|
Author
|
Topic: Being saturn
|
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 1492
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted January 08, 2015 11:38 AM
  
...IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 1492
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted January 08, 2015 11:39 AM
IP: Logged |
Lonake
Knowflake Posts: 9947
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
|
posted January 08, 2015 02:15 PM
This is way bigger than Saturn in synastry.
Saturn's the least of your problems.IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 1492
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted January 08, 2015 02:40 PM
IP: Logged |
Lonake
Knowflake Posts: 9947
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
|
posted January 08, 2015 02:51 PM
You misunderstood.This is beyond astrology IMO. This is basic incompatibility. If he doesn't try as you say then why pick up for him, if you're indeed Saturn in the equation. It sounds something like, a parent who has an adult child living in their home, who cleans up after them, and then wonders when the heck the kid will start getting responsible in the way the parent wants, The answer is, the adult child may never reach that point.
But the parent shouldn't be there to pick up after someone who's capable enough to do that for themselves. Eta ^ IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 1492
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted January 08, 2015 05:05 PM
IP: Logged |
theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 2625
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
|
posted January 08, 2015 06:18 PM
Even Synastry requires compatible maturity... The chart is not the be all end allIP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 7279
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
|
posted January 08, 2015 07:01 PM
I'm a Saturn dominant and have allowed 2 guys to live with me whom I then carried. One claimed his mom held him back and being naive I assumed he was telling the truth and allowed him to live with me thinking he'd get a job (or do something meaningful with his life) but all he did was turn me into his mother who cooked for him, cleaned for him, and brought the money home when I was still struggling. He played video games and was an entitled jerk and sounds a lot like your guy.My Saturn came out and I told him to shape up or get out. He then took himself hostage saying he would kill himself and that caused me to back off for a little while but when I realized I was FANTASIZING that I'd come home to find he'd really killed himself I knew I couldn't take it anymore and got some very big guys I knew to bodily throw him out with his things and make it clear he was to have nothing more to do with me. That's Saturn for you. (He called his mother to get him and his things and months later when I moved he still hadn't killed himself, but was complaining about his mother as well as me, but then I knew to feel sorry for his mom rather than for him.) I swore I'd never do that again but one guy I knew well and felt terrible for him when he was losing his place over some bad luck and trying to do the right thing...he was nice, thoughtful, helped with chores, did errands, and made me laugh and certainly didn't give me a hard time. My Saturn gave him a pass to be a freeloader in our society's terms because he wasn't one, he just didn't have a regular job. IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 1492
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted January 09, 2015 10:18 AM
IP: Logged |
LucieLemonade
Knowflake Posts: 1587
From:
Registered: Sep 2013
|
posted January 09, 2015 12:41 PM
I've been "Saturn" twice. Once was a DW so we helped each other. He helped me stop being a party girl and I helped him get a career. This time I'm Saturn again and even though he should be the "grown up" and at first glance he seems much more "grown up" than me, in fact, I find that I have to stop him from adding ridiculous complications to his already complicated life! He just makes bad decisions based on impulse and "I want it all and I want it now" thinking. It's not as serious as your situation. But I can certainly feel my Saturn showing!  I hate to meddle in other people's relationships.... However, from what you write, I think you should really take a cold hard look at what's going on and decide if this is really really what you want for the future. Being Saturn isn't always awful. We do need to help each other "grow up" sometimes. But you can't carry someone else. They need to stand alone first. IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
