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Topic: Pisces and bad behaviour
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AmelieRose81
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posted December 21, 2014 12:56 PM
  
At what point do you pull them up on it if at all?Same old Pisces, done it again. Back in touch and enthusiastic but last two times he's asked me out and then blown me out. He's texted a few times explaining he's ill and said so sorry etc. But I dont believe him this time. What has a better effect with Pisces men in general....put them on the spot or just ignore them. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted December 21, 2014 02:14 PM
Tough question.Stop caring, show no emotion. As a water sign if you care he will feel it and connect to you that way. Instead of ignoring him, this will make him try harder, just stop caring. Say yes to everything, then carry on about your life. When he returns and make plans treat his words as fantasy talk, not something concrete or to be taken seriously, indulge and embellish even. Once he hangs up or log off, forget all about it. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 21, 2014 02:20 PM
I had a Taurus with Pisces Moon and an Aries with Venus in Pisces behave the same way.If they act that way, they don't really want you. You're a back up plan. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 21, 2014 03:26 PM
I decided to give up on him a couple of weeks ago. Since then he's consistently got backin touch with me and kept initiating. It's as if he knew. Why did he start that when I gave up.He said he'll invite me for dinner once he is better. To which I reply what? IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted December 21, 2014 03:41 PM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
I decided to give up on him a couple of weeks ago. Since then he's consistently got backin touch with me and kept initiating. It's as if he knew. Why did he start that when I gave up.He said he'll invite me for dinner once he is better. To which I reply what?
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YellowGerbera
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posted December 21, 2014 03:42 PM
Aww..Yeah.. sounds like a backup plan.Do the same back to him. Say OK to dinner and ditch him.. LOL.. Jk. I would say Ok to dinner but prolly not care too much about it. If he does plan it, have fun! If he doesn't, then well.. you knew he has tendency to do this. IP: Logged |
wheresthemoon
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posted December 21, 2014 03:45 PM
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Originally posted by Nine:
Tough question.Stop caring, show no emotion. As a water sign if you care he will feel it and connect to you that way. Instead of ignoring him, this will make him try harder, just stop caring. Say yes to everything, then carry on about your life. When he returns and make plans treat his words as fantasy talk, not something concrete or to be taken seriously, indulge and embellish even. Once he hangs up or log off, forget all about it.
As bad as this sounds, it's kind of true. I dated an Aquarius/Pisces cusp once, and we loved to dream and fantasize about the future together. My mistake was that I took him seriously instead of taking his words with a grain of salt, which is how he meant them. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 21, 2014 03:48 PM
He has aqua moon and mercury.he's explained himself alot this time. Even texted again when I didnt reply to his text. IP: Logged |
HRH-FishAreFish
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From: Neptune next to MikeG & Pluto
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posted December 21, 2014 06:01 PM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
At what point do you pull them up on it if at all?Same old Pisces, done it again. Back in touch and enthusiastic but last two times he's asked me out and then blown me out. He's texted a few times explaining he's ill and said so sorry etc. But I dont believe him this time. What has a better effect with Pisces men in general....put them on the spot or just ignore them.
I think it is true that Pisces, in general, are kind of a sickly lot. Maybe you could try putting him on the spot by gushing over him and his ill health by "threatening" to bring him some Campbell's Chicken & Stars soup and apple juice/ginger ale, etc..?
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AmelieRose81
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posted December 21, 2014 07:44 PM
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Originally posted by HRH-FishAreFish:
I think it is true that Pisces, in general, are kind of a sickly lot. Maybe you could try putting him on the spot by gushing over him and his ill health by "threatening" to bring him some Campbell's Chicken & Stars soup and apple juice/ginger ale, etc..?
Lol.....he apparently has a cough but he'll be in bed for days he says. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted December 21, 2014 09:00 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
Nothing.
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Aries23Degrees
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posted December 21, 2014 10:33 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I had a Taurus with Pisces Moon and an Aries with Venus in Pisces behave the same way.If they act that way, they don't really want you. You're a back up plan.
My friend had a Pisces Venus/Aquarius Sun,Virgo Moon/Asc behave the same way. But I said that it was his Mars in Sag that is refusing to make any kinds of commitments I also suspected that he was using her as a "back up plan" etc. Good call IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 21, 2014 10:45 PM
The Taurus had Mars in Gemini (like me, am I flaky? OH NO!) The Aries had Mars in Gemini and again..was flaky. Hmm, just realized that... Ironically, the Aries has Sun trine Uranus and Venus square Saturn I think, so no wonder he completely avoided commitments. Except for a Leo he was with for 3 years before me. Ah, but such a magnetic and sparkling personality he was. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted December 22, 2014 12:21 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
The Taurus had Mars in Gemini (like me, am I flaky? OH NO!) The Aries had Mars in Gemini and again..was flaky. Hmm, just realized that... Ironically, the Aries has Sun trine Uranus and Venus square Saturn I think, so no wonder he completely avoided commitments. Except for a Leo he was with for 3 years before me. Ah, but such a magnetic and sparkling personality he was.
