posted November 30, 2014 01:44 AM            

I can appreciate the videos from an artistic standpoint and like how they're both subtle and overt (without being crude) in their erotic elements.

That said...those songs don't really reflect me. I don't give all of me and don't want anyone to give all of them to me. I know plenty of Libras like me, they may want a relationship (though not necessarily a romantic one--I did know an asexual Libra though she still prized relationships) but to be wholly taken in by one person and vice versa makes balance difficult. Libras need harmony with a balance between dependence & independence, giving in & taking control, and devotion to one person can make that problematic. I'd think what those songs describe would be easier of Scorpio energy...and come to think of it, the one Libra I can think of who that would apply to had a Scorpio stellium & rising.

And as for Yin and Yang, I look for those within me as well as both in those around me rather than I am Yin in search of Yang. There's at least a little Yin in all Yang and vice versa, that's like a truism to me.

I've had a handful of lovers (not including the pretend ones or the sexual experimentation) and each one had a different energy...I've loved them all and glad I got to experience them. Currently I'm with someone who has a Scorpio Venus & Moon as well as Cancer moon...I almost ran from this one (as I feared being smothered) and only agreed to what I thought would just be a fling but I've come to take a lot of comfort in it. Like the "Aries Deluxe" I used to be with my partner makes a lot of demands and tries to be in control which we had to work out to make it work...but worth it! I still have a lot of interests outside my partner as does my partner, and I'd have it no other way. My partner is PART of my life as opposed to IS my life.

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Perhaps it would be different if my Libra stellium were instead in the 7H or 8H instead of 3H (so that my 3H stellium energy is focused more on community than one ideal partner, particularly when 3H has inherent Gemini energy--probably enhanced by my Gemini MC--making me want to relate to many different people while my 7H is filled with Aquarian energy and my 8H which some associate with sex is filled with Pisces, both of which probably compliment while "meta-chemically" altering the Libra & Scorpio energy respectively) and if I also didn't have a 5H Sag stellium (mixing with the Leo energies of the 5H and also my Leo ASC) which includes Mars and Eros which means I don't confuse or equate really great sex with really great love as those songs seem to do.

And from a sociological standpoint, I didn't raise myself on the media aimed at girls which promotes the views of those songs...and no, it's not inherent in femininity, I've known too many girls who, like me, were raised with a different image of femininity (typically--but not always--because they were lesbian or asexual and thus weren't drawn to the "Beauty and the Beast" romances that shaped most girls--not that they were necessarily aware, only that they were bored with what most other girls got into and thus found other stories with a different view of women/themselves and love instead which in turn shaped their--and my--thinking about such matters in a different way) and thus find the love of ultimate submission, taking the pleasure with the pain, a bit strange, even baffling (and downright disturbing in the case of 50 SoG or Twilight).