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lisalisa
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posted January 07, 2015 06:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm dating this taurus guy, and he's still 'close' friends with his ex.. I feel very weird about this, what could be the reason behind him wanting to stay friends with her? Do taurus stay friends if they still have feelings for their ex? Or can they only be friends if there are no feelings anymore? Aren't taurus nostalic and difficulty moving on? Does someone undersrand this?

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posted January 07, 2015 06:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Taurus people have a hard time "letting go" of things/people. They have a hard time dealing with change. They're a fixed sign after all.

I think they remain friends with their exes because of their inability to shut the door so to speak. Unlike Scorpios, they can't cut someone off and never look back.

I have a Taurus ex who remained friends with his exes. I cut him off sharp and he still managed to contact me two years later to "remain friends" because I was the only one of his exes who wouldn't accept his friendship. I was the one who "broke up" with him and although I felt bad for hurting his feelings, I don't remain friends with my exes.

I have a Pisces ex who also can't let go of his exes, he's still friends with them (except me). He has an Aqua Venus and a Cancer Moon. Fixed placements make it hard to fully let go of someone you once had feeings for.

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posted January 07, 2015 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Taurus people have a hard time "letting go" of things/people. They have a hard time dealing with change. They're a fixed sign after all.

I think they remain friends with their exes because of their inability to shut the door so to speak. Unlike Scorpios, they can't cut someone off and never look back.

I have a Taurus ex who remained friends with his exes. I cut him off sharp and he still managed to contact me two years later to "remain friends" because I was the only one of his exes who wouldn't accept his friendship. I was the one who "broke up" with him and although I felt bad for hurting his feelings, I don't remain friends with my exes.

I have a Pisces ex who also can't let go of his exes, he's still friends with them (except me). He has an Aqua Venus and a Cancer Moon. Fixed placements make it hard to fully let go of someone you once had feeings for.


Is it for them possible to fall in love with their exes again? Or when they say they are friends, they mean they are only friends? I feel very weird about it, eventhough he said their relationship was unhealthy and he was unhappy, they were in love once right.. Could that come back?

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posted January 07, 2015 06:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think they never forget about the love they once had for someone and may come back. However, if you hurt them deeply, they'll stick to their decision. They're a fixed sign, so once they make a decision, there's no going back.

They usually remain friends with they exes and don't initiate anything. They're not the type to keep people around as "options". They can be friends with you but have zero "romantic" feelings for you. Usually, if they still like/love you, they'll let you know. They're pretty sraight forward. If they don't tell you, then the feelings may be gone.

However, as a fixed sign (Scorpio), I know that once I lose the feelings I had, I can't go back. The feelings never came back again. The feelings only "resurface" if they still "love" you (you'll know).

The fact that they're friends with you is irrelevant. Watch their actions.

You also have to take into consideration their Venus and Moon which have a strong impact on their emotions.

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posted January 07, 2015 06:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I think they never forget about the love they once had for someone and may come back. However, if you hurt them deeply, they'll stick to their decision. They're a fixed sign, so once they make a decision, there's no going back.

They usually remain friends with they exes and don't initiate anything. They're not the type to keep people around as "options". They can be friends with you but have zero "romantic" feelings for you. Usually, if they still like/love you, they'll let you know. They're pretty sraight forward. If they don't tell you, then the feelings may be gone.

However, as a fixed sign (Scorpio), I know that once I lose the feelings I had, I can't go back. The feelings never came back again. The feelings only "resurface" if they still "love" you (you'll know).

The fact that they're friends with you is irrelevant. Watch their actions.

You also have to take into consideration their Venus and Moon which have a strong impact on their emotions.


Im not his ex, im dating him, but he's friends with his ex and i feel weird about it.
His venus is in taurus and his moon in aquarius

From what i understand is they had a kind of platonic relationship and he was very unhappy with the relationship cause it was unhealthy to him.. Im the reason he broke up with her, they tried again to be together for a few weeks during venus rx, i didn't see him at that time for a few months, he was unsure because i was holding back and he didn't know if it will go somewhere between us, then i started seeing him again and he said he was still in love with me, even more than before and he told me this.. I was the reason their already "unhealthy" relationship ended, now they are 'friends' again.. Im not sure what to think of it..