What was the Aries Moon sign? And what's your Moon sign? I once met someone; Sag Sun/Moon Pisces, Mars Libra. He was very lax about everything. Hated being rushed or making any kind of commitment. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 22, 2014 03:02 AM
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Originally posted by Nine:
Tough question.Stop caring, show no emotion. As a water sign if you care he will feel it and connect to you that way. Instead of ignoring him, this will make him try harder, just stop caring. Say yes to everything, then carry on about your life. When he returns and make plans treat his words as fantasy talk, not something concrete or to be taken seriously, indulge and embellish even. Once he hangs up or log off, forget all about it.
So just say, yeah ok then....get well soon. Or whatever, get well soon? IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted December 22, 2014 03:58 AM
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Originally posted by wheresthemoon:
As bad as this sounds, it's kind of true. I dated an Aquarius/Pisces cusp once, and we loved to dream and fantasize about the future together. My mistake was that I took him seriously instead of taking his words with a grain of salt, which is how he meant them.
As a 6 degree Pisces Sun, I can attest to this. I would blow the guy off, personally. I've been known to behave somewhat similarly when I was more interested in someone as a friend, but felt badly because I knew that they were interested in more romantic terms.
So then I would overcompensate by trying to "be nice" by showing interest that I didn't necessarily feel very strongly. Also, I've been known to have "backup plans", truth be told. At the time, I don't think I was even aware that that's what I was doing.  I also have an Aqua Mercury and Aries Venus, so I don't like to feel like the other person's interest is more than mine. That may also be just a Pisces thing in general, not liking to feel like the other person is more interested in them than vice versa. I would just forget about it (and him). Maybe politely distance yourself, make up excuses if you need to, whatever. That would be my advice as a Pisces, anyway.  IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 22, 2014 05:32 AM
We've already dated for a while last year.thing is I did decide to blow him off and he seemed to sense it. He's come back and done it again and again. IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted December 22, 2014 06:41 AM
Hmm...It sounds a lot like my experiences with Aquarius guys, honestly. It's probably the Pisces/Aqua influence that can tend to drift off, and then come back again just to make sure you're still there? I also used to have a real problem with making plans (with friends) that I knew I would probably not keep, simply because I was too preoccupied, lazy, tired, distracted, or whatever to want to follow through with our plans. So I would end up blowing a lot of people off. It's taken me a long time to figure out how to utter the words "That won't work for me, how about another time/place?" I still fall into that sometimes. I hope whatever the outcome is, it's something that you're happy with.  IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 22, 2014 09:10 AM
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Originally posted by Violets:
Hmm...It sounds a lot like my experiences with Aquarius guys, honestly. It's probably the Pisces/Aqua influence that can tend to drift off, and then come back again just to make sure you're still there? I also used to have a real problem with making plans (with friends) that I knew I would probably not keep, simply because I was too preoccupied, lazy, tired, distracted, or whatever to want to follow through with our plans. So I would end up blowing a lot of people off. It's taken me a long time to figure out how to utter the words "That won't work for me, how about another time/place?" I still fall into that sometimes. I hope whatever the outcome is, it's something that you're happy with.
I just wish he would recognise that. If he suggests plans that are no longer workable csn he just not tell me. I have to chase him and he makes up lies. Then he does it again.
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ail221
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posted December 22, 2014 10:02 AM
Forget him he's not worth your time.IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted December 22, 2014 12:11 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Forget him he's not worth your time.
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GypseeWind
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posted December 22, 2014 12:39 PM
I love pisces men, when they are good, they are great. But when they are bad their like trying to pin jello to a wall.
You have to make clear boundaries with them. They won't like it, they'll try to dissolve those boundaries with charm. But in the end if yyou stick to those boundaries, they will respect you for it. Every pisces man that I currently know has at one time or is now in a relationship with an earth heavy woman. I think this is bc those ladies don't mess around and put up with tons of crap. They lay down the rules and stick with them, and that makes pisces feel secure and grounded.IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 22, 2014 12:46 PM
I have a Gemini Venus though. So I am more tolerant of flighty behaviour. My patience has limits though and I am starting to show tougher boundaries to things I'm really not ok with. I have a Leo Mars and Aries Mercury so big on Fire too. He's mainly Pisces and Aqua placements. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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posted December 22, 2014 01:40 PM
That sounds like my ex. He was a pisces sun, aqua merc, leo mars and cap venus.
After we ended he had a long relationship with a virgo lady. They had 2 kids but he would never marry her. Then he met a capricorn lady on a plane trip and married her 2 weeks later! That lasted until she had him put in jail on false charges. Now he is engaged to a taurus lady.
Anyways, good luck hon! I can tell you aren't ready to quit him entirely, so I hope things work out for you. IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted December 22, 2014 02:26 PM
I have a moon and venus gemini with a veus/uranus aspect and flightly behavior after previously dating you is a no nk. Fine one time, or if the two of you never made any definitive decisions to consciously date but clearly that isn't the case. Obviously you want still want him in your life despite his bad behavior. Idk you can't make someone change if they don't want to.IP: Logged |
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