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Topic: Help with Scorpio man
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pwrofintent
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Nov 2014
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posted November 30, 2014 12:25 PM
  
I met a male scorpio 3 years ago via friend. I saw him on facebook and messaged him. He responded with his number. Told me to call him. I sent him a text. We exchanged messages for a week. He asked me to come over to his place. I said no cuz I didn't know him. We made plans for drinks on a Friday night. The night we were suppose to meet I got dressed up and then 30 mins before we were suppose to meet he sent me a text and cancelled. The following day I went over to his place cuz i realized he wasn't going to ask me out. We hung out and then I came home. I ended up giving him a BJ. After that he and i met up for 1 year for just sex. I thought I was in love and his darkness came out. He wouldn't even talk to me when I would go over. We would have sex, not exchange one word then he would tell me to leave. I was mentally unstable at this point in my life and he used me and treated me like crap. Yes I allowed it to happen but I didn't know what I was doing.
Then one day out of the blue, after 1 year of asleeping with me, he told me he met someone and was in a relationship. He told me he couldn't see me. I left him alone. He contacted me 5 times while he was in a relationship, to ask me for sex. He was in a relationship for 1 year. Promptly after his breakup he contacted me and wanted to resume our sexual relationship. Well, after a year of not seeinge cuz he was in a relationship I lost interest in him. No longer emotionally attached I said no to him. For 2 years he contacted me asking me for sex. I continued to say no. The more I said no the more he would ask. He recently met a woman and he posts pictures of the two of them together on facebook. He never refers to her as his girlfriend, but he spends every weekend with her and has introduced her to his family. I know this cuz I check his facebook. He still contacts me and asks me for sex. I ask him if he has a girlfriend and he always says no. Then he says 'I'll prove it to you if u let me come over!' After 2 years of not seeing him I finally let him come over.
He walked into my home and we sat on my sofa. I was super shy and he was staring at me, which made me very shy. I couldn't make eye contact with him. He placed his hand on my knees and tried to put his hands on my leg. My body language was closed off. I told him I felt like I didn't know him. I felt scared and uncomfortable. He asked me if I wanted him to leave. I said ok. Then he said do u want me to tuck you in before I leave. I said 'I know what that means, you just wanna make moves on me. No thanks!' He said 'I can be a gentleman!' I said 'no, you're not!' He got up and put his shoes and jacket on. I got up and he stared at my body. He walked to me and hugged me. Then he came in for a kiss and I turned my head, so his lips landed on my cheek. He then smacked my ass and walked to my door. Before walking out he looked back at me. Almost like he wanted me to stop him. I didn't. After leaving he sent me a text and said he really wanted to have sex or at least get a kiss.
After that for a whole week he tried to get back into my place. The day after he sent me a text at 5am asking me if he could pop by. I replied at 7pm and asked when? The next day my apartment buzzer rang at 5am. I sent him a message and asked if it wa him. He never replied. The next morning my apartment buzzer rang again at 5am, I ignored it and sent him a text later that day I asked if it was him but no reply. That night I sent him and asked him why he came over. He said he didn't know what i want talking about. I told him that he was a liar. When he came to my place he lied about something and I caught him in a lie but never said anything. So I sent him a text telling him 'you're a liar. When you were here you lied to my face and I caught you!' He replied 'enough out of you' the next day my buzzer went off again at 5am. I then sent him another text telling him that his behaviour was creepy. I told him that him ringing my buzzer at 5am and then not bringing it up again was weird and it was scaring me. I asked him to stop doing it because I really felt scared. Now my buzzer doesn't ring at 5am. He sent me a text a few days later and asked me to come to his place. I said no. I sent him a text and told him to never contact me unless he is asking me out on a date. I told him I demand to be treated like a lady. I told him if he contacts me asking me stupid questions I would just ignore him. 20 mins later he sends me a text saying 'so when are you coming over?' I ignored him. My question is...is this scorpio just playing mind games? Does he like me? IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted November 30, 2014 01:13 PM
pwrofintent, WELCOME TO LINDALAND!! 
Sweetie, I am so sorry you went through all that. I wouldn't pursue this, he doesn't seem mature or even healthy enough for you. He seems interested in one thing and one thing only, I am sorry. You deserve much better than that and I applaud you for standing up for yourself and demanding to be treated like a lady.
I myself have a bad track record with Scorpios, enough to never want to be with one again. They're so addicted to unhappiness, they couldn't see a good thing coming their way if it hit them on the top of their head. They don't think they deserve it. They're damaged souls (the unevolved ones) and they will only drag you into their misery like Hades did to Persephone. It is up to you if you want to go to the underworld but I would advise you to trust your instincts and your body language. You said no to him for a reason, you said you felt he scared you and creeped you out. These are red flags. Please don't ignore them.
