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hannaramaa
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posted December 08, 2014 12:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
and then doesn't do s*it. Why return then?

Yes, I'm an Aries too but I feel like I make more sense as a Sun, Mercury, Venus in Aries than an Aries sun alone. The one I'm referring to has Moon in Sagittarius, Venus in Pisces, Mars in Gemini and he makes me feel like I'm waiting for something that will never come (I'm living my life mind you, I'm just saying when it comes to him that's how I feel)

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posted December 08, 2014 12:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Push the issue. Ask direct questions.

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posted December 08, 2014 12:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was pushy last time and it made him resent me. But true, Aries won't spill right away unless you force them. So if you don't force them, do they take that as thinking you don't care? But if that's the case you'd think they'd take it as a challenge then, right? SEE?! I mindf*ck myself over this

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posted December 08, 2014 12:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
don't be pushy. direct yes, but not pushy.
communicate that you care, so he can't think otherwise, but give him the space to determine his own feelings, cuz with all that mutable he probably has hard time discerning what he really feels which will make him hold out on "doing s*it"

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posted December 08, 2014 12:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Comatoes     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mareaire:
don't be pushy. direct yes, but not pushy.
communicate that you care, so he can't think otherwise, but give him the space to determine his own feelings, cuz with all that mutable he probably has hard time discerning what he really feels which will make him hold out on "doing s*it"


Great advice, I endorse this message

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posted December 08, 2014 01:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I communicated all of that last time, so now I'm gunshy. Plus I initiated the conversation first the last time we talked (this time around) so I feel the ball is in his court. I think if he was brazen enough to text me out of the blue 5 months after we said we were going our separate ways, then he would put more effort into it if he wants to?...

But per your advice I just texted him saying I was glad his grandma was okay. There. That's as much as I'll give right now, lol.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"But per your advice I just texted him saying I was glad his grandma was okay. There. That's as much as I'll give right now, lol."

haha


No, but really, the brazen ends at him texting…he's trying to see if he wants a relationship, he hasn't made that decision yet. exploration mode as opposed to decisive action mode. be chill and be yourself, let the ball be in his court with patience.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For how long 'til it's a lost cause?

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posted December 08, 2014 01:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hmmm…how long has it been?

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posted December 08, 2014 01:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I recently had a girl I haven't talked to in awhile text me out of the blue. Ironically she is a virgo sun with an aries moon, but i'm not sure how signifigant that is in all of this. Anyways... When we started texting she was sending me one word texts and didn't seem to have much to say so the conversation quickly fizzled out and we haven't spoken since. Naturally, I was confused by her behavior. I mean she is going to try and start a conversation with me and not say anything, wtf? It seems like I attract people who expect me to do all the emotional heavy lifting while they just sit on their azz, which is something I refuse to do anymore.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mareaire:
hmmm…how long has it been?

Well we knew each other from April to June but we fought when we were apart a lot. When we hung out it was fun, easy... then had the falling out in June. He texted me first week of November. I still haven't seen him since May...

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posted December 08, 2014 01:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
nevermind, you don't have to answer that.

what are his actions saying, as opposed to his words? do you guys hang out and have fun? is he ''there'' but then draws back when you have ''the conversation"?

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posted December 08, 2014 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh you already answered that before that last post.

do you guys live near each other? i don't think you can come to any conclusions with out hanging out. just some casual time spent to see how it feels.

he could just be wishy washy and that may not be worth your time.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mareaire:
nevermind, you don't have to answer that.

what are his actions saying, as opposed to his words? do you guys hang out and have fun? is he ''there'' but then draws back when you have ''the conversation"?


Oh we're not even there right now. I haven't seen him since May. His actions are saying he doesn't care (anymore?) Because he never texts me. Initially, like the next week after he'd broke the ice, I think we were trying to hang out with each other - the whole "What are you doing?" texts, but he was busy the first time, and then I saw it too late the second and then it just died. However, I feel like he's doing stuff indirectly on Facebook for my attention but since that's all about perception it's basically hearsay.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mareaire:
oh you already answered that before that last post.

do you guys live near each other? i don't think you can come to any conclusions with out hanging out. just some casual time spent to see how it feels.

he could just be wishy washy and that may not be worth your time.


Lol yeah, we live five blocks from one another. I don't know if he knows that though.

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posted December 08, 2014 01:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mareaire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh yea, i'd definitely just leave that ball in his court!
you've wished grandma well, now let him come up with a move. if he doesn't give you anything, don't pursue. not worth it.

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