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lisalisa
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posted December 23, 2014 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've read that it's bad to start a new relationship when venus is retrograde, i've also read that it's only bad for new not when it's from the past.. Meaning ex boyfriends? If you start something 'new' with your ex during venus retrograde, is it sustainable or is it as bad as starting something new with a new person? Any insight welcome!! ^^

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posted December 23, 2014 11:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
From my experience, Venus Retrograde can bring you closure. It is possible that one or many of your exes re-surface asking for another chance, but the romance doesn't always last past the retrograde. Sometimes, it helps talking things through and understand why you two broke up. It's a good way to heal from past hurts and move on either separately or together.

Retrogrades are meant for us to revisit the past in order to understand what went wrong and how we can learn from these mistakes. It doesn't necessarily mean that this lovers reunion will last. It could be that all of the sudden, you realize you don't want to rekindle once the retrograde is over.

It could also help you guys start again with a new foundation to your relationship. I've yet to see this happen though. Retrogrades are usually momentary nostalgia in my opinion.

You tend to see things with rose tinted glasses because you're going down the memory lane. Better be careful.

One of my exes returned during a Venus Retrograde (2012). I had been pinning over him for about a year. I was excited when he came back but towards the end of the retrograde, I started reminiscing the reasons why I wasn't that into him. I broke up with him on the day Venus went direct. I was relieved because we finally had a proper closure. He moved on to find the love of his life and I was able to meet a soulmate of mine. It's therefore either a hit or miss. Don't put too much emphasis on retrogrades.

You still have some time though. The next Venus Retrograde is on July 25th 2015.

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posted December 23, 2014 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So it's not recommended to start something new with either a new person or ex? Cause it won't last?

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posted December 24, 2014 08:48 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have to support what MineAgain said. I speak from experience, but not about the Venus Rx.

I had quite a traumatic break up with my most recent ex in 2013. For the whole year, I was pinning after him. When our retrograde happened (I am referring to Mercury Retrograde: I am a Gemini, he is a Virgo), we spent daaaaaaaaays hashing out the complications of our past/lost relationship. If I am honest, it probably benefited me MORE. I was able to tell him all of the issues that I had and I was also able to ask him why he behaved in the ways that he did. Although we are still in contact now, and our future remains uncertain... the exchanges were (to me) the DEATH of our relationship as we had known it to be. I am no longer a slave to the feelings that I had; and I got some closure. I also vowed to myself to be more vocal when it came to him and to never allow him to do certain things.

I also met someone new during the recent Mercury Rx and for some reason, it just never manifested into anything. I felt there was no connection, and even though he still messages me from time to time... I am just not interested. Perhaps if he came when Mercury was direct, things could have been different. However, I do think that we just didn't hit it off then and we won't now.

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posted December 26, 2014 07:41 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"You may be familiar with the frustration of Mercury retrograde, when the world goes "haywire," 3-4 times a year. But Venus retrograde can also provide you with a special set of problems you may not know about. Venus only goes retrograde every 18 months (for 40-43 days), as it will from December 21, 2013 through January 31, 2014. This important event may have a huge effect on your life.

In your horoscope, the planet Venus rules beauty, art, social relationships, partnerships, romance, love, values, money, and financial security. Whenever a planet is retrograde it's not a favorable time for initiating activities in the area that a planet rules because your perception is off kilter. In the case of Venus retrograde, you should slow down and reassess what--and--who you value.

If you have plans to beautify yourself, make a change in your love life, or implement a financial investment: STOP and re-consider them. Read these seven tips before you to take any action in these areas.

1. This is not the time to get beautiful. Venus rules beauty and esthetics. During the retrograde there is a lack of clarity around your efforts to make yourself more beautiful. Your emotional state-of-mind causes you to be less objective, and make unwise decisions about how to enhance your attractiveness. Therefore, the retrograde period is not an ideal time to change one's appearance. So, don't begin any procedures or surgeries to enhance your beauty such as plastic surgery on the face, lip implants; or breast or liposuction. This is the wrong time to change your hairstyle, hair color, do a makeover or purchase a new wardrobe.

Wait until Venus goes direct to make any of these decisions. You'll have thoughtfully reflected, thoroughly research, and objectively arrived at the best way for you to become more physically attractive.

