posted December 06, 2014 11:17 AM            

Guess I'm not a big fan of this sign for dudes.

How did your encounters with Pisces guys go?

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Gemini Rising
Sun in Leo (2nd house)
Moon in Cancer (1st house)
Mercury in Virgo (3rd house conj.)
Venus in Virgo (3rd house)
Mars in Libra (5th house)

posted December 06, 2014 11:31 AM            

He was:
- Ambivalent
- Unassertive
- Passive
- Moody
- Mean
- Indecisive
- Attention-seeker
- Selfish & self-absorbed
- Egostical
- Sensitive (he was in deep in his feelings all the time)
- Decisions are based off of his feelings

He was a bit of jerk to be honest. He claimed he believed in romance but he was plain delusional. If you like a strong man who can weigh the pros and the cons in a reasonable manner, Pisces men aren't for you.

Pisces men tend to make hasty decisions based on their feelings and regret them later. They can't stand to be in the wrong and never apologize. They have an inflated ego which doesn't match their lack of strength. They have a hard time taking the lead and prefers to be lead by others.

One thing is that they can talk about romance, love, children and marriage then disappear on your cold turkey. When they disappear and isolate themselves, they don't care about your feelings. They sometimes come back and act as though nothing happened. They don't like to apologize.

posted December 06, 2014 12:58 PM              

Personally I've never dated a Pisces, but I've been friends with Pisces influenced people. They do need a reality check sometimes, but they're also very comforting and giving. My guy friends have Venus in Pisces and you can tell they don't want to make anyone feel bad by things they say, another loves me like a sister and he's really sweet but yes, easily bossed around. He's an Aquarius. The other is an Aries and they have different needs because of other placements. Still, a common factor seems to be they get along with feminine women best. I think my Aquarius friends had to know me for a bit before he understood all my smart-ass comments were my way of relating and befriending.

The other Venus in Pisces wasn't my cup of tea, he seemed to lack logic and being rational. Definitely emotional though, which was a relief after being with a Capricorn, and a Sag with a Capricorn moon.

posted December 06, 2014 01:10 PM            

With all due respect, I think calling people "puerile" is uncalled for here. No one has hated on a Pisces yet.

posted December 06, 2014 01:22 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
No, my phone auto-corrects "people" to "puerile"!

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posted December 06, 2014 02:11 PM            

another thing. strength. what a stigma. remember, it takes strength for someone to elevate you. pisces heavy people have an extreme well of emotional strength. do not underestimate them.

posted December 06, 2014 03:47 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:

I'm crushing on a Mars in Pisces right now, and it's pretty cute. He's gentle in the way he flirts so he never comes on too strong even if we both feel it. He's attentive in the right ways, without being unassertive. I think Pisces, like Capricorn, gets better with time.

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posted December 06, 2014 03:52 PM            

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Originally posted by CatMote:

i wouldnt call myself passive either. maybe its my sun or maybe its that my mars is in the 5th house. i chase after what i want with utter conviction. and yeah, it takes an ego to do that. but the biggest gains only come from the biggest risks. im definitely the one who gives more than he receives; a problem im trying to work on.
maybe you should be honest with him? tell him you arent ready for the kind of thing hes ready for. dont shoot him down because he loves you. just have fun with him. it seems to be going really well from what im hearing, so why not continue it and see where it goes? sometimes what you are looking for isnt really what you want, and what you get is exactly what you need. the universe is speaking to you, listen. and if it feels wrong, then leave him.

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You are an Aries sun, so that really rules out the passive stigma attached to your mars.

I do apologize if this thread seemed like a Pisces-hate thread. That's not really what I'm trying to do, it just seemed that way. I'm just stating my opinions with one so far. Sorry if you got offended in any way.

posted December 06, 2014 08:49 PM            

The second person has Pisces Moon and Mercury. He also thought he was in love and told me how much he wanted to marry me and have kids with me - very early on in our relationship. He suffers from BPD. He is kind hearted but has serious mental problems and as things are it would be basically impossible for him to have a healthy long term relationship, let alone marriage.

I'm not sure about your guy and your situation. I'm not in your shoes obviously. But from what I've learnt in life - the romantic storyline of "We met. Fell in love. Got married the week after - and lived happily ever after" happens extremely rarely. It's a one in a million situation.
More commonly, an early marriage will lead to more problems than you could imagine in your worst nightmares.

You really need to get to know someone inside and out before you make this decision. I'm glad you're being level-headed and you're not considering his proposal.
The fact that he is in such a rush seems strange to me. I am probably less trusting than the average person, but I would already be on the look out for mental illness.

posted December 06, 2014 09:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:

I have some questions if you want to answer them... but don't worry about it, if you don't want to give details...
How old is he?
Is he from a cultural background where early marriage is encouraged or required and where women are generally discriminated against and oppressed?
Is he simply mentioning marriage or is he trying to pressure you into it?
Does he actually suffer from any mental illnesses you know of?

