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Topic: When an Aries returns...
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 12:19 AM
and then doesn't do s*it. Why return then? Yes, I'm an Aries too but I feel like I make more sense as a Sun, Mercury, Venus in Aries than an Aries sun alone. The one I'm referring to has Moon in Sagittarius, Venus in Pisces, Mars in Gemini and he makes me feel like I'm waiting for something that will never come (I'm living my life mind you, I'm just saying when it comes to him that's how I feel) IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2157 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted December 08, 2014 12:22 AM
Push the issue. Ask direct questions.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 12:25 AM
I was pushy last time and it made him resent me. But true, Aries won't spill right away unless you force them. So if you don't force them, do they take that as thinking you don't care? But if that's the case you'd think they'd take it as a challenge then, right? SEE?! I mindf*ck myself over this IP: Logged |
mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 12:46 AM
don't be pushy. direct yes, but not pushy. communicate that you care, so he can't think otherwise, but give him the space to determine his own feelings, cuz with all that mutable he probably has hard time discerning what he really feels which will make him hold out on "doing s*it" IP: Logged |
Comatoes Knowflake Posts: 302 From: Registered: Jan 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 12:55 AM
quote: Originally posted by mareaire: don't be pushy. direct yes, but not pushy. communicate that you care, so he can't think otherwise, but give him the space to determine his own feelings, cuz with all that mutable he probably has hard time discerning what he really feels which will make him hold out on "doing s*it"
Great advice, I endorse this message
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 01:00 AM
I communicated all of that last time, so now I'm gunshy. Plus I initiated the conversation first the last time we talked (this time around) so I feel the ball is in his court. I think if he was brazen enough to text me out of the blue 5 months after we said we were going our separate ways, then he would put more effort into it if he wants to?...But per your advice I just texted him saying I was glad his grandma was okay. There. That's as much as I'll give right now, lol. IP: Logged |
mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 01:14 AM
"But per your advice I just texted him saying I was glad his grandma was okay. There. That's as much as I'll give right now, lol."haha No, but really, the brazen ends at him texting…he's trying to see if he wants a relationship, he hasn't made that decision yet. exploration mode as opposed to decisive action mode. be chill and be yourself, let the ball be in his court with patience.
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 01:15 AM
For how long 'til it's a lost cause?IP: Logged |
mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 01:17 AM
hmmm…how long has it been?IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 10184 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 08, 2014 01:21 AM
I recently had a girl I haven't talked to in awhile text me out of the blue. Ironically she is a virgo sun with an aries moon, but i'm not sure how signifigant that is in all of this. Anyways... When we started texting she was sending me one word texts and didn't seem to have much to say so the conversation quickly fizzled out and we haven't spoken since. Naturally, I was confused by her behavior. I mean she is going to try and start a conversation with me and not say anything, wtf? It seems like I attract people who expect me to do all the emotional heavy lifting while they just sit on their azz, which is something I refuse to do anymore. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 01:28 AM
quote: Originally posted by mareaire: hmmm…how long has it been?
Well we knew each other from April to June but we fought when we were apart a lot. When we hung out it was fun, easy... then had the falling out in June. He texted me first week of November. I still haven't seen him since May... IP: Logged |
mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 01:30 AM
nevermind, you don't have to answer that.what are his actions saying, as opposed to his words? do you guys hang out and have fun? is he ''there'' but then draws back when you have ''the conversation"?
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mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 01:33 AM
oh you already answered that before that last post.do you guys live near each other? i don't think you can come to any conclusions with out hanging out. just some casual time spent to see how it feels. he could just be wishy washy and that may not be worth your time. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 01:35 AM
quote: Originally posted by mareaire: nevermind, you don't have to answer that.what are his actions saying, as opposed to his words? do you guys hang out and have fun? is he ''there'' but then draws back when you have ''the conversation"?
Oh we're not even there right now. I haven't seen him since May. His actions are saying he doesn't care (anymore?) Because he never texts me. Initially, like the next week after he'd broke the ice, I think we were trying to hang out with each other - the whole "What are you doing?" texts, but he was busy the first time, and then I saw it too late the second and then it just died. However, I feel like he's doing stuff indirectly on Facebook for my attention but since that's all about perception it's basically hearsay. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9077 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 08, 2014 01:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by mareaire: oh you already answered that before that last post.do you guys live near each other? i don't think you can come to any conclusions with out hanging out. just some casual time spent to see how it feels. he could just be wishy washy and that may not be worth your time.
Lol yeah, we live five blocks from one another. I don't know if he knows that though. IP: Logged |
mareaire Knowflake Posts: 242 From: avalon Registered: Feb 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 01:40 AM
oh yea, i'd definitely just leave that ball in his court! you've wished grandma well, now let him come up with a move. if he doesn't give you anything, don't pursue. not worth it. IP: Logged |