2. Avoid getting married or making wedding plans. Normally, you may be clear-headed and realistic about your relationship, its problems and limitations. But this is not the case during Venus retrograde because your perception is altered. You're not able to see the obvious, causing you to misread signals that would otherwise be red flags. (e.g. "I was sure he really wanted children right away. I didn't realize he was adamant about building his business first.")

Before you make wedding plans or run away to Las Vegas to get married, wait until Venus turns direct to get a more balanced perspective on whether your relationship really satisfies your needs and what you want in a marriage. You'll be able to more realistically assess if it will satisfy you in the long-term.

3. Don't start a new relationship or break-up from your current one. Venus rules love, relationships and partnerships of all kinds. The retrograde is not a time for "moving forward," new beginnings or changing the status quo. You're not operating from a practical place of objectivity about your needs. Your heart is plugged into love, romance and sensuality. You may be so attracted to someone that you cannot see how they can do any wrong. If you've just met someone, just enjoy them without feeling a need to tell all your relatives and friends, "this is the one." If you've been dating someone for a while, take a breath before you escalate your romantic commitment. If you've been in a serious relationship for some time, hold off a little longer to propose.

If you're unsure about a new or old relationship, avoid making any emotional based, hasty decisions to commit to it or end it during this period. Normally existing relationships aren't adversely affected by the retrograde (as long as you don't decide to get engaged or married). When Venus goes direct, you'll retain the love and romance that was there, but you'll have a greater sense of realism as to whether it's truly a fulfilling relationship for you.

4. Evaluate your relationship now. One of the problems you face during Venus retrograde is not being in touch with exactly what and who you value. The person you're dating now may appear more fabulous than they turn out to be. Consequently, starting a relationship during the retrograde, may cause you to look back and ask yourself, "What was I thinking?" It's easy to have a change of heart no matter how infatuated you were with this person during the retrograde period.

Use this time to get in touch with your own feelings about a relationship and whether it really satisfies your needs. If you've been in a long-term relationship, you'll find yourself becoming more aware of relationship problems. If you're in the early stages of a relationship, it's important to realize that whatever dissatisfaction you're experiencing will only get worse with time. Take stock of the basic differences between you and the other person, so that you can determine if you can live with them. Ask yourself if you can compromise or make an adjustment so that your relationship can work more cohesively. Relationships that have been especially challenging or problematic may come to an end during the retrograde.

Remember, your perceptions may be skewed at this time. So don't make any final evaluations about your relationship just yet! Wait until Venus goes direct, when you're less likely to make a decision from an emotional perspective.

5. Expect old relationships to return. Old friends and past love relationships will often re-enter your life during the Venus retrograde. The return of a former love may complicate a current relationship. It's as if a sense of romantic nostalgia and longing seep into your consciousness, bringing an old relationship back into your world.

Unfortunately, love may not be better the second time around. So, if an old flame comes back into your life, be warned that it may not work out in the long run. However, it's a good time to deal with any unfinished business such as a former partner that cheated on you, now returning to fess up to his/her infidelity. Perhaps, you may enjoy them one last time, or have a chance to finally complete your relationship and let go of it.

6. Do not initiate investments. The natural ruler of the 2nd House is Venus. Venus has dominion over your fiscal affairs and financial activities. So, when Venus is retrograde, be very cautious about making investments and spending money. You're perception is off, causing you to make financial decisions from an emotional place rather than a more objective one.

Often investments are inflated or over-valued at this time and will eventually lose their value when Venus goes direct. To make matters worse, Venus retrograde often produces an unpredictable environment when financial markets unexpectedly change directions, causing major reversals. This makes it especially tricky to prudently invest.

Make good use of this period by reviewing all your investments, and re-thinking all your financial plans for your future.

7. Be careful of buying things, especially luxury items. It's not a good time to purchase luxury items because you're so enamored of beauty that you become extravagant. You'll totally forget about that budget you planned to live by. Avoid buying any big-ticket items such as a house, car or boat because you're likely to over-spend and find that your purchase backfires on you in some way. Either they become money pits or such headaches that you'll regret your purchase. (Remember the old adage: "The two best days in the life of a boat owner are the day he bought his boat and the day he sold it.")