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Lol funny thing about the first guy.. I'm a Leo with Cancer moon, too I hope I don't turn out to be like him. But then again, my moon's a singleton planet in water, so that rules out the obsessive stalker attitude.

posted December 06, 2014 09:59 PM              

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
He is from Lebanon, which I do believe women are oppressed and discriminated in that place.

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posted December 06, 2014 11:29 PM            

No one has treated me better and no one has been as reliable, stable, and loving.

posted December 06, 2014 11:41 PM              

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Pisces men are really sweet, can't deny that. I get "Good morning beautiful/cutie" messages in the morning. It's cute but idk why it makes me feel uncomfortable. Like it just does.

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*preach* I totally get it, girl. We are fiery women...we want that, but we want it on our terms and later.

Second, don't you have Aquarius in your chart? If you do you probably want a lover who's more like a friend rather than one that courts you traditionally (like the good morning texts)

Three, you're just not as into it and that's OKAY. You're not obligated to be. Do what you want. If you like him enough to keep dating him, date him and see if that little "cringe* goes away. If you don't want to keep dating him then just sit him down and say "It's me, not you" and leave it there.

posted December 07, 2014 06:34 AM            

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Originally posted by jupitersgirl:
My ex was a pisces sun retro mercury in pisces and my fiance is a pisces sun and venus. They are both assertive but ex was a little elusive when he was confronted, he was escaping the arguments and was a conformist. My fiance is very assertive and dominant but then again he has moon and Mars in scorpio and thankfully has mercury in aries! Retro mercury in pisces with a Libra rising is elusive and escapist in my experience and I can't stand men like that. He had no problems with lying as well.
WARNING: please look at their mercuries and mars. If you don't want an unassertive, elusive person don't go for retro mercury and mars and mars in pisces.

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I already said it.. he's a Pisces sun, mercury, and mars lol. So far, I've seen the elusive attitude and I wanna snap my finger in his face to get him back to reality.

posted December 07, 2014 06:52 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
*preach* I totally get it, girl. We are fiery women...we want that, but we want it on our terms and later.

Second, don't you have Aquarius in your chart? If you do you probably want a lover who's more like a friend rather than one that courts you traditionally (like the good morning texts)

Three, you're just not as into it and that's OKAY. You're not obligated to be. Do what you want. If you like him enough to keep dating him, date him and see if that little "cringe* goes away. If you don't want to keep dating him then just sit him down and say "It's me, not you" and leave it there.

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Yeah, I have 2 planets in Aquarius, that includes my descendant ruler. I definitely like friendly relationships, especially with my venus in the 3rd house.

posted December 07, 2014 06:53 AM            

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Originally posted by PisceanDream:
They aren't. I can assure you that. I've been surrounded by heaps of Lebanese people my whole life and am very aware of the culture.

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posted December 07, 2014 06:21 PM            

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Due to the large number of officially recognized religions in Lebanon, Lebanese family matters are governed by at least 15 [2] personal statute codes. Lebanese women have legal protection that varies depending on their religion.[3] Marriageable age can be as young as 12.5, polygamy is allowed if the male of the family is Muslim, parental authority belongs to the patriarch of the house and legal guardian of all children, and female children receive less inheritance than a male child would.[2] Children born to a Lebanese woman and a man from another country will not have their children granted Lebanese nationality.[4]

Local and regional NGOs have helped to increase awareness of violence against women in Lebanon.[5][6] Government policies regarding this are poor however, and attempts to improve this area have been met with resistance.[7] Lebanon's laws do not recognize the concept of spousal rape,[2] and attempt to add this to law have been attacked by Lebanese clerics.

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Solar_Leo_Queen - If you do want a fun relationship, and he is from a culture where relationships are taken very seriously.. it would make things difficult. Is his mum a stay at home mother? Does he have siblings in their late teens/early 20s who are already married?

posted December 07, 2014 07:22 PM            

I have Sun, Moon, Mercury in Pisces - I know I confuse people because of my unusual (apparently) logic and irrational (apparently) behaviours. However, like what someone said here, I really just DO and LIVE what I FEEL right at the moment... so sometimes it's hard for me to relate to stuff being said about Pisces. I don't know what other fellow Pisces were going through at that moment.. kwim??

posted December 07, 2014 08:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:

Solar_Leo_Queen - If you do want a fun relationship, and he is from a culture where relationships are taken very seriously.. it would make things difficult. Is his mum a stay at home mother? Does he have siblings in their late teens/early 20s who are already married?

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His mom, I do think she is a stay-at-home mother. As for his siblings, no, I don't think any of them are married.

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Forget what I said about mental illness. I didn't realise he was so young. He's probably just excited and feels like you're the one at the moment.
But you might have very different dreams. If he is from a traditional family he would be dreaming about you cooking away in the kitchen, while your 4 kids are playing in the background... while you are dreaming about going out and having fun with him - and just dating.

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posted December 08, 2014 11:16 AM            

he is ambivalent, passive, says one thing and does another, selfish, self absorbed. ...

He says he is a feminist but treats women like objects.

He aske me out last Monday to go out last Wednesday. I say yes.....he doesn't get back to me and I chase him up to find out he's now not free and he will let me know when is.....

Why start it and then be so rude!!!!