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posted January 07, 2015 07:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do taurus show off their girlfriend to others?

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posted January 07, 2015 10:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Could it be hes friends with her because he wants her?

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posted January 07, 2015 10:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for venus2tinkerbell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ugh. The only Taurus sun I ever dated was probably sleeping with his ex while we were together. Then when we broke up and he was seeing someone else, he tried to keep things going with me.

I have Taurus Moon. I don't know if that is the reason I can easily slip back into sexual relationships with my exes. I know I can't be in a committed relationship with my exes, but if the sex was good, it's much easier to have a fling with an ex than a stranger. In fact, that might be the only time I sleep with someone with whom I know things aren't gong anywhere long term. This isn't a habit of mine. I just know this about myself. That is why I stay away from my exes.

About your man, what it comes down to is trust. Can you trust him?

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posted January 07, 2015 10:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for venus2tinkerbell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
Do taurus show off their girlfriend to others?

I don't know if this is a Taurus trait, but again, that same Taurus Sun man loved to show me off. I too have enjoyed showing off my gorgeous "trophies".

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posted January 07, 2015 11:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
Ugh. The only Taurus sun I ever dated was probably sleeping with his ex while we were together. Then when we broke up and he was seeing someone else, he tried to keep things going with me.

I have Taurus Moon. I don't know if that is the reason I can easily slip back into sexual relationships with my exes. I know I can't be in a committed relationship with my exes, but if the sex was good, it's much easier to have a fling with an ex than a stranger. In fact, that might be the only time I sleep with someone with whom I know things aren't gong anywhere long term. This isn't a habit of mine. I just know this about myself. That is why I stay away from my exes.

About your man, what it comes down to is trust. Can you trust him?


From what i've heard there wasnt alot if sex between them, very platonic, that why he called it 'unhealthy' relationship and he was unhappy..

I do think i can trust him, im a little jealous (scorpio rising and venus in scorpio)

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posted January 07, 2015 11:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
I don't know if this is a Taurus trait, but again, that same Taurus Sun man loved to show me off. I too have enjoyed showing off my gorgeous "trophies".

Well... He's showing me off constantly, yet with his ex he kept her kind of secret like they weren't a couple when they were together, never took a photo of them together even.. There are no pics of them together lol, what is that all about

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posted January 08, 2015 05:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why would keep taurus his girlfriend secret?

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posted January 08, 2015 07:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for florence     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
I'm dating this taurua guy, and he's still 'close' friends with his ex.. I feel very weird about this, what could be the reason behind him wanting to stay friends with her? Do taurus stay friends if they still have feelings for their ex? Or can they only be friends if there are no feelings anymore? Aren't taurus nostalic and difficulty moving on? Does someone undersrand this?

I think it's a kind of stability. When I feel neglected in a relationship, I take a strange solace in something which caused deep feelings but is now less painful. The good bits without the churned up emotions. It's like a prop.

I personally have never stayed friends with someone I hAd feelings for as the exit of the relationship is never smooth - it's more my mind enters those memories as a safety mechanism. But I've noticed Taurus males do it quite well - I think they divest of feelings better and so it can be a comfort and sometimes there's an attraction still but more an ego boosting one than a deep one.

What house is his sun in?

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posted January 08, 2015 07:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for florence     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
Well... He's showing me off constantly, yet with his ex he kept her kind of secret like they weren't a couple when they were together, never took a photo of them together even.. There are no pics of them together lol, what is that all about

I don't think it means anything in and of itself. I've few photos of those who meant something and have wanted to show off those who meant something. And vv in both cases.

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posted January 09, 2015 12:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I think it's a kind of stability. When I feel neglected in a relationship, I take a strange solace in something which caused deep feelings but is now less painful. The good bits without the churned up emotions. It's like a prop.