You'll become unexplainably attracted to beauty and luxury. Even if you don't know the difference between Van Gough and Van Halen, your aesthetic sense is on steroids. So, whatever you do--don't buy art. You'll find it impossible to objectively judge the value or price of what you're buying. Once Venus goes direct, you run the risk of discovering that the art that seemed so appealing six weeks ago--isn't. This advice goes for any beautiful clothes you're tempted to buy. What looks gorgeous during Venus retrograde can turn into the ugliest outfit you ever bought. Your lack of practicality causes you to purchase items that you'll end up not liking (and that you can't return). If you ignore this advice prepare to open and close your closet repeatedly as you slap your head and ask, "What was I thinking when I bought that?"

To make the most of this period, have a garage sale! Unload all the items: clothes, gadgets, artifacts, and art you've purchased during previous Venus retrogrades--that normally no one on the planet would want to buy except when Venus is retrograde.

Keep these seven tips in mind as you make plans for your future. Be willing to wait the 43 days until Venus retrograde is over to help insure that your decisions are successful in the important matters of your beauty, love life and finances."
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/larry-schwimmer/venus-retrograde-7-mistak_b_4472611.html

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lisalisa
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posted December 26, 2014 01:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a question specifically for my situation.
My 'ex' and i are both venus ruled, me being libra, him being taurus.
If he would come back during venus rx (i know now that i wouldn't initiate during venus rx) what should i do if i truly want him to give me another chance? Should i stall it until venus go direct again? Please help!
The 'break up' we had was mainly because of me, if you look at what happened it's very silly and easy to forgive, him being taurus and a bit stubborn, i'm still hoping he'll give me another chance. And he knows.

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posted December 26, 2014 01:36 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My response would be (especially after being experiencing the Mercury Rx) hash out any old issues you have during this time, but don't make the commitment to be together until Venus goes DIRECT.

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posted December 26, 2014 01:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ikja:
My response would be (especially after being experiencing the Mercury Rx) hash out any old issues you have during this time, but don't make the commitment to be together until Venus goes DIRECT.

Thank you!

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posted December 26, 2014 01:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ikja:
My response would be (especially after being experiencing the Mercury Rx) hash out any old issues you have during this time, but don't make the commitment to be together until Venus goes DIRECT.

Making an commitment to meet after venus turns direct in september, could this be seen as making a commitment to be together? I really don't want to screw this up since i have a feeling he'll come back during venus retrograde , venus will be transitting his 5th house.. He is heavily venus influenced. He also got back together with his ex briefly during venus rx '13 and they ended their relationship for good during rx or right after..

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posted December 26, 2014 02:24 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
During my Mercury Rx, my ex and I made an agreement to be friends. This changed MULTIPLE times during the retrograde period. I don't know enough about he Venus Rx, but if it will affect you two like our Mercury Rx affected us... You must be prepared for those plans not to materialise (just in case). Especially if you spend a majority of the period hashing out old wounds.

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posted December 26, 2014 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ikja:
During my Mercury Rx, my ex and I made an agreement to be friends. This changed MULTIPLE times during the retrograde period. I don't know enough about he Venus Rx, but if it will affect you two like our Mercury Rx affected us... You must be prepared for those plans not to materialise (just in case). Especially if you spend a majority of the period hashing out old wounds.

We don't have alot of old wounds.. It would be a second chance if he does indeed come back. Do you think there is or isnt a way to navigate succesfully through venus rx? If he initiate during rx

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ikja
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posted December 26, 2014 04:34 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
We don't have alot of old wounds.. It would be a second chance if he does indeed come back. Do you think there is or isnt a way to navigate succesfully through venus rx? If he initiate during rx

I think the question you want to know is extremely specific, and I don't think anyone can give you a definitive answer on how a reconciliation will go.
However, a number of the posts in this thread have provided insight into what you may experience during Venus Rx.

You now need to use the knowledge that you have provided with and make the best decisions for you in the moment. That's all you can really do.

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posted December 26, 2014 05:35 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At this point, it all depends on individual experience.

I've actually had an on-off relationship with an ex in which we would detach and reattach, so on and so forth for almost 3 years. It seemed at that point not even a formidable and disastrous earthquake that shook beneath us would come to separate us. Lo and behold, our final "reconciliation" occurred during Venus Rx and we actually broke up for good and parted ways for a whole year (no communication whatsoever). We revived our friendship just a few days ago after he came out gay, so... No going back there LOL.

But that was my experience with Venus Rx. It seemed strong enough to separate the two of us when no one could have ever seen it coming in a million years...

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