All the best to you!  Btw this thread might be moved to Soul Unions, so make sure to check there for answers if that happens. ------------------
~the raving one dancing in the nude~ IP: Logged |
pwrofintent
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Nov 2014
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posted November 30, 2014 02:05 PM
Thanks dancing meanad. I appreciate the response. Yes, walking away is the best thing to do, but at the same time I feel attached to him. It's hard. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted November 30, 2014 02:21 PM
I agree with DM.
But I'd probably be more crude. I'd tell him to take a hike.
I wouldn't even give him a chance to "date" you because the probability that he'd just play you to get what he really wants is high. You put your heart in danger.
Walk away. Just my opinion. IP: Logged |
Vajra
Knowflake Posts: 1737
From: Europe
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 30, 2014 03:49 PM
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pwrofintent
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Nov 2014
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posted November 30, 2014 04:06 PM
Thank you Vajra! I will cut him off from my life. Thank you for pointing out what should be obvious to me but isn't. Yes, he says he likes me, but it doesn't come from a good place. He just wants the upper hand and it bothers him that I wont let him wrap me around his finger. Thanks. IP: Logged |
WarriorPrincess7
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Island of Sirens
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted November 30, 2014 04:06 PM
hun just stay away IP: Logged |
Gemini Blues
Knowflake Posts: 1278
From: The future... or the past. I get them confused...
Registered: May 2014
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posted November 30, 2014 04:38 PM
My $.02I'd consider it a personal favor if you remove him from your life. Guys like him make it hard for guys like me who just want to find a lovely woman who will let us love them. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 4939
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 30, 2014 05:27 PM
Hello pwrofintent! Welcome to LL  ------------------
"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
Linda Goodman 1925-1995 IP: Logged |
pwrofintent
Newflake Posts: 7
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Registered: Nov 2014
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posted November 30, 2014 05:49 PM
Thanks lalalinda.  IP: Logged |
pwrofintent
Newflake Posts: 7
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posted November 30, 2014 08:03 PM
Thanks geminiblue and warrior princess. I try to move on, but always end up contacting him or he contacts me. It's a never-ending cycle. IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
Moderator Posts: 730
From: Dreams
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 01, 2014 06:50 AM
Call the police, log a complaint about a stalker. For your own peace of mind, and safety.I would suggest cutting all contact with him. Potentially ask for a restraining order against him. This behaviour is not acceptable on any level, from anyone. ------------------
Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
Knowflake Posts: 1553
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posted December 01, 2014 07:34 AM
You should definitely call the police, seriously.I've encountered a few immature, disrespectful Scorpio men in my past, but they at least had tact. This guy seems to be completely out of touch with human behavior and emotions which resembles a psychopath..? I'm sure you made it more than obvious that you were uncomfortable and he continuously pursues you. I am a Scorpio with a stellium in Scorpio. Pluto rules my 7th house (Taurus Ascendant) and mars, pluto, and my Sun are all conjunct my descendant in Scorpio! I have never done anything this extreme. I have been a little on the aggressive side as far as pursuing a love interest, but he at least showed signs he was interested or at least he pretended to be interested. You clearly aren't interested anymore. Please call the police.
This is nothing to take lightly. You hear about murders happening like this all the time. I apologize if I'm being negative, but your safety is important. I would take serious precautions. What is his chart looking like? Moon square mars?
Mars conjunct pluto?
8th house stellium? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 3985
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 01, 2014 10:41 AM
Ew.And: don't see him anymore! IP: Logged |
shyberry
Knowflake Posts: 159
From: camp flog gnaw
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted December 01, 2014 12:23 PM
quote:
Originally posted by pwrofintent:
We hung out and then I came home. I ended up giving him a BJ.
I wasn't expecting that hahaha. Anyway! I'm sorry, but there's so much one person can take and he sounds like a big piece of sh*t. You literally tell him you wanted to be treated like a lady, then he replies with, "So when are you coming over?" like he really doesn't care about what you want and only focuses on his needs. Drop his sorry ass and find a man with morals, please. He sounds like the boys I went to high school with. IP: Logged |
Nine
Moderator Posts: 2700
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 01, 2014 06:14 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
Call the police, log a complaint about a stalker. For your own peace of mind, and safety.I would suggest cutting all contact with him. Potentially ask for a restraining order against him. This behaviour is not acceptable on any level, from anyone.
That's just silly. quote:
I wasn't expecting that hahaha.
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