I personally have never stayed friends with someone I hAd feelings for as the exit of the relationship is never smooth - it's more my mind enters those memories as a safety mechanism. But I've noticed Taurus males do it quite well - I think they divest of feelings better and so it can be a comfort and sometimes there's an attraction still but more an ego boosting one than a deep one.

What house is his sun in?


His sun is in his 12th house..

right before they broke up he referred to 'the woman i am in a relationship with' lol like.. Not girlfriend or anything

Also his moon is in aquarius, i've read that they sometimes prefer friendship/relationships above intimate ones ?

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posted January 09, 2015 01:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
I'm dating this taurua guy, and he's still 'close' friends with his ex.. I feel very weird about this, what could be the reason behind him wanting to stay friends with her? Do taurus stay friends if they still have feelings for their ex? Or can they only be friends if there are no feelings anymore? Aren't taurus nostalic and difficulty moving on? Does someone undersrand this?

By "friends", do you mean that they call each other and hang out most of the time?

Because I wouldn't be down with that.I am a little possessive and jealous.It wouldn't fly with me

But if say they are in contact "once in a blue moon", then I think that is better.People should know boundaries.

I know better than to act as though my ex's are not involved with anyone.

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posted January 09, 2015 06:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for florence     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
His sun is in his 12th house..

right before they broke up he referred to 'the woman i am in a relationship with' lol like.. Not girlfriend or anything

Also his moon is in aquarius, i've read that they sometimes prefer friendship/relationships above intimate ones ?


I wondered as I have 6th house sun but as it's conjunct my DC a lot of my sense of self is experienced through others and losing them can be a very disorientating to my identity.

I wonder if a 12 house feels some form of dispersed self but I don't really know much about 12th house

Weird - I avoided using any specific terms like boyfriend. Maybe in that case, from what you said about it being secretive, it just didn't seem appropriate to the relationship.

Without knowing much about aqua moons, they probably can experience both romantic more easily with friends but on the plus side maybe go back to friends with those they were romantically involved in?

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posted January 09, 2015 06:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Haplesschild*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Taurus sun, Scorpio moon ex has never gone more than a month without getting in touch. I don't think he's over me yet.

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posted January 09, 2015 10:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Abc333     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was stalking this thread a few nights ago while I was at my SO's place. He happens to be a Taurus so I asked him why he stays friends with his exes after telling him about this thread. He jokingly said "because I'm too lazy to end things badly, that requires too much work". His real response to it was "it seemed a shame to throw a close friendship away that was built over the years just because a relationship didn't work out".

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posted January 09, 2015 11:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lisalisa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Abc333:
I was stalking this thread a few nights ago while I was at my SO's place. He happens to be a Taurus so I asked him why he stays friends with his exes after telling him about this thread. He jokingly said "because I'm too lazy to end things badly, that requires too much work". His real response to it was "it seemed a shame to throw a close friendship away that was built over the years just because a relationship didn't work out".

Very interesting...

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posted January 09, 2015 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Abc333     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
Very interesting...

He still cares about his exes that he is in contact with but he is not sexually or romantically attracted to them any longer. Not only that, but both of his exes that he is still friends with both have a lot of issues that he has mentioned he would not like to deal with again. He was also unhappy in those relationships.

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posted January 09, 2015 01:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for babybull82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
I'm dating this taurus guy, and he's still 'close' friends with his ex.. I feel very weird about this, what could be the reason behind him wanting to stay friends with her? Do taurus stay friends if they still have feelings for their ex? Or can they only be friends if there are no feelings anymore? Aren't taurus nostalic and difficulty moving on? Does someone undersrand this?

I'll speak on myself, I usually become friends with exes as a means to move on if that makes sense. It's like they say we have a hard time letting go even if there are no feelings. So the happy medium is to become friends which kills two birds: I still have them in my life (unless they sucked than no thank you) then second it's more real to me that it's over if they start dating other people and so do I. I mean you also have to take into account the Venus sign as well. Mine being in Pisces and aspecting Uranus, once my feelings are GONE it's a wrap. I may care about you but the romance is dead. But if we vibe well then I stay friends. I also have Aquarius on the cusp of the 7th too and they are all about being friendly friends with people lol

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