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Topic: Toning Down my wee little cancer traits
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musclecrab
Newflake Posts: 18
From: Sacramento,ca, usa
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 20, 2014 01:31 PM
  
Good morning everyone -I was hoping to have some guidance from fellow cancer's how you're able to tone down some of your intensity. I find the minute I'm intimately involved with a significant other I vest all of myself into that person and find it hard to 'play it cool, play it reserved' and even keep 'playing the field'. Because of this I come off pretty intense, asking time of those I date and being 100% Mr Crab. I'm in my 30's now and would love an opportunity to cool my jets, its just that once that intensity gets at an all time high 9/10 times I blow the other person out of the water...then spend my time on a reign of terror leaving a trail of broken hearts in my wake. (I become a player rather than a gentlemen) Anyways...Advice on toning me down? Maybe I need yoga in my life IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 48210
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 25, 2014 08:11 PM
Welcome!IP: Logged |
BellaFenice
Knowflake Posts: 2273
From: Sparkles the Unicorn-When will your faves?
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted December 25, 2014 09:44 PM
What is going in your natal chart? What you are describing sounds Plutonian? Do you have any hard Pluto aspects such as Pluto conj Moon? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 2692
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 26, 2014 05:28 AM
I am a Cancer as well but Pluto squares my mercury, sun and moon so I am very intense in everything that I do! My emotions (moon) run extremely deep, my way of communicating and analysis of others communication (pluto+mercury) borders on detective work and my persona (sun) is very intense. I don't dwell on surface and anything superficial is boring to me. I won't tolerate anyone that isn't deep or not open like I am and it's safe to say that the general (just going by simple sun signs or energies) Libra, Gemini or Sag finds me a wee too much 
I have had best luck with people that are "plutonian" where Pluto makes a tight aspect to Sun/Moon/Mars/Mercury/angles. Scorpio Suns or Scorpio Moons are OK but I find them less intense than I. Pluto in 8th house works but Pluto to angles seems to be best. Don't tone yourself down but instead, find yourself a partner with same intensity that you can be yourself with! IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 3958
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 26, 2014 09:24 AM
quote:
Originally posted by BellaFenice:
What is going in your natal chart? What you are describing sounds Plutonian? Do you have any hard Pluto aspects such as Pluto conj Moon?
Yep.
I'm the same way as the op and I only have cancer mc.
But Pluto/asc. IP: Logged |
venus2tinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 49
From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 27, 2014 05:00 AM
Intensity is a language. You just have to wait for the right person to come along who speaks your language.Until then use your shell...lol- is that bad advice? Well we are crabs and have shells right? We are self protective and there's a reason for that. Because we can get hurt. So you can use your shell, and there are good ways to use your shell and not shut the world out. Looking at the other aspects of you chart would give you some ideas about where you can find an outlet for your energy or where you could refocus it or channel it. I have crazy emotions. I don't really try to control them, but I identify them. I haven't done much more than identify when how and why things start stirring within, but just recognizing them as being a thing- lol, it helps. Not sure this makes sense... and yes to yoga IP: Logged |
venus2tinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 49
From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 27, 2014 05:07 AM
Oh, but you know one other thing that is big? It's ok to say no to casual dating. If your heart isn't made for it, don't do it.IP: Logged |
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