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Topic: Libra Men: slow to act or genuinely disinterested?
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ikja
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From: London, UK
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted November 28, 2014 12:14 PM
  
Calling all Libra men or women dating/involved with a libra man...Tell me please, how do they operate (generally speaking and in the absence of an accurate natal chart)? I work with a Libra man. I found out that he had a son, and went a little distant (I always imagined that I would be my partner's first and last everything. Ignore my idealism!). He ended up confronting me and essentially said that he 'thought we were friends and therefore, it didn't need to matter' I ended up saying that I thought he was nice looking and who really knew what the future could hold... It was information that took me by surprise and he should understand that. I kept my distance. However, he still made attempts to talk to me at work etc. Being in my space and squeezing my shoulder (meh!) I'm finally back to talking to him normally and I'm just wondering what the point of all of this is/was. Does he like the idea of just being liked/desired? Someone shed some light on these confusing men. ------------------
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PixieJane
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 28, 2014 03:35 PM
Yes, he wants to be liked as that promotes harmony and he can't see how it's fair that you push him away (as a friend or otherwise) just because he has a son, especially as he's doing the right thing by not abandoning him when plenty of men would. He can see (or will try to see) things from your point of view at times and would like the favor returned (this is not to be confused with spineless, Libra is a cardinal sign after all). By "like" I mean in the generic sense, not some sweet word for "romantic interest." Libra understands that men and women can be platonic friends, and when he said he thought you were friends he probably meant exactly that, not that he was wondering if you two might have a fling or even get married someday (even if he is interested in that, he probably still meant "friends" the platonic way and doesn't see why you should go all distant just because he has a son). Likewise, just because Libra is nice does not mean that Libra is therefore flirting with you (though he might be, which may be serious or just playful). I don't know what squeezing your shoulder means...that's something I think of as an older person doing to a younger, assuming he does it while talking to you face to face (otherwise maybe it's just letting you know he's there and talking to you). I guess that would depend on what's normal for your area (or at least where he grew up). That all said, Libra men tend to act slow as they internally debate options and possibilities. Another thing to keep in mind is that their scales can go out of whack if things (from people to colors) aren't as harmonious and balanced as they like which can change their character suddenly (so one minute they're very social & sweet and the next they just want to be alone and are extremely grumpy to any who approach them at such a time, or they go from being positive about everything to wallowing in a sense of futility). IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 28, 2014 04:32 PM
What's his Mars sign? The synastry is important as well. I have oppositions and squares with Libra... and our relationships move very quickly, at lightning speed. They make their interest known right away. IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted November 28, 2014 06:00 PM
Libra men usually make their interest known but you'd have to be careful and decipher whether they are in simply as a friend or something more. They are naturally more inclined to be flirty which to them they're just being friendly. Also they do have a tendency to withdraw, reassess things as well as completely disappear going into hermit mode where nothing you say or do will get them out of hermit mode until they have weighed things out.IP: Logged |
rorrr
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posted November 28, 2014 06:26 PM
I think they are kind of egomaniacs in that Libra Men can sometimes be a bit vain and want to play "the game"So beat them at the game... it might seem like they are slow to act, but you have to reel them in IP: Logged |
YellowGerbera
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posted November 28, 2014 06:43 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Libra men usually make their interest known but you'd have to be careful and decipher whether they are in simply as a friend or something more. They are naturally more inclined to be flirty which to them they're just being friendly. Also they do have a tendency to withdraw, reassess things as well as completely disappear going into hermit mode where nothing you say or do will get them out of hermit mode until they have weighed things out.
My man has Libra Venus & Mars, and he acted exactly how you described. In the beginning of our relationship, I had no idea where I stood with him and he never clearly said it (ie our status) either. I realized he was serious because of the things he said or the way he acted. Our relationship is definitely slow. He has Scorpio Sun so I thought the withdrawal was normal Scorpio thing.. I guess Libras do this too.. That means he withdraws DOUBLE TIME.. argh! However, now I have learned to just wait out for him. When he comes back it's like nothing happend. lol IP: Logged |
GoingDutch
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posted November 28, 2014 06:58 PM
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ail221
Moderator Posts: 5501
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
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posted November 29, 2014 08:57 AM
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Originally posted by YellowGerbera:
My man has Libra Venus & Mars, and he acted exactly how you described. In the beginning of our relationship, I had no idea where I stood with him and he never clearly said it (ie our status) either. I realized he was serious because of the things he said or the way he acted. Our relationship is definitely slow. He has Scorpio Sun so I thought the withdrawal was normal Scorpio thing.. I guess Libras do this too.. That means he withdraws DOUBLE TIME.. argh! However, now I have learned to just wait out for him. When he comes back it's like nothing happend. lol
Yup they come back acting as if nothing has happened and time hasn't passed.
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ail221
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posted November 29, 2014 08:58 AM
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ikja
Knowflake Posts: 695
From: London, UK
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted November 29, 2014 05:27 PM
Well he came to see me last night and things didn't really go too well. The good news is that he made the 40 minute trip. The bad news is that I recognised the power play interactions between us and now that I have, I think it is better for me to stay away from that relationship.It will end one of two ways, me hurting him; or him hurting me. I do not have any more room for emotional baggage. The great thing is that I am able to see what the future could hold and I am able to run now. I always seem to spot things and then override my judgements and surprise, surprise... this ends in tears. Weighing it up, it is not worth it and we have the ability to antagonise each other. NOT in a cute way. I ended up getting out of the car and going home, because he was annoying me that much. I can't imagine doing that for the rest of my life. I am not completely sure of his time of birth. However, our synastry using 12noon for his TOB is quite telling.  IP: Logged |
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