posted January 21, 2015 10:30 PM            

:-\

It's a hell of a placement. I've read many times over that Rx lessens the effect of the combust planet, but it's still very tough.

Sometimes I feel like my Leo Moon, Aries Venus, and Capricorn Mars are suffocating and dying for love. :-( My guy is full of so much love, but has a VERY difficult time showing me physically/and telling me verbally. When he's drunk... He's like a breaking dam. It creates these highs and lows of expressive love. I feel love-starved sometimes...

We make do. I just have to tell him a lot, "I need you to love on me." I'm a very demonstrative lover. It's my love style. It's hard when you don't get it back in kind.

posted January 22, 2015 12:53 PM            

We feel as much love as others, but may not be as showy as, say Leo Venus is. It's a non-verbal placement. Some people require words of affection, probably for reassurance, others just feel it.

@lvASTRO, Venus/Sun in Scorpio are not very into displaying their affection too much anyway, ime. I guess, it makes it even more hard for him. Also, your Venuses are quincunx by sign, if not by aspect.

@babybull,
again, Venus in Scorpio. It's a very loving and deep placement, but not exactly verbal or showy. Perhaps, there is something else in your synatry that makes your interactions "awkward and tense".

Here is part from 1 very good article, I found online. It really fits me and how I feel:

"When Venus is retrograde in the natal chart itself, the feeling nature is deep. Socializing is taken seriously, and rarely lightly. They can be somewhat shy in youth, as there can be an awkwardness felt concerning small talk and social graces, and an aversion for superficialities. Love is extremely important to a person with a retrograde Venus, but they may not be explicit about it enough for others to know just how deeply they can love. There is always more to this person than meets the eye. Their love life (and sometimes financial life) can be hidden in some manner."

First time I became very open about my feelings was with my husband. I feel very relaxed with him, and our interraction and affection is very easy. Now, it could be the fact, that his 8th House Mars is conjunct my 12th House Retro Venus. I think, he digs out my Venusian traits and makes me comfortable in expressing them.

You should give your guys a chance. They do care about you, but maybe not that comfortable in completely unwraping their heart yet.

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Other thing Venus Retro affects is my taste in decoration, style, art... I really like things, that may not be appealing to most people.

posted January 22, 2015 07:50 PM            

It's been RX in Gemini most of my young life. Growing up I felt very disconnected to love, didn't understand it, didn't think about it or care about it. Didn't understand people who were emotional or cried...thought it was a sign of weakness.

posted January 26, 2015 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by ueharaa:
Those threads and articles everywhere on the web that keep stating that retrograde venus are cold, bad at love, emotionally distant, borderline socially awkward and a kind of an hermit that can't even fake being social definitely bother me.
I don't even want to go into a full explanation of just how wrong they are and how it is really, really cheap astrology to say such as this definitely gets on my nerves.
It's as if one was saying that retro mercury people are prone to learning disability and have trouble expressing themselves..... (and it sounds absolutely stupid to make such a general statement)

But when I'll calm down, I'll probably come back to this thread and try to explain how I think retro venus works and why it is so misunderstood.

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Aw, I can relate to having horribly misunderstood, stereotyped astrological placements. Virgo and Scorpio/Pluto energy, anyone? And I've read many articles that prompt massive eye rolls from me, too, and that are just really cliched.

I don't have Venus retrograde. But from observing those who do, I think it just operates in the sense of having a deeply internalized image of relating to others that doesn't always match up to what's happening on the outside. Because of this, they might be constantly disappointed in themselves and/or others for not living up to that Venus ideal, which might make their social/romantic interactions a bit rigid or strained. I don't think it gives someone the inability to love or be affectionate. I just think that the way a person loves with Venus retrograde isn't as easily flowing and unself-conscious as a direct Venus.

It can definitely depend on the signs, houses, and aspects, of course. I have known Venus retrograde folks who can be quite awkward socially. Not cripplingly, embarrassingly so. But, I still feel it. My dad has an Aries Venus retrograde, in the 10th square Saturn and trine Uranus, no less. I do feel that he's deeply self-conscious, most of the time (but I think that can also be the square from Saturn). It's not to the degree of being socially crippled. He can socialize fairly well and even show affection easily (Cancer Rising). But, I mean self-consciousness in the sense of him constantly watching himself and worrying and thinking about measuring up to the internal Venus image of himself in his head. That can make his behavior noticeably strained and forced, at times, and can cause him to not know how to ease into social situations without trying too hard and just letting go.

Let me know if any of that is accurate or not, Venus retrograde folks. That's basically all just my theory on it, as I don't actually have this influence. So, I'm actually very curious about it.