltr with them though. Ohhhh... There would be murder.

Heck there's a sag with Leo moon at work that most can't stand. They love it when she's not at work but I get along with her OK. You just have to learn to brush off things. It's an important thing if you're around a sag.

posted October 28, 2014 07:35 AM            

Please do yourself a favor, and dump him. U guys only dating and he already disrespect and rude to you,imagine how he be like when you guys are married?
Please go find a guy who treats you with respect, this is the most basic and absolute thing you need in a